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AIBU?

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to think that my sister has lost the plot and not know how to respond ?

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Arrowfanatic · 28/02/2016 17:14

She says I'm copying her and I'm jealous of her life (I'm a couple of years older than her) because she has 3 children and I have 3 children.

I am at this because my eldest is 6 months older than hers, my middle is 3 months older than hers and my youngest is starting school soon but she's still pregnant with her third.

She's posting all over fb about me copying her family and I don't know how the heck I am meant to respond to it?? Aside from 3 kids we really have zero in common anyway but I'm fed up of being slated publicly by her and her friends (who btw I have never met). I'm almost 40 years old, this seems mental.

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Whataboutnodetox · 29/02/2016 08:17

Could she think you are planning another to take the attention from her? I think it's definitely necessary to step away from her, she brings you nothing.

Carolbetty · 29/02/2016 08:20

Step away from the Facebook. Block her - you don't need to see anything she's saying. I'm not sure this is really anything to do with you. It's all her stuff so no real point in engaging.

Alidoll · 29/02/2016 08:31

Can you not simply post a photo of your family as will clearly show your 3 kids smiling at the camera and add "so, show your THREE kids darling and let the audience decide who is lying and pathetic"

Then block!

glowfrog · 29/02/2016 08:39

As childish as it is I would put the exact same wording as my status. And every time shebchanges her I'd change mine

Hahahaha! Love this!!

But more seriously... Forget blocking on FB. I'd block her IRL. I'm amazed you haven't severed ties already.

mylaptopismylapdog · 29/02/2016 08:45

I have 2 sisters 9 and 11 years older than me. My older sister had real issues with the younger who married someone who provided them with a much better lifestyle ( didn't help that she was beautiful too). Older was furious and Mum and I got caught in the crossfire, it marred countless family occasions and interactions.
Now have very limited contact with both as Mum died several years ago. Only way to go imho.

cakesandphotos · 29/02/2016 08:56

My cousin is constantly slating his sister on Facebook, calling her names and bring quite unpleasant. I've called him out in it once but all his little friends rushed to his defence so I gave up. She defriended him years ago so couldn't care less. It's a petty thing to do when you've got the protection of your laptop.

Grapejuicerocks · 29/02/2016 09:04

It can only affect you if you let it. Step back, feel sorry for her - for the fact that she feels the need to do this, roll your eyes at each new revelation and carry on your life without reacting to her drama. She wants you to react. Don't engage. Be polite and civil but limit her chances for interaction. Block Facebook. You are not responsible for her complete unreasonableness.

Although look back and just reassess whether you could inadvertently bragged a bit or rubbed her nose in things. Sometimes relationship dynamics tend to play out in ways that we are not aware of, a pattern continued from childhood. It does sound as if they are her issues and nothing to do with you, but have a think to make sure.

seafoodeatit · 29/02/2016 09:17

It sounds like she's very desperate for attention, like any other form of trolling you shouldn't give her what she craves and should ignore all of her comments. If she really had a problem she should have come to you to try and resolve it instead of this faux outrage on facebook. I would be blocking her and making it clear that until she stops being immautre and shows a bit more decency that you see your relationship as untenable.

MrsKoala · 29/02/2016 09:18

My response to this (and this is defo not advice btw - just what I would do) would be 'Fuck me! someone's left the gate open on the thick farm again. As none of you seem to be able to do simple counting, i'll help you out. My children were born BEFORE yours. So if anyone is copying then it's you dipshit.' Then block her and only be vaguely civil at unavoidable family events.

fuzzpig · 29/02/2016 09:21

What I am not jealous of is your maths skills :o

Does sound rather delusional of her. Sounds like the promotion has triggered some epic jealousy.

Bumblefeet · 29/02/2016 09:55

My sister is one of those who put coded messages on FB, you know the sort of thing?
Veiled comments about others, etc.
She did it once too many times, so I unfriended her. I seriously don't need that kind of rubbish in my life, and nor do you.
Unfriend, and be done with it.

You deserve better.
xx

Tiger44 · 29/02/2016 10:27

Sorry you are going through this. What do your other siblings think?

It sounds like she's a bully and if she was always craving popularity then her friends could actually just be intimidated by her so they all gush to her and slate you because they don't want to be cast out. As others have said, I would leave her to it. It is clearly upsetting you and if you get more involved it could just escalate. Brush it off to her insecurity.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 29/02/2016 11:19

I have to say I do rather like MrsK's response...

RedToothBrush · 29/02/2016 12:54

MrsKoala has it nailed.

I can image the sister's head exploding reading that. Its too good an opportunity to miss OP.

tobysmum77 · 29/02/2016 13:32

I think de friend her on fb, because she will notice if she it's so obsessed with you. I must admit I judge anyone who posts negative shite about other people on fb so anyone dsis knows who is normal will be .

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