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Original poster

to think that my sister has lost the plot and not know how to respond ?

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Arrowfanatic · 28/02/2016 17:14

She says I'm copying her and I'm jealous of her life (I'm a couple of years older than her) because she has 3 children and I have 3 children.

I am Confused at this because my eldest is 6 months older than hers, my middle is 3 months older than hers and my youngest is starting school soon but she's still pregnant with her third.

She's posting all over fb about me copying her family and I don't know how the heck I am meant to respond to it?? Aside from 3 kids we really have zero in common anyway but I'm fed up of being slated publicly by her and her friends (who btw I have never met). I'm almost 40 years old, this seems mental.

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Arrowfanatic · 28/02/2016 17:42

Lorelli her friends all think she's amazing and practically worship her. Her husband lIves in his own world so totally oblivious to this side of her

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pastmyduedate0208 · 28/02/2016 17:42

Wow, are you both like, Still 16yo?

RitaVinTease · 28/02/2016 17:42

They have all slid into a time warp and are back in the school playground. These people are parents, you say...Confused

AyeAmarok · 28/02/2016 17:43

She sounds a bit disturbed. It's clearly not you who has the issues.

I'd just block her on FB.

MoltoIncazzata · 28/02/2016 17:43

I can't for the life of me figure out why you'd keep such a person on your FB? What pleasure is that bringing to your life? If she doesn't like you and isn't speaking to you what possible loss is there to deleting her? Confused

coffeeisnectar · 28/02/2016 17:44

I'd just pop its "you are clearly on glue"

And then block her. She sounds nuts.

RudeElf · 28/02/2016 17:44

Id say theres more to it that you know but arent sharing with us. Because it makes zero sense as it is.

SharkSkinThing · 28/02/2016 17:45

^^ what zzzzz said.

Not in a mean way, just is there more history in this latest episode?

FWIW, my younger sister sounds similar. She's an alcoholic with low self-esteem so we're very minimal contact and I tread v, v carefully.

Not that your sister is of course! Smile

EweAreHere · 28/02/2016 17:47

Post. Go for it. Along the lines of "Actually, MY THREE children are all older than your TWO children ... you're still cooking the third one to catch up with me, remember? SO it appears you are copying me in life..."

Then defriend her.

openthecurtains · 28/02/2016 17:47

She sounds like my sister. I'm 14 years younger than my sister but she insists I'm the reason she failed the 11+! I'm flabbergasted at my own power in causing her to fail it 3 years before I was even born. I probably borrowed your time machine, OP! There's no reasoning with that kind of crazy bitterness.

CheesyNachos · 28/02/2016 17:48

Don't respond. She is clearly baiting for whatever reason of her own.

I know a mother and adult daughter who carry on like this on FB. They have quite serious issues to be honest, and that is pretty apparent to the disinterested observer (most of the people they have apparently friended on fb). I just think it is a bit sad.

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Arrowfanatic · 28/02/2016 17:50

That's just it past, I'm nearly 40 so this behaviour is really weird to me.

Rude, literally noting else to it. We're not close but hasn't been anything then randomly last night this post appeared on her fb followed by the one I said above. Totally out of the blue, I hadn't spoken to her for a couple of weeks. Nothing exciting has happened in my life to prompt it.

Shark, history wise I suppose she's always been a bully to me. That's about it.

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PastaLaFeasta · 28/02/2016 17:50

Perhaps she is the jealous one who is copying you but deflecting by accusing you of doing exactly what she is ashamed of doing herself. Like cheaters who accuse their innocent partners of cheating.

Or you've invented a time machine - my first thought like the first post.

var123 · 28/02/2016 17:51

I'd post on her wall... "Are you ok? I remember my 3rd pregnancy and it can be hard going. Give me a call if you ever want to talk."

It will annoy the life out of her and smoke out any friends who can put 2+2 together. Then I'd block her.

RudeElf · 28/02/2016 17:52

What did she post exactly?

SharkSkinThing · 28/02/2016 17:52

Grin at open - are you sure we don't share the same sister?

Sorry, OP. For you. Flowers. It's hard for you.

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Arrowfanatic · 28/02/2016 17:52

I need to find where I hid that time machine, could be mighty useful !!!

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lorelei9 · 28/02/2016 17:54

Var makes a great suggestion!

I was thinking if a friend of mine behaved like that I'd think they were ill. Confused

Is it a weird nasty group, like the type who'd turn on each other at the drop of a hat? I'm just getting a sense of a gang of mean kids at school...they don't really like each other eithet...that kind of thing stops at 14 though surely?

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Arrowfanatic · 28/02/2016 17:54

Rude she put "so Zzzzzzzzzzzz by my sisters need for attention and always copying me. Errrrm 3 children much, jealously is pathetic."

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DartmoorDoughnut · 28/02/2016 17:54

I just either would post what var said or unfollow and get on with your life. She sounds doolally!

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Arrowfanatic · 28/02/2016 17:55

I've removed her off my fb, you're all right. Now just to deal if we happen to run into each other.

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DoreenLethal · 28/02/2016 17:57

'Yes I have three children all born before yours. If it's so Zzzz then why are you doing exactly the same? What I am not jealous of is your maths skills ;)'

RudeElf · 28/02/2016 17:57

Without any apparent back story i would actually be a bit worried about that! Its so nonsensical.

AyeAmarok · 28/02/2016 17:58

I think Var's post is great!

SharkSkinThing · 28/02/2016 17:59

Arrow, I always find with my sister it's a case of 'no audience, no performance.' So the less I engage with the drama, the more she loses interest in trying to engage me.

If that makes sense?

Just cross the road! Sounds like she has plenty of other people to perform to.

Good luck.