AIBU for having a glass of wine while my DD is in bed?

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I have a 3YO DD, she has been an absolute nightmare handful today. It's been a long day from hell and now she's in bed in having a glass of wine on my second I feel absolutely fine and not drunk. I've just spoken to my mum on the phone who knew DD wasn't been well behaved today and mentioned I was having a glass of wine and according to her this is outrageous, what if DD is ill and I need to driver her to the hospital ect..

1. I have no intention of getting drunk so I can't care for her and if she did need to go the hospital I could get a taxi and still be perfectly fit to care for her

AIBU?

Er parent!

Yes, it wrong, so very wrong because I can't currently drink.

I'm lucky.. My immediate neighbours are 2 doctors & a nurse.. DH & I are opening a second bottle of wine

last I heard, it wasn't compulsory to have a car before getting pregnant!

When DC1 was born the midwives on my ward were completely unaware of this. The poor lady in the bed opposite had a really rough time of labour and when they went to discharge her and the baby they refused as she had no car seat. Her and her DP tried to explain that was because they didn't drive and they lived just outside the hospital. But you may get a taxi they said. No, we literally live outside the hospital - in that house just there ---->>>, it would take longer to get a taxi. It took them 2 hours before someone sensible came along and let them walk home.

I had a friend who worried constantly about this. Between her and her DH, they were so worried about something happening to their dc, they took it in turns to not have a drink, so one of them was always sober in case they had to drive to hospital. Not even one drink. So they would open a bottle of wine and one have a glass or two one night, the other would have theirs the next night. Twas really odd.
They used to worry constantly about making sure the car was always on standby too, the DH used to do nights sometimes and would ride his bike to work so the car would always be at home should there be an emergency. I thought this was madness too, it was really rural where they lived and riding a bike home at 4 am in December wasn't something I would have wanted my DH doing (the chance of an accident was far higher than the dc needing a car lift to hospital in an emergency, if it's that bad, get an ambulance, its what they are there for).
They were still doing this when I moved away when their eldest child was six, so it wasn't just a baby/toddler thing either. Odd, odd, odd.

I don't drink, through choice firstly but now it's simply because ds won't sleep in his cot.I don't drive so would have to get a taxi regardless. YANBU enjoy

I'm a single parent who drives and have had to defend this daft attitude too OP. I lay it out for them in simple terms...

If it's not life threatening but requires medical attention, I can get a taxi.
If it's very urgent, I will have to ring for an ambulance regardless of whether I've had a glass of wine because if I'm concentrating on the road, I'd be ignoring DD's symptoms and not tending to her, and if I'm tending to her, I'm not concentrating on the road and could easily crash.

My DM has an odd case of amnesia about my upbringing too...according to her she never smoked around us, never smoked in the house, never smoked in the car with us in it. I think she forgets we were there.

Enjoy your wine, I did

What is you didn't have a car or were a non driver. You would have to get a taxi or lift then so no, there is nothing wrong with having a drink as long as you aren't that hammered you wouldn't be able to deal with a medical situation x

It could be just her age I wouldn't worry about it.

Didn't drink when DS was a tiny baby - was already so sleep deprived I was hallucinating.

Now, however, what the hell would be wrong with a glass?

At least you're drinking wine. I'm drinking sherry :) channelling my inner great granny...

God this is a new hell forums isn't it.?

Thank good my last kid was born in 1999 and this ridiculous shite wasn't around then.

When our dd was badly injured it happened on a school trip abroad. We had no idea until the police knocked on our door.

op have a glass and toast the fact your child is well, safe and with you.

In my experience children do strange and wonderful things to hurt themselves just before you are going to have a drink or go out . And also you absolutely do not have to have had a drink in order to run out of the house with no shoes, the wrong keys and swearing like a navvie. I can manage that perfectly sober .

I agree with Maryz. I have lost count of the times we have had to pick up DSD's from a night out/drive them around. The best one was eldest DSD who rang me because she had lost a shoe .

I am resigning myself to much worse with DS who is 11 but has the makings of a party animal .

The only thing that has got me through the hell that was today was the thought of my nicely chilling bottle of wine in the fridge. I've guzzled the whole lot, both DSs are fast asleep and in no immediate danger and I don't care who judges me (not that anyone on this thread has!)

Relax and have a or 3
I know I have tonight
LO tucked up in bed
Bliss

Enjoy the wine.!

Just don't mention it to her again.

What would she say if you didnt drive a car? Yanbu.

But it's not just one glass usually.

1 ok, 1.5 ok, 2 pushing it, 3 too much.

Why is 3 too much?

Strictly

The hospital I gave birth at is similar insofar as there are houses literally a stones throw away from it. I found myself wondering how they dealt with people who lived nearby and now I know!

Thank you MN I enjoyed a few glasses of wine, DD slept fine and there was no life threatening illnesses that suddenly developed

I think it varies from each person on what is too much, some people can handle a bit more and still function fine and some can't.

Mine's not even in bed and I'm having a wine (or two)!

Yanbu. I don't drink but as a lp I sometimes need night nurse when I'm ill. That's probably worse than a glass of wine . I do feel like it's a risk but so is becoming really ill and not being able to work.

Enjoy your evening wine now when they are little and the odds of something happening in the night involving a hospital are low, particularly if they are in good health. Okay, so if she was severely asthmatic and has a bad cold it might not be good planning, but if she's gone to bed as usual and was fine, what exactly is going to happen and what are the odds of that happening?

It's when they are older, say teenagers, and need picking up from places at 11 at night or whatever that you do need to stay sober. Particularly if you live rurally. Plenty of that ahead so enjoy it now while you can!

I was thinking the same Tatty.. The joy of offering your teenagers a lift home from a party..Then realising you have to stay sober and go out in the night with your coat over your pyjamas to sit in a freezing car when you'd rather be watching Casualty with a glass of wine.