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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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275 replies

CheeseAndSprinkles · 29/02/2016 14:03

I care for 2 of my children but I'm only able to claim one amount of carers allowance. I save the country a lot of money by caring for my children, I wouldn't have it any other way, but the extra money would be extremely helpful. It's a pittance anyway. So am I BU?

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GooseberryRoolz · 29/02/2016 15:00

YANBU. Carer's Allowance is insultingly meagre anyway.

Klaptout · 29/02/2016 15:01

Hang on, DLA covers the cost of disability, I wish!
Next you'll be saying we get a free car.
I don't get carers allowance for my three as I get widows allowance, lucky me.

CheeseAndSprinkles · 29/02/2016 15:04

Sunshine yes both dc get the disability element of tax credits and one of them gets the severe element. Neither of them gets high rate mobility, we did appeal it but citizens advice says it's very hard to get. 5 years ago we would have got it no pro lem, they said, but now they've made it very difficult to get.

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Greyponcho · 29/02/2016 15:06

But I agreed with you, OP, I'm saying you could've worded it better and you'd perhaps get a more helpful response. Don't asume I don't know where you're coming from

Sonnet · 29/02/2016 15:07

YANBU - you should get more

CheeseAndSprinkles · 29/02/2016 15:08

Sorry grey poncho Smile

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Owllady · 29/02/2016 15:10

It's laughable to even suggest DLA covers the additional cost.
The agency carers supplied by my local authority to look after my dd are paid more in 3 hours than I can claim in CA a week and damn right I claim it, I earn every bloody penny.
I'm concerned 're the PIP thing, I thought you could still claim CA when it changes to PIP? (We are in the hands of the DWP with wrt to it swapping over so I don't know)

I don't know how they can stop DLA/PIP when someone goes into hospital either. We had to supply everything when my dd went in recently including high level personal care!

Greyponcho · 29/02/2016 15:11
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lougle · 29/02/2016 15:23

YABU. It isn't too compensate you for caring. It's too compensate you for not being able to be gainfully employed. I went back to work in September. My DD1 gets HRC & LRM. I now don't qualify for CA because I work 23 hours per week.

Rinoachicken · 29/02/2016 15:30

owllady I get PIP and my DH gets CA for caring for me, so it's not a problem.

NotMeNotYouNotAnyone · 29/02/2016 15:35

I think "wanting more benefits" put people off initially.

Carers allowance should be more anyway, and you should get more depending on how much it affects your life (ie can't work, broken sleep, other children still needing looking after as well, whether the person cared for is able to go to school, what respite is available etc)

Wish the government would stop giving rich people tax breaks and help people who are actually saving the public millions of pounds by caring for severely disabled adults and children themselves.

CheeseAndSprinkles · 29/02/2016 15:41

Yes the title is a bit off putting but it's straight to the point.

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aprilanne · 29/02/2016 15:52

op i get it .£62 a week carers money is not much when u have to give up work .but two lots of dla is a significant amount of money ..hundreds a month and if you get that twice its not bad .my son is autistic .

NeedToMoveHouse · 29/02/2016 15:52

It's carer's allowance, not performance related pay, so I'm not for the argument of YOU getting paid twice for caring for two children. You get 2 x disability credits for the children, doubling up your carer's allowance to reflect the amount of hours and work you put in would just open up the purpose of carer's allowance to a whole new world of problems.

CheeseAndSprinkles · 29/02/2016 15:59

Firstly DLA maybe £100's but is for my dc's not me, and secondly while if ca were performance related, the country could never afford us carers Wink

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OSETmum · 29/02/2016 16:03

Carers allowance is for you not your dc so I don't agree that you should get it twice as there's only one of you but I do agree that it should be more in the first place.

Owllady · 29/02/2016 16:03

The government could always put their money where their mouth is and provide appropriate services which would enable carers to carry on working full time. Half the problem is that appropriate care isn't available, like it is in places such a Sweden (off the top of my head!) Once you are past the cute phase where childminders won't have them, you are buggered. After school clubs rarely have before and after school care like mainstream schools do and often these schools aren't close to your house anyway. If you haven't got a supportive family it becomes impossible to work around your caring responsibilities - which is what has happened in my case a few years ago. There have been so many cuts to services where I live that I actually despair, especially regarding adult care.

grannytomine · 29/02/2016 16:05

I've been my husbands carer for nearly 25 years. I got CA a year ago, prior to that I was earning too much. It will stop in 2 years as I will get my state pension. So I will have had CA for 3 years out of 28, I can't be bothered to work out what I have been paid for my 35 hrs caring every week but it can't have been much. Unfortunately those are the rules. Do you do 70 hrs caring above what you would do for a child without disabilities?

CheeseAndSprinkles · 29/02/2016 16:08

Why shouldn't I get it twice? I'm doing the job of two carers!

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Osolea · 29/02/2016 16:08

You are only one carer no matter how many people you care for, so it is right that you can only claim carers allowance once.

The problem is that carers allowance is too low, not that you can only claim it once.

CheeseAndSprinkles · 29/02/2016 16:08

Not that any paid carer would work for that amount Wink

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CheeseAndSprinkles · 29/02/2016 16:10

Yes but there is a claim of carers allowance just sat there waiting to be claimed, so there's obviously a need there so why can't I have it? I'm doing it!

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CheeseAndSprinkles · 29/02/2016 16:12

I'm torn in two sometimes with my two very different autistic dc, so yes I probably do do 70 plus hours of caring.
I would love to go out to work, it would be easier. And much more profitable. But I'm too tired so when they're at school a tidy up and sleep.

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Samcro · 29/02/2016 16:15

oh but op its ok you can get a job like lougle did!!
cos thats easy......

NeedToMoveHouse · 29/02/2016 16:16

just sat there waiting to be claimed
Not to get Jeremy Kyle on you but there is no CheeseandSprinkle's fund just sitting off in a petty cash tin building and building with no one to claim it. The stretched government funding will be being used on something else, probably another carer's allowance who feels equally underpaid and undervalued!

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