Does anyone just want a day off work and a day off your kids?

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I work term times. Great, it works amazingly round the children.

I love my job and I love my kids but on Monday I found myself willing an illness to come so I had a genuine excuse to have a day off work and the kids be at school. As if I would enjoy it if I were ill .

Even tonight I'm busting for a day off.

My DH would happily take the kids off my hands for a few hours on a weekend. But I want a whole day. Selfish, I know!

DH works full time too, self employed so gets 4 days holiday a year (unpaid, when we go to Butlins which isn't exactly relaxing!)

So he too, deserves a day off no work no kids.

No family round us to give us this pleasure either. Even then, if they did, I'd like it totally alone and not even with DH. . I know, meany.

I just want a DAY OFF!!

Last hear, I had a day and a half off - no kids or husband. Bliss!

Twice in the last year, I've had hospital investigations resulting in me spending the afternoon in hospital. It was lovely, someone bought me lunch and drinks, and I had a whole afternoon reading my book. Apart from the odd blood pressure reading, I was totally undisturbed. Lovely.

Haven't read the whole thread, but yes I do...desperately. I'd like a whole day to myself. No DH either. And a day with no kids and Dh.

I can only dream about it. I know I'll be away in July for work. But, that's work.

Enjoy yourselves lucky ones. I did have some time when the kids were little and in creche. Actually, an hour or two would do me right now.

Oh, oh, oh... My lovely boss just gave me two days extra leave as i worked 147 hours a week in January.

What shall i do, mnetters?

Shall i take them 23+24 March to give me a looong Easter with the kids who break up on the 23rd?

Or...not...?

i had TWO, yes TWO days off in October in term time (had accrued about a billion hours of time in lieu).

On one of the day, I went to the hairdresser and read trashy magazines and drank coffee while I got highlights

On the other one, I sat and read a Julian Barnes in peace.

I tell you, it took years off me.

I've taken a few days off on days DS is at nursery and love it. Am going to have a whole week off too in a couple of weeks!

I dream of sending ds (2) with his sister eow to her dads. He is only the father to dd but it's not really fair that she gets a weekend away eow is it? And it's not really fair that he thinks parenthood is just parenting adorable, compliant, well behaved dd when the reality when you have one like whirlwind ds is very different.

He wouldn't take him though the miserable fucker.

Poor DH never gets this, because he's either at work, or weekend with kids climbing all over him.

There's once in a blue moon where he gets home from work and I am somewhere with the kids and he might get an hour or so in the house, alone, with nobody there, complete silence. He relishes it. He will be found on the sofa, staring blissfully into space, with a beer on these rare occasions.

I'm the opposite in that I don't work so I have that 6 hour school day every day where there are no kids. This is great for balance, because there is plenty of parenting to be done at either end of the day, but I do have to make sure I have something happening every day or I get bored and feel weird and lazy and slightly panicky which is hard to explain!

So its interesting to read that you want just one day where you take them off to school but then go home and do nothing. It would go so quick! And then if you have it all the time like me, you take it for granted.

This is why I think working part time can be a good thing if you have kids. You'd get your 2 days home and 3 days at work or whatever and that would be a reasonable balance. Probably doesn't pay the bills though unfortunately!

I desperately feel like that . Had planned the Saturday before Feb half term to myself but it didn't happen - what I wouldn't do for a day to myself -also work term time in school.. -

I've got the house to myself for ONE WHOLE HOUR right now and it is wonderful!

Ive been ill for a few days. Feel like poo but it has been BLISS! No work, kids at school. Loved it.

Full time working single parent here.

I get two, maybe three days a year when access falls on days when I don't have to work.

I have a long bath with a book, lunch alone in town and a mooch round the shops,film in the afternoon and a slap up meal and wine in the evening.

I absolutely relish it

I wonder if there is anyone who offers a leg-breaking service? Or similar. Whatever the least painful but slowest healing injury is.

I have 4 days off work with no dcs to look forward to. My parents are taking the dcs away for 4 days!!! I am a teacher so never get to choose days off, but once a year my parents like to take the dcs for part of a half term holiday. It's wonderful!! But I always seem to end up planning to do some decorating during that time rather than just enjoying the time to myself.

Actually, dd2 is going to a friend's house this Saturday, 11 - 5 ish, so that's pretty much a full day, and dd1 is old enough that she'll hang out in her bedroom and I won't see her either. I wonder what I can do with myself.

I frequently arrange my work rota so I get days off during the week when DS is at school - then I can have the whole day to myself and DH can be responsible for DS at the weekend when I work. Great arrangement.

I've got one of my days off tomorrow, what shall I do? I feel guilty already which is ridiculous. I have spent the last 16 years putting my kids first. I don't know how to decide what to do for me?!

Even working part time (Fridays off) I really crave a day when I don't have one eye on the clock for the afternoon school run. I pack my Fridays with appointments, errands, housework, studying, quick coffee with friends, but I'm constantly clockwatching. What I'd love is to take myself off to London for the day and be in no rush to get back.

Oh Gods yes!
I periodically flex a day as I do huge amounts of overtime and am allowed to informally take an occasional extra day as overtime isn't paid.

What do I do? I blitz my kid's playroom or our study. Everything out, bin bags filled, charity shop run done etc.

I'd love a day when I could just relax, gym, read, shop, whatever, but never feel I can justify 'wasting' my time like that.

I promised my self a couple of days this year, when I'd take annual leave while kids are in school/CM, but I've found myself booking days off during half-term or Easter holidays instead.
Last year, I took a few days to do decorating etc and felt very resentful by the end of the year.
Another issue is that DH works from home so i have to arrange it for a time when he's not around.
Much as I love my family, I absolutely need time in my house, on my own!

I book the odd AL day with childcare as a preventative for a MH problem I am getting over.

I've had a massage recently... I'm meeting some friends for lunch next week and may also do some shopping without DCs.

I did it yesterday for the first time since my dd was born 16 months ago....I had such a lovely time I've promised myself I will do it more often.

I tried on shoes and clothes, strolled calmly through shops with no care in the world, travelled up escalators rather than lifts, and had a lovely relaxed solo lunch in an Italian restaurant. It was BLISS

I highly recommend it.

Me and dh have arrangements for this. For example, I'm taking dd out on saturday afternoon, whilst he has time to chill, play computer games, clean his motorbike or whatever. I have nights out with friends every couple of months, we drink a lot and go clubbing. I book a hotel and stay over. It means o get a couple of hours before I go out, to read in a bath. And dh picks me up next afternoon after he's taken dd swimming and for a run around the park (and my hangover has disappeared). I also book an off day from work and go to the spa, alone and book a couple of treatments. :)

id love this but DH works from home

to me at this moment in time sounds like bliss
I'm having issues in work - more internal issues with myself - and a day off to think about the future and plan would be bliss

and then another day to do nothing

Absolutely I booked a holiday day off for the same reason .... I really felt I needed a full day just for me, However DD ended up being poorly so it actually never happened!!

Do it , im going to book one in right now! Thanks

I do this a lot

I knit in peace with radio 4 quietly in the background, and skoff a giant pile of haribo. Sometimes I break it up by going out for lunch on my own, no phone and have a glass of wine.

I would go fucking insane otherwise.

It is heaven

I love spending time by myself, working only part time and Ds being at school enables me to do this, although most of my days off are spent cleaning up etc and there's the school run to do.

What I REALLY love are the occasions where Ds goes to his Grans for an occasional sleepover. I think the anticipation of having that alone time is actually more fulfilling in some ways, than the day itself. I feel like I have more energy knowing I'll get some guilt free alone time with Dp doing just what we want, I would LOVE Dp to also be away on some occasions too, just so I could slob and do exactly what I wanted when I wanted, watching what I wanted.

I do love them both dearly, even though it does sound like I can't wait to be rid of them I wouldn't like it all the time as I'd miss them but I LOVE it on occasion.