AIBU to mourn the space where my mother's heart should be?

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Came home in floods of tears couple days ago after awful commute. Woman on platform took a swing at me when I wouldn't let her push me back into the train and board facing me (there were 2 inches between me and the door, I had to lean my face back when it closed).

Luckily, the guy next to me caught the woman's hand and started shouting at her as did other commuters. (I'm 4 months pregnant, huge bump and "baby on board" badge).

When I got home and told my mum (babysitting that day),she listened to the whole thing and then asked me why I was crying! !

"The man caught her hand right - so she didn't actually hit you? What are you crying about then? "

Unreasonable to burst into tears again? Hubby thinks I should give her a break as her generation were "different."

Oh op won't see it like that lol! And that's not My mum being More supportive .. That's her being overly dramatic ... id be mortified! I was emphasising my mums on the other end of the spectrum .. And it's just as annoying . Lol my first post really and someone has to twist it ... No wonder I've read people gettin fed up with this site .

emz I apologise. But your post doesn't really read that way. I don't think it's fair to accuse me of twisting your words, you said 'laugh out loud' and 'hahaha' so think it's reasonable of me to assume that you found it amusing.

I'm 7 1/2 months pregnant with DC2 and am stunned on a daily basis at how nasty/selfish and cold hearted commuters have become. It’s so much more stressful 2 years on - constantly being shoved and slammed into, attempts to push me out of way to board train first (yes they did all see my badge and very huge bump) it’s only those I definitely see have noticed/seen me but still act this way that infuriate me. Stood regulary in crushed train aisles without a seat for majority of journey, despite those seated in front of me noticing. Offensive response to politely asking for a seat has now put me off. So OP feel your rage!!
Your mum could have been much kinder but maybe she had a stressful day babysitting. Well done for standing your ground and now allowing woman to shove herself against you for the journey, I’ve stood near packed train doors and refused to budge for anyone trying to cram into me on an already too full carriage and just said “sorry, no, I’m pregnant and can’t have you pushed against me for the journey”. They just shrugged and accepted it.

Emz, technically I'm due in August - but apparently I'll be lucky to make it past July as twins like to show up early. Because tag teaming us in the 1st place was not surprising enough

Oh yea ofc .. Congratulations ! You must be so excited .. My brothers partner is due twins a month earlier too.. In May they should arrive ! I'm due the 21st August... Seems ages away! You will get more scans as well , eh? Do you know what your having then? I'm waiting till the day 😊

Status update: has been an interesting 1st thread experience. Funnily (though they probably didn't intend it that way) some of the less kind commenters were actually useful for getting perspective - much less cross with mum now than 2 days ago!!

On another note, my boss has offered me 2 days of wfh until I go on mat leave and, best of all, hubby has changed his return journey to escort me home every time I do travel in. Will be like having an extra 3 date nights every week!

Op, I read your title and knew exactly what you meant. My mum would have been slightly, only slightly more sympathetic..but she just does not do huge shows of emotion..towards me anyway.

I hope you have a better weekend.

Melodramatic title, but what an awful experience. Someone trying to assault you on public transport? Awful. Strange how your fellow commuters were more upset than the people on this site, or your mum. I would have been hurt if that was my mums reaction.