Shoes off house rule

[BettyBi0]

So we have a shoes off rule in our house. Mainly because of the grubby London streets and dog poo everywhere locally plus a floor licking toddler.

Every time my parents visit I have to ask them to take their shoes off. EVERY Fing TIME! They act like its such a massive imposition.

AIBU or would you just shut up and put up?

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UFOs next perhaps 'sweetheart'?

Does this mean I am not invited to your yurt Squoosh? I promise to keep my shoes on!

I'd worry your conversation would be limited to all the germs you'd met that day and the price of bathmats in Asda.

Cultural or religious customs don't just take place in other countries and on TV though.

Well I can also regale you with tales of the bewildering choice of slippers in the pound shop! (Seriously, they have loads, and fake crocs too!)

[bangs head on table]

pyjamaramadrama the OP was not about a household with a shoes-off culture originating from another part of the world!

Actually I find it odd either way.

I find it odd that some people have never met anyone who allows shoes in their house, as much as I find it odd that some people have never met anyone that doesn't, be it for any reason.

As long as you bring booze you can give all the Poundland pantofle chat you want.

Deal Squoosh

Jessie I mentioned my own cultural background as it informs my practice here in England and to highlight that the "shoes off" thing in other cultures often has the practical reason that people sit on the floor, they aren't just being precious about carpets for the sake of being houseproud or whatever.

I agree it's not really the British norm and I therefore think it's rude to insist on guests removing shoes in this cultural context.

Right ok, I thought the thread had moved on a lot since the op.

Does this make sense? If I was visiting someone new I would go expecting shoes on or off. I'd ask in the hallway and follow their lead. The reason wouldn't matter to me as I'm used to both, for all sorts of reasons, religion, hygiene.

It surprises me that some people have never had this come up, either way.

sqoosh i should be specific, i wouldn't like bare bums where I put my head!!!

So actually if you were to sit clothed on the end of my bed I wouldn't be too worried, if you were to sit bare bummed on my pillow I would rip your face off!!

Yes, I fear levitation may be the answer, that and plastic suits

Makes perfect sense pyjama

I don't care either way for myself, I just think it's rude to insist on a guest doing something they aren't comfortable with.

I solemnly promise never to plonk my bare bum on your pillow Aworld!

Aworldofmyown it depends who is sitting naked on my pillow. I can think of some people hot celebrities that I would n't mind too much if they were sitting bare bummed on my pillow

Bare bums on pillows?! HORRORS!!

No one, not even Tom Hardy could sit his bare bum on my pillow.

Admittedly I have only read the first five pages of the thread but this is something I feel very strongly about and you are definitely definitely not being unreasonable!

It is incredibly rude not to remove your outdoor shoes when entering someone else's home...

There was a study done a few years ago that found nine different species of bacteria on people's shoes. They found that the bacteria lived longer on shoes than any other place as they constantly pick up new debris that feeds the growth of the bacteria. It also found that 90 % of this bacteria transferred to tiled floors.. Even more to carpets!

For those who say they don't regularly walk through mud, what about bird droppings? Do you diligently avoid those? What about the floors of public toilets?!

As others have said, regularly cleaning carpets is a hassle, much more so than a guest simply taking their shoes off!

Besides, it's not good for the feet to be constantly crammed into shoes.. Podiatrists recommend walking barefoot for as much as possible.. It strengthens the arches, reduces risk of bunions etc..

Silversun83 - but walking barefoot is even worse! That's a sign of madness!

I cannot stand feet.

Off, always!! Need convincing? Read this! Especially with young babies crawling round.

rare.us/story/you-should-never-wear-shoes-inside-the-house-and-this-is-why/

The most interesting thing about that article is the very first sentence:

Unless you have a special circumstance, you probably wear shoes inside your house.

Suggests that "shoes on" is the cultural norm in the United States.

"Suggests that "shoes on" is the cultural norm in the United States"

Yes but they think Donald Trump is presidential material, which frankly renders much of their thinking null and void.

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