AIBU for having a glass of wine while my DD is in bed?

[NeedSomePeaceAndQuite]

I have a 3YO DD, she has been an absolute nightmare handful today. It's been a long day from hell and now she's in bed in having a glass of wine on my second I feel absolutely fine and not drunk. I've just spoken to my mum on the phone who knew DD wasn't been well behaved today and mentioned I was having a glass of wine and according to her this is outrageous, what if DD is ill and I need to driver her to the hospital ect..

1. I have no intention of getting drunk so I can't care for her and if she did need to go the hospital I could get a taxi and still be perfectly fit to care for her

AIBU?

lulu - it's recommended that you don't drink alcohol with epilepsy.

It honestly never crossed my mind to not have the occasional drink when ds was small (have many more now he's big, I can tell ya).
I remember him having a sleepover with my sis and BIL (who have no children) and BIL asking me if it was ok if he had a beer when ds had gone to bed. I told him my yardstick was that as long as I could see straight to read a story, I was fine . Did make me wonder if I was being a shit mum (for about 3 seconds)

Down with this sort of thing!

Disgrace to Motherhood!

etc. etc.

(enjoy your wine)

IME when something serious happens drunk people tend to sober up very quickly if they're the one that has to be sensible, but you're not even drunk, a glass or two of wine is fine. I wouldn't reccomend getting drunk in case you fall into a deep sleep and couldn't be roused in an emergency, but because you're not getting drunk, drink away. My parents used to drink sangria etc when on holiday in charge of me, and nothing bad ever happened. Chances are if you were a bit tiddly and something happened, you'd sober up anyway

I think that your mum is BU.
I don't drink often but the only time I wouldn't is if DS (12 months) was already ill with something other than a cold for example.
Have another and enjoy

I have been a parent for 23 years and i have had ill kids once or twice I couldnt imagine not drinking

Ha crikey I did laugh at the as long as I can read a story

I'm the sort of person that even if I'm drunk I wake at the slightest noise and then feel the hangover instead of sleeping any of it off

The wine I going down very nicely I must say, thank you MN for agreeing IMBU all round

Your mother is being ridiculous. And judgemental.

This has been done over and over on here, enjoy your wine! Some parents (single or otherwise) don't drive at all. What do they do?! (Hyperventilates.)

I can walk to my local a&e quicker than driving and finding a parking spot so I merrily drink away. Again, what do people who don't drive do? That's right, get in with life.

I'm on my third gin!
I just don't care

YANBU

It always makes me laugh when people bang on about not being able to drive your children to hospital in an emergency.

What do they think non drivers do? Just sit there watching their children suffer?

Even if you do drive, in certain emergencies, and depending on the age of the child, you would be far better advised getting a taxi rather than trying to drive yourself. Or calling an ambulance if necessary.

Obviously if you have sole care for a child you shouldn't be drinking so much you cannot recognise your child is ill, call 999, and conduct a conversation. Otherwise, it's just another way of making mums feel shit.

Maryz too true. Luckily all of mine of varying ages are in tonight & therefore I'm taking the risk and having several glasses of wine.. If any of them fall seriously ill during the night I shall call a taxi/ ambulance as appropriate to the need

If your DD was seriously ill then YOU wouldn't be driving to the hospital anyway... you'd be going in an ambulance. Anything else and a taxi would be fine. Relax and enjoy your glass of wine.

The only emergency we ever had is years ago Dhs work alarm went off he was keyholder we had been out the police came to get him we were talk of the street for weeks dh driving off in the back of a police car

Rather be a passenger assisting the child than the driver having to ignore the child so I could drive safe

YABU

If you're going to have a glass of wine, you should have an ambulance - complete with a team of paramedics, parked on your driveway at all times.

You can never be too careful.

As MrsJ

I too have been a patent for 26 years and trust me wine helps.

You must not drink.

You must be prepared at all times for emergencies - you never know when that petrol station down the raid could suddenly combust and there be a major incident ! How could you forgive yourself if you had a glass of wine !

What if aliens invade and you can't drive off to escape their deadly clutches.

yABU - do not drink !

I'm a single parent, if I took that view I'd never be able to have a drink after they're in bed on a Saturday night and then I'd go insane

As I think has been said upthread, the only time I wouldn't would be if they were already poorly or I was worried I'd be up in the night with them.

Absolutely wine helps

dear me.

last I heard, it wasn't compulsory to have a car before getting pregnant!

you're in the UK, I presume, with excellent transport and medical services. You have taxi numbers, cash and a working phone in case of emergency.

I think a small relaxant hardly constitutes irresponsible parenting!

Does your mum think people who can't drive shouldn't have children? YANBU