to start a thread for all the pissed off Mother's Day influx?

[PaulAnkaTheDog]

Just that really. It could get quite comical really: Who got the worst gift?! It could also stop the usual situation of umpteen threads bitching about the lack of diamonds flowers etc.

One thread to rule them all...

i shouldnt complain as I was spoilt by my kids (with help from DH) and I have a wonderful DM and DMIL. But my DM is ill and I've spent today in tears because it I always worry it might be her last. The thought of her not being around is absolutely heartbreaking and I just can't seem to snap out of it today. I just want to give her a huge hug and I can't because we live far away.

Mother's Day came early for me yesterday! Dd1 made me a flower card at school, dd2 made one at nursery and as I got out of the shower yesterday evening I was presented with them alongside a perfume and a box of special ' mummy cupcakes.. full credit to dh
Today he woke up, brought me a cuppa in bed, then cleaned the house and bathed the girls.
I relished the cuppa in bed more than anything else

pile really Sorry about your poorly dm... I'm in the same boat. Visiting her today and trying my best to be upbeat and cheerful. Sending you a hug X

I'm not moaning I think this is funny in a way my dh bought a card as at work on day got my ds who has autism to write in it, he's 12 and told him to give to me next day. At 2 pm got a text from dh saying did you get card so ask ds and he looked puzzled.....so I had to ask for it before it became mothering monday but I did get a rare hug (big thing) honestly poor dh tried but flogging dead horse there and ds just doesn't get it, can't get it bless him.he doesn't really like xmas so never going get md.On contrast middle dd sent me flower arrangement, sometimes feel a little sorry for her as having 2 siblings with asd puts all pressure on her 2 act all responsible bless.I don't expect it I'm happy with a hug .I'm going to tell dh not to bother next year and just ask son for hug instead it's so silly when you think about it...kids eh

I think I must surely win the shit mothers day prize- barring situations of abuse or bereavement of course. This was my mothers day in all its awful glory:

8AM: Woke up to hear DH frustratedly trying to stop the baby crying by shouting "Stop Crying."
Obviously this is inappropriate and ineffective so got up and angrily told DH as much. Sent him back to bed until he was rested enough to deal with children properly.

10AM: Baby went down for a nap- put her in bed next to still-sleeping DH and took toddler out for brunch and grocery shopping

12.00 Noon: Got back to find DH and baby up and DH wanting to know why I had been so angry with him. Explained why and pointedly wish him a happy mothers day. Had the annual conversation about "I thought you didn't care about that nonsense." Explained that yes, as I told him last year- I do care about that nonsense. DH apologises.

12.00 Noon to 3PM: DH and I clean out toy cupboard and prepare spare bedroom for guests later this week. Both kids underfeet and annoying while this goes on.

3PM: Went out for nice pub meal at my suggestion then walk in the woods at DH's suggestion. All calm down somewhat and enjoy ourselves.

7PM: DH goes out swimming and leaves me to put kids to bed.

10.30PM: DH returns. Toddler is asleep and baby just gone down. DH suggests sex. I am too tired and not in the mood. DH upset and rejected. I go to bed and DH gets drunk on his own.

12.00 Midnight: DH wakes me up to start argument about how he has "needs" and may have to look somewhere else. I point out the practical problems with this plan. Maintaining another woman will be time consuming and she will naturally enough want the relationship to progress. if he leaves me for her, the chances are she will want children of her own and he will be in the exact same situation in a few years time. Suggest he visit the local gay sauna if he is in need of no strings sex and go back to sleep.

8AM Today: wake up and explain to DH what a horrific, hurtful wanker he was all day yesterday. DH apologises. I go to work.

BEAT THAT Mumsnet!

Just reading some of these has made me a bit teary (pregnancy hormones to blame!) and just wanted to share what I always think of when I hear Mother's Day:

I would have been about 6 years old, parents recently divorced (hideous, traumatic divorce) and my father couldn't have given a shit about MD or me or my mum.

We'd had to move in with my mother's parents due to the divorce and they refused to help me (at 6!) to buy my mum anything with the 50p I'd saved from my pocket money -
It was their way of reminding my mum what an inconvenience we were. They were and are arseholes.

I remember desperately trying to find something for 50p to get my mum the Saturday before and tying myself up in knots that she wouldn't have anything but also not being able to ask her for help because it was supposed to be a surprise and I couldn't find anything for 50p anywhere and was nearly crying. I still remember the frantic feeling 20 years later.

My awesome mum had clearly picked up on this without me knowing and, like a superhero, pointed at a really grotty looking market stall selling half dead pot plants with giant luminous pink 50p signs next to them and said "oh look! Aren't those lovely?!" And then resolutely turned her back and stared intently at some thermal socks three feet away.

I honestly nearly died with relief and felt like the most awesome daughter in the world handing that 50p over - feeling confident that I'd managed to get my mum something she thought was "lovely" with my own money AND still a surprise because she didn't even notice me buying it because I had been so clever.

Took me years to realise that my mum knew exactly what was going on and set the whole thing up - she deserves an Oscar for her "surprised" performance the next day when I gave her the plant

Just about sums up everything about being a mother to me

Oh my gosh Flo that is so lovely. I think I just got something in my eye.

unlimiteddilutingjuice

at your DH. What a wanker!

Massive wanker! He was the absolute pits.

I was very close last night to just telling him to leave if that's how he feels.
Seriously.
He is pissed off that his life is now about work and childcare and he doesn't get time for himself and attention from me. And continually bemoans it.
I, on the other hand, am fine. I like my job. I like my kids. We would be fine without him. Harsh but that's how he is.

I told him all this, in the morning by the way.

Shape up or ship out DH!

I honestly nearly died with relief and felt like the most awesome daughter in the world handing that 50p over - feeling confident that I'd managed to get my mum something she thought was "lovely" with my own money AND still a surprise because she didn't even notice me buying it because I had been so clever.

::sob::

But fucking hell, unlimited. "I haz needs" is about the most pathetic emotional blackmail in the book. There actually isn't a big enough FUCK OFF with which to respond.

Maybe he is pissed off with things - I can understand that, but the way he dealt with it is completely unacceptable... If he does want more sex from you then rather stupidly he's behaving in a way that will ensure the very opposite!

FloLarkin
That's the most touching MD story I've read! Makes me realise what the important things are.

Exactly Flashbang Whining is hardly a turn on. I get enough whining form the 3 year old ffs.

Underneath it all- there is the point that it would be nice to spend a bit more time or any time at alltogether without the kids and I will get on the case with tracking down a baby sitter.....Just as soon as I've finished giving him hell for his twattery.

I came very close to telling him to leave last night. I was literally just holding on till he sobered so we could have the conversation properly. But for that- we could easily have split up last night.

""I haz needs" is about the most pathetic emotional blackmail in the book. There actually isn't a big enough FUCK OFF with which to respond."

unlimited - he's lucky he's still walking and talking, I reckon!!

Flo - that is the most touching thing I've read on here, your mum is an utter star and the rest of your "family" suck massive hairy balls (mat GPs and Dad, anyway).

Unlimited . How are things now?

Nothing from my 9 week old yet, she hasn't even mentioned it. Ungrateful little shit. :o

Goingtobeawesome Much better thanks. He has had a great deal of shit form me and been very contrite.
We settled on International Women's Day as his 2nd chance.
I have received some nice International Women's Day soap, bath bombs and a book.
I was feeling well disposed enough towards him that we dtd last night and he woke up this morning much more cheerful and relaxed.
Needless to say this episode will be brought up for many years to come whenever I feel like having a little dig. "Remember that time you woke me up on Mothers day to threaten to have an affair?" He will not live this down easily!