to think MN should get into the 21st Century instead of pedalling sexist shite?

[SpartaCarcass]

Massive sigh at the 'Mumsnet swears by' email. Suggestions for Mother's Day presents:
Scented shitey formaldehyde polluting candles
Hair brushes!
Cookery Book
Perfume
A coat
Bath shit stuff
Hand cream, nail varnish, flowers, shite....
Maybe some books mentioned if you look hard enough.

So that's all you can think of?? Looking pretty, cooking and smelling nice afterwards??

Can you seriously not think of something less 1950s?
I went back and looked at suggestions for Father's Day presents - and while they are still stereotyping they at least look a bit more "fun":
Whiskey, Game of Thrones Box set, pans (wow! irony?), craft beer and Stephen Fry book.

How about celebrating your mother being a person? Not some domestic goddess serf mashup.

Oh and don't get me started on the blaze of sexist shite cards - paraphrasing "Mummy thank you for cooking, cleaning and wiping my arse for the last fifteen years - here have a "day off" and smarten yourself up a bit"

/end rant

I want a slightly sexist Mother's Day present. Yesterday I had such a sharp pain in my chest I nearly called an ambulance out. Turned out it was the underwire in my ONLY 'really properly comfortable' bra. I would really like a new one. As punishment, I would be happy to burn the old one... Straw poll on whether it is acceptable to ask for one for Mother's Day?

Also, SpartaCarcass please tell me more about these scooters, I really want DH to get one to make it quicker for him to get takeaway and do other errands for me. Is this a swish, zippy motor scooter you're talking about or an adult Mini Micro? Budget probably only extends to the Mini Micro type but I'm unsure about whether kids in the park will laugh and throw rocks at him or if he will look super cool. Thank you in advance! .

I can't get worked up about this stuff. I would like some of that stuff and not like some of it. I have just bought some multi tool hair clips though so if my mum's lucky she'll get one for Mother's Day.

Last year I "bought" my mum a donation to a charity that provides maternity services in Africa. Hopefully I bought something for her too.

Nobody is restricting anyone's choices unless it is people like you telling other women what they should and should not like.

Fwiw I actually don't like candles, flowers (or booze actually) but I am intelligent enough to recognise that advertising exists to make money and is therefore a load of bollocks. I don't deny, at all, that some advertising is downright horrendous and extremely damaging, but I don't see being sent an email advertising a scented candle as part of that.

You can dress it up as you simply wanting "other" choices all you want but essentially you are still being disparaging about things that other women may enjoy and get pleasure from.

For me feminism is about choice. I can choose if I want a scented candle or a game of thrones box set. It isn't decided for me because someone sent me an email.

IonaMN the scooters are fab. I tried the adults ones out in Decathlon link again here and spent half an hour ages going round and round the shop. They are really smooth and have suspension, there's a more expensive one with a hand brake too. Bigger wheels mean they go further per 'scoot' and are a smoother ride. It is on my birthday present list in real life.

And no to the bra - buy one anyway then burn the old one and ask for some Bacardi fuego!

Straw poll on whether it is acceptable to ask for one for Mother's Day?

Course it's acceptable, but would you trust someone to buy you a decent bra? no, i would urge you to treat yourself to a new bra and let a mothers day gift be wine and chocolate, everyone likes wine and chocolate

Personally I think being sold a heavily priced, processed, perfumed and packaged jar of soap, or a lump of wax air freshener as a "treat" is a miracle of advertising and years of lifestyle grooming - but hey ho

Ah, see. It always comes out in the end.

I think that sort of attitude can be as poisonous as misogyny. Suggesting women such as myself who like scented candles have been 'groomed' to do so is incredibly belittling.

I have a mind of my own and am perfectly capable of using it. Who are you to mock my or any other womans personal taste in gifts?

Given the amount of trackers and cookies on MN I'd imagine MNHQ have a very good idea of what the average mn'er likes.

I get lab suppliers adds for some reason. I'd rather have the MN list for mother's day.

I agree with mistress

[goes off to sniff my formaldehyde]

I would like my dd to actually still be alive so she could buy me flowers and shite, however yesterday I took some cuddly toy shite to her grave.

Sugar

Misrtess You are right.

Also that scooter thing sounds pricey! Chocolates are much more reasonable. Unless you're looking for your DP/DH to buy you an expensive gift in which case you're very materialistic not a feminist.

Wow, you are seriously salty aren't you? I wear the pants in my house, I control the money, I work full time, I earn 36k a year, husband earns 115k a year, have brought 2 kids up to adulthood, one of each sex, who are both equals, have lovely life, I fucking love flowers, wine, chocolate, cookery books, kitchen gadgets, what is your problem? And to really piss you off, I bought myself a scented Apple Denman hairbrush and I fucking love it.

for you Sugar. Mother's Day must be really difficult.

I like metal music and home brewing.
I'm trying to learn metal casting.

Sugar.

Sparkling with you on the vienesse truffles they are amazing. Dh for some reason has decided I like champagne truffles. I like sparkling wine and I like chocolate and I do like chamagnetic truffles (which I think have brandy in anyway) but I much prefer the vienesse truffles.
but I can't tell him. Not since the Roxette cd fiasco of the early 2000s

And also, bigredballoon, you swear like a trooper! Go you!

Ahhhh sugar sorry for that crass post. I should take my own advice and read the thread. I will eat my champagne truffles happily, and might even put on the Roxette cd.
x

They are the best of gritty sugary chocolate goodness Stealth. Especially good bit is the bottom of thick chocolate.

Oh and you can keep your whiskey and craft beer, give me an Instant Pot and a silicone spatula anyway.

SpartaCarcass - thanks for the link! £70 is a lot but that would shave ten mins off his journey to the station at home I reckon, and at least 15 off his journey at the other end. Would quickly save that in taxis. He really would feel like a knob getting in a cab with that.

Plus... what price a warm takeaway, eh? (DH doesn't drive. I could, of course, get off my proverbial and get it myself I suppose, but that's another thread).

Thank you.

The viennese truffles are the ones with the sugary coating right?

I'm shocked at the lack of gin, , and .

IonaMN
You have one comfortable bra and you are asking us if you are allowed a single replacement? Think a little bigger! (Quantity, that is, not bra size).