to think MN should get into the 21st Century instead of pedalling sexist shite?

[SpartaCarcass]

Massive sigh at the 'Mumsnet swears by' email. Suggestions for Mother's Day presents:
Scented shitey formaldehyde polluting candles
Hair brushes!
Cookery Book
Perfume
A coat
Bath shit stuff
Hand cream, nail varnish, flowers, shite....
Maybe some books mentioned if you look hard enough.

So that's all you can think of?? Looking pretty, cooking and smelling nice afterwards??

Can you seriously not think of something less 1950s?
I went back and looked at suggestions for Father's Day presents - and while they are still stereotyping they at least look a bit more "fun":
Whiskey, Game of Thrones Box set, pans (wow! irony?), craft beer and Stephen Fry book.

How about celebrating your mother being a person? Not some domestic goddess serf mashup.

Oh and don't get me started on the blaze of sexist shite cards - paraphrasing "Mummy thank you for cooking, cleaning and wiping my arse for the last fifteen years - here have a "day off" and smarten yourself up a bit"

/end rant

Do people really expect to get more than a handmade card, some daffs, and cold tea and toast in bed? It's supposed to be something from the children. Anyone expecting different is surely being a tad greedy, non?

It's a bit sad to me that Mothers Day is now just seen as another excuse to spend money on tat.

DS1 asked DH to take him shopping for a gift this year.

I have no idea what to expect but he's really excited about it.

It could be anything from slippers to a life size blow up chewbacca.

I can't wait to find out. :o

Anything made by a child as a gift would be treasured by me, whether for Shite day Bollox day or plain old Birthday.

I have a big box on top of my wardrobe filled with lovely handmade shite. I always get a bit a dust in my eye when I fetch it down.

I do like all those things
Although i do see your point

Tbh I am a little troubled by the commercialism of it.
Make or buy a card, give a little bunch of flowers, bake a cake, make tea and toast if you're old enough.
There is so much crap for sale and prssire to spend money on nothing in particular

We are all very diverse ladies (oh, sorry, women, lady is sexist, I was told), with a lot of very different interest. For me it would be a set of Sennelier paints with complete assortment of brushes, for others it would be power tools, hiking gear, cooking instruments, video games, good booze etc.
In the end, the suggestion page for MN would be a real online shop. And if something was missing, you can be sure somebody would whine because their own hobby is missing.
That is not the point for MN, nor should it be. So it will take the statistically the most common denominator, with a set limit of items, and put it up. The majority of women or men will be pleased, the rest, normally, should be just meh. But apparently social justice is just everywhere...

The best gift is surely 'daffodil made from eggbox at playgroup painted in mustard yellow poster paint'. I would love one of those actually. It's a classic. Can't go wrong.

A lot of women are in to those types of things though, i dont see any issue with it.
Why cant women enjoy looking/feeling without it being seen as sexiest?

I agree with the making of things is better than actually buying. A nice cake, breakfast in bed and some flowers will do me.

It just seems a bit lazy to me, mumsnet should ?know? that mothers have a huge range of interests, so why is it sending out such a stereotyped email of 'gifts that mums like'? Although the coat is an interesting option for sure!

I've never really done mothers day as my mother's birthday is at the same sort of time of year, so we just celebrated that. We'd cook her a nice meal and give her a gift that she had suggested, same as for anyone else in the family.

My children have given me lovely things made at school which were all lovely, if they wanted to do more than that I mostly steered them towards making me a nice cup of tea in bed (in the days when they didn't get up several hours after me!)

nooka I'm dreaming of DD getting old enough to bring hot coffee up the stairs!

Iona those daffodils are rather lovely aren't they.

I'm the poor sod who saws wood for the fire - so I'm asking for a new saw.

I'm also insisting on being allowed to lie on the sofa all day eating chocolates and watching Lord Of The Rings without a single whine from the kids - who always pretend it's Harry Potter, and make bitchy remarks the whole way through. If they just shut up and go out for the day, I'll be very happy.

When my older kids were still at home, we'd go to the seaside for the day but I can't afford that any more. So it's Poundland chocolate and old DVDs. And I'm going to make someone else get up to let the dog go out to the toilet, all day.

I would quite like power tools for Mother's Day - they'd have to be pink though, because they're for a girl.

A friend's mother got a pink toolbox one year, containing pink hammer, screwdriver, pink pliers... you get the idea.

She loved it, but it was prefect for her - she likes pink and DIY and had been moaning the tools are all black, blue and green.

I don't think this is sexist or anything to worry about really. As someone with a male friend who loves knitting, I know very well that the traditional recommended gifts for men and women won't always be accurate. But people have lots of interests and in a Mumsnet Recommends email they can't really list absolutely everything that someone might be into, so picking some of the things that are more likely seems appropriate. Don't see an issue with this at all.

I would like a big cake all to myself for Mother's Day. And hopefully not made by the children!

I have a 4000 word essay due in the day after mothers day so I would quite like my 8 year old to offer the gift of total silence whilst I panic write! I think I'm getting egg cups though, which is nice too.

Some people are very materialistic wanting expensive presents - I thought it was very much a token thing of flowers or chocolates. Best of all are homemade efforts.

What do you mean materialistic?

Mothering DS would be well worth getting a Ferrari if only he could afford it. And he's an easy and only child.

Good luck with that one Peggy