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To ask what is the most sneakiest, underhanded thing you have ever done and why?

199 replies

Bellatrixurstrange · 07/03/2016 22:14

I threw a load of DD4 and DD9's toys away earlier in the month as they have faaaaar too much stuff and I was de-cluttering.After swimming, DD9 asked where X, y and z toy were and I said I had no idea. I do. At the charity shop. Oops. Feeling guilty now. Has anyone else ever been sneaky or told a white lie or been underhanded and then felt abit shit afterwards?

OP posts:
Lilyargin · 09/03/2016 07:49

The word is underhand, not underhanded.

TheMonkeyMummy · 09/03/2016 07:54

I was once pressurised into going on a date with a colleague who I was not interested in romantically. I met him for dinner on a weekday night after I had been Christmas shopping. As the restaurant was quiet, they seated us with two other gentlemen. (It was a Japanese one where the chefs cooked infront of you).
I really hit it off with one of the other guys and at the end of my meal, asked my date colleague to take my shopping home so I could go clubbing with the other guy.

And he did! 😳

It was ceremoniously left on my desk the next morning at work and he didn't speak to me again for months.

It was a great night though, so I don't feel too guilty.

KingJoffreyLikesJaffaCakes · 09/03/2016 08:23

We were going to rent a house through a letting agent. Agent was proper snooty, looking down on us, huffing and puffing, generally really rude.

All of the paperwork went through. Took weeks. All of the time she was still being bloody rude.

A private let came up near by. Much nicer. Landlord was lovely. Signed the papers and got the keys.

On the day we were supposed to pay first month's rent and deposit for the rude place I called up and told them their attitude stunk and I didn't fancy dealing with them. Told them I'd found somewhere else.

I lost about £200 in various 'fees' but it was worth it. The house we didn't move into sat empty for months. Must've cost them a fortune in missed rent.

ohmywhatamisaying · 09/03/2016 08:52

The word is underhand, not underhanded.

Thanks Lily - I spent ages reading the OP trying to work out what the hell Belletrix was going on about! Thanks so much for clearing it up.

ohmywhatamisaying · 09/03/2016 08:54

I once stuck pins in the eyes of all my sister's boyzone/NKOTB/boyband posters because she was being a cow. The sound of her scream when she discovered them still haunts me to this day.

angielou123 · 09/03/2016 09:14

I told my partner of 5 yrs (at the time) who i was in a very bad relationship with, that my mum was having a new kitchen fitted so she needed to stay at my house for 2 days. This was untrue. While he was out, I packed up my entire 4 bedroom house, along with my 3 cats and 1 dog and 3 (at the time) kids, and moved towns!! It took him 2 weeks to find us, but he got the shock of his life. Now we live seperate and he treats me better. I said 'Next time, you won't find me'

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 09/03/2016 09:19

ohmy - tut! Grin

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 09/03/2016 09:28

When I was in primary school, in assembly, I was sitting on the floor behind an older girl I didn't like. (I can't remember why I didn't like her)

She had really long hair worn loose, almost touching the floor at the back. I spent the whole assembly tying knots in her hair Blush

feellikeahugefailure · 09/03/2016 09:35

I've gone back to a house I used to live in and put a brick through the neighbours car who made my life a misery. It was his pride and joy.

I don't regret it for a second. If I hadn't of moved away I would of gone back every 5 years and done the same.

Angelika321 · 09/03/2016 09:39

Many years ago I was with someone who turned out to be a cheating knob.

I had my suspicions about this and I hatched a plan to get into his email to check. I didn't know the password, but this was back in the day when you could input the answer to a security question to get a password reminder.

His security question was his mum's maiden name. So when we were next out with a group I engineered the conversation so he unwittingly revealed the name.

Once I had the information I logged in and found my suspicions to be well founded, I'm talking about at least half a dozen OW. I stewed on it for a while not saying anything, then I set up a fake email account along the lines of cheaterz@hotmail.

I complied all the messages he'd sent to the various liaisons into one message and sent it to all the women including myself.

The fallout was spectacular and he never suspected it was me.

foxychox · 09/03/2016 09:41

A million years ago when my BF broke up with me I engineered an overnight visit to his mum's house (she was really nice so feel a bit mean about it), crept into his bedroom and dumped a whole bottle of Chanel Coco over the mattress. I remade the bed and crept out. Its a pretty distinctive fragrance (that he had bought me) so hopefully it gave him sweet dreams for years to come - not!

Twinmama32 · 09/03/2016 10:20

When I was about 8 my mum kept buying me hideous Clark shoes, the sensible type, for school, I wanted patent Mary Janes and each time I was due a new pair I lived in hope. Sadly everytime it was the ugly pair so I cut the buckles off the school toilets and pretended they fell off! 😳 Now having two children of my own to clothe I feel pretty bad about this! I only admitted it recently and she hadn't a clue...

palazzopantaloons · 09/03/2016 10:54

for the pedants out there, you can use either word (perhaps the poster isn't originally from the UK, so nyaahh nyaah):

dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/underhand

palazzopantaloons · 09/03/2016 11:02

I once slept w/ an ex ex ex boyfriend a few months before I married my DH. I felt we had unfinished business between us (obvs he did too), and had to get it out of my system. It was rubbish; what a lousy lay it was (thank goodness). I never did anything remotely like that again, and DH and I have been married now for almost 15 years.

00100001 · 09/03/2016 11:09

The problem with pedants lily is you missed another one, so, nyer

00100001 · 09/03/2016 11:10

palazza does your DH know?

palazzopantaloons · 09/03/2016 11:18

00100001 No, he doesn't know, and I hope he never finds out. I do feel guilty about it.

MerricatsHouse · 09/03/2016 11:20

When I was about 17 and still in school, a friend of my best friend had a massive crush on a teacher. The other girl didn't really know me and mobile phones weren't as common as they are now so my best friend gave me her number so we could wind her up (she didn't know my number obvs). I don't know which one of us came up with it or whether it was a joint thing but I started texting her pretending to be this teacher she was so in love with saying all kinds of terrible stuff (nothing explicit or anything), about wanting to talk to her in school but not being able to and wanting to leave his wife etc. Then she would talk to my best friend about how he was messaging her and how happy she was but how they had to keep things secret and never refer to it in school. Did this for a few weeks and then stopped, can't remember why but not because we got caught out, just bored with it probably.

I feel TERRIBLE about this now and can't even imagine how I had the balls to get involved because it would have been so easy to identify who was doing it, but the girl was so head over heels she never questioned it. Also I don' t know why my best friend wanted to do this as she was quite close with the girl and had been for a number of years. Nothing ever came of it but when I think of the potential for disaster now it's just awful Blush

heron98 · 09/03/2016 11:40

EX DP and I had been broken up for a few months. We still saw each other around as we had the same group of friends. I had started seeing someone else (current DP) and wanted to keep it on the down low, not wanting my ex to find out because things were still quite messy.

There was a big social event coming up and I knew that they would both plan to go. So I bought some train tickets to London, pretended to new boyfriend that I had got them cheap from someone at work, knowing that he'd probably take them as he often needs to go down for work. And he did.

So he never went to the event.

Of course it was only postponing the inevitable as naturally our relationship was made common knowledge eventually. But I just couldn't handle the fall out at that time.

HidingUnderARock · 09/03/2016 11:42

Rainbunny my DH has worked with that same man. I suppose hundreds of people have. In fact I am fairly sure he blagged a helicopter or company plane or something for commuting. And yes that was as jaw-droppingly wtf at the time as it sounds.

It is amazing how gullible some execs can be when they see what they think they want. He lasted about 18 months iirc.

Personally I can't remember ever doing anything sneaky. Sometimes I wish I had or could, but the guilt would kill me faster than the amassed toys and doormat status do.

heron98 · 09/03/2016 11:48

My old job was terrible. I had absolutely NO WORK to do and I was so bored I felt monumentally depressed all day.

I started inventing meetings in my diary and then just going home for a few hours, or out for a cycle in the middle of the day.

Four years later (!) I got rumbled. They still didn't fire me. I think that was their way of punishing me.

lurked101 · 09/03/2016 12:01

I shagged my best friends older brother when sleeping over at her house when we were 18.

We came back from the pub and she was drunker than me and went to sleep. I chatted to her brother and we ended up doing it on the sofa. She still doesn't know to this day.

WhatHo · 09/03/2016 12:10

I stole a snuff box from a bishop.

No, that's not a euphemism.

seastargirl · 09/03/2016 13:23

When moving my sister out of her house after being dumped on Valentine's day we decided to mess about with things in their house, nothing too obvious. We nail filed all his guitar strings so that they'd all break. We scored the cling film with a knife so he'd only get little bits off it. Super glued the zip on his favourite trousers, scratched the memory card thing on his games console, poured baby oil in to his window cleaner, put chili oil into his bottle of lube that we found with his porn collection and made small holes in the soles of all of his shoes.

It amused my sister on what was a really hard day and I hope made his life a little unpleasant for a few months!

Janecc · 09/03/2016 13:23

When I was at university years ago, I met my ex boyfriend, who came over from Greece to study. His housemate decided to get a dog (Deano) and never look after him. So I ended up staying at his place most of the time and looked after Deano. Then I had a year in France as part of my degree course and my Greek boyfriend at the time looked after Deano. When I saw my ex at the end of my time abroad, I was really thinking about ending the relationship. He was going back to Greece for a year as part of his degree course and the relationship just wasn't strong enough - we were only 21. When he went back to Greece, I got Deano. Shortly after, I finally plucked up the courage to finish with him. I did feel really awful for doing it - at the time, it seemed almost like custody of a child. When I decided to end the relationship, I contacted the French guy I wanted to be with (we had had a drunken snog but I declined further advances because I didn't want to start something when I was a. With another guy and b. at the end of the year abroad). Anyway fast forward, the French guy came to England for my final year of uni and we ended up getting married. My beloved Deano (dog) died years ago, this all happened in the early 90's. Deano really needed me because he had been maltreated by his previous owners and he and I belonged together. He was my shadow, my baby and I could never have given him up. I didn't set out to be underhanded but if I am really honest, I knew the relationship wouldn't last so I did ensure I got the dog. I felt so sorry for my ex. I bumped into him 18 months later and tried to say sorry but he just walked off - I know I really hurt him. I hope he is happy now.