Shoes off house rule

[BettyBi0]

So we have a shoes off rule in our house. Mainly because of the grubby London streets and dog poo everywhere locally plus a floor licking toddler.

Every time my parents visit I have to ask them to take their shoes off. EVERY Fing TIME! They act like its such a massive imposition.

AIBU or would you just shut up and put up?

I love this thread, nearly spat out my lunch at the randomness! I may have skimmed over a few posts - on the bare bum on your pillow issue that is probably going a bit far. But hopefully you're not inviting many people into your house who are likely to strip off and sit their naked arse on your pillow just to annoy you? It's not something I'd think of...
But as I sit here... fully clothed but shoes off in this house... looking at my Christmas socks on my feet I realise that when choosing my socks in the morning I do think about what I'm doing that day. If softplay, going round someones house etc I'll try and find some matching, non holey, 'better' socks... as I know I'll probably be taking my shoes off at some point!
If someone was shocked, offended or appalled at being asked to take their shoes off before coming in our lounge and walking on the carpet then I'd probably wonder why I was friends with them and why I'd invited them into my house...they should have more respect.
I've no problem taking my shoes off in other peoples houses, padding round in socks seems normal to me... if I was given 'guest slippers' to wear I think it'd be a bit like being asked to wear someone elses shoes and a bit odd! If I was given disposable slippers to wear I'd wonder what damage my socks were going to their carpet and was their heating broken!
I would agree that there is that awkward dilemma in the summer though - when people are wearing sandals and flip flops. I'm not too fond of lots of hot hairy bare feet leaving sweaty footprints on the tiles. Urgh! Then I may have to just let it pass.

I was just reading classics and someone has said they visited someone and were given two options

1. Remove shoes and wear brand new slippers, pay £10 and take them home

2. Remove shoes and put plastic shoe covers over her socks

My option would have been to leave right there and then, Py. These threads always go the same way, with people piling in, 'In my culture . . . ' 'In SE Asia. . . ' 'I live in Timbuktu and it's how we do things here, even the yaks take off their sandals . . . ' This is the UK.

I went to Buckingham Palace last spring. Neither Liz nor Phil told me to take my shoes off.

Riders

Won't the visiting yaks get too hot in Timbuktu?

What do their feelings matter, Katharina, as long as they take off their shoes and don't trail in shite crumbs?

Generally for me it's shoes off but it can depend on the person. There are some people who seem more likely to tread in something nasty like dog muck, than others!

Lots of people from different cultures live in the UK though expat (as your name would suggest), like my Finnish mum. And nearly all my very British friends when I was growing up lived in shoes off households.

Page 28 and it's still trampy to leave your shoes on in the house.

There.

Zzzzzzzzzzzz..............

That would seem unusual then, Natsku, but hey, there you go. Some people get really aggro over the issue.

I've never been in a house that wasn't shoes-off. Ever. Why would you want to sit indoors with your shoes on?

I've never been in a house that wasn't shoes-off. Ever. Why would you want to sit indoors with your shoes on?

Like a parallel universe. I've never been to anything but a shoes-on house. Are we all the same species?

Here's a burning question. Do you put your feet up on the sofa with your shoes on?

As a generally shoes-off house, no, we don't have a pet dog or cat. And if we did have a dog, it wouldn't be allowed in the house because I can't bear the smell of dog.

But I don't enforce the shoes-off thing. If people want to keep their shoes on, they can. We just prefer to take ours off.

"what temperature are people keeping their houses that a person would get cold without shoes inside?"

Feet get cold more easily than the rest of the body. I can be so hot that my cheeks are flushed, yet still have cold feet.

That's bad circulation

No it's not, it's cold feet.

In answer to your previous question, I never put my feet up on the sofa, no.

I have to wear shoes all the time - although they are 'outdoor' shoes, they don't actually spend much time outside, as I can't walk much further than the car!
As for feet up on sofa - I have a fleecy throw I wash very frequently that I put my shod feet on.
.. wanders off to look at bath mats anywhere but Asda...

I nearly always sit with one foot under my bum, can't see how that would be comfortable in shoes.

Cheeks flushed with cold feet must surely be poor circulation or drafts? My home is 22 degrees right now according to the thermometer up high and my feet are lovely and warm but cheeks are fine.

I've never been in a house that wasn't shoes-off. Ever.

What a narrow social circle.

We have a shoes off rule. But I don't impose it on visitors. I've noticed that DCs friends and any teenage pupils I have automatically take their shoes off the minute they come through the door but adults keep theirs on.

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Cheeks flushed with cold feet must surely be poor circulation"

Yes, but pretty common and can happen to anyone when sitting down and not moving the feet much. Also, if the floor is tiled or something.

Not unreasonable. Your living space, you have to feel comfortable in it. London streets can be very dirty, and we have a no shoe preference also. It's just good manners when you visit someone's house to check if they would like you to remove your shoes.