to think MN should get into the 21st Century instead of pedalling sexist shite?

[SpartaCarcass]

Massive sigh at the 'Mumsnet swears by' email. Suggestions for Mother's Day presents:
Scented shitey formaldehyde polluting candles
Hair brushes!
Cookery Book
Perfume
A coat
Bath shit stuff
Hand cream, nail varnish, flowers, shite....
Maybe some books mentioned if you look hard enough.

So that's all you can think of?? Looking pretty, cooking and smelling nice afterwards??

Can you seriously not think of something less 1950s?
I went back and looked at suggestions for Father's Day presents - and while they are still stereotyping they at least look a bit more "fun":
Whiskey, Game of Thrones Box set, pans (wow! irony?), craft beer and Stephen Fry book.

How about celebrating your mother being a person? Not some domestic goddess serf mashup.

Oh and don't get me started on the blaze of sexist shite cards - paraphrasing "Mummy thank you for cooking, cleaning and wiping my arse for the last fifteen years - here have a "day off" and smarten yourself up a bit"

/end rant

Oh look, women being told what they should and shouldn't like.

Feminism y'all.

Yanbu. It is so tired and cliched. If I was interested in any of that stuff I would subscribe to Woman & Home or similar.

My ideal Mothers Day present would be tickets to a show or a really special meal out with the family or a long weekend away (possibly on my own) with no domestic duties/worries.

"or a long weekend away (possibly on my own) with no domestic duties/worries"

In a spa?

I can't think of a better present than books.
Alternatives tend to be expensive and I don't want them paying for money for shows etc.
I love getting flowers, bath stuff, handcream etc.

I could really do with a new chain for my chainsaw.

That would be a good gift for me.

Obviously I only use it so I can giggle whilst it makes me jiggle.

Dh did well with his last gift, a multi-tool hair clip which was actually practical.

The real things I want for Mother's Day are the hand made card and the lump of unrecognisable glued-together-stuff-from-the-drawer. They will keep me from murder for another year.

I would hate for them to buy me tat when they can make me meaningful weirdnesses.

I don't expect it will go down well, but I like getting chocolates too.

I have got my mother a nice scarf and some of her favourite chocolates.

Completely agree about the sexist stereotyped bullshit OP, but tbh an email saying "think carefully about what the mother in your life actually genuinely likes and then buy accordingly" isn't really marketing.

Also, these threads never end well.

I don't need a brush as I don't have much hair, but the rest I would love.

I guess I'm just a stereotype 1950's mother and housewife :(

I actually love all that kind of shite. Especially toiletry stuff!

I would be happy with anything with an alcohol content

I would quite like power tools for Mother's Day - they'd have to be pink though, because they're for a girl.

[Grrrrrrrr] Grinds teeth.

Um
I'm getting perfume and new leather gloves :)
Love bath stuff as I love baths!
Also love chocolate and books, and candles.
So....er....yeah....

All I want is a bag of Thorntons Viennese Truffles and for the teen DSs to not fight. I don't want a power drill or socket set thanks.

I would like all of the things on that list. I can see that they wouldn't appeal to everyone, and there's certainly scope for additions, but to suggest that the suggestions are from the '1950s' and suitable for a 'goddess serf mashup' is pretty insulting to people who do like those. We need fewer limitations, not just a different set.

And thank you to acasualobserver.

I would like a poem written by dd and a cuddle and a cup of tea from my ds.

I agree that the Mother's Day list is boring and not for me. It takes all sorts though and some people do like to burn those minging candles. Perhaps a little variety to reflect our diversity?

Hair brushes - most people have hair
cookery books - I don't have a cook so do most of it myself
Perfume - meh
Bath shit stuff - fine
and cream, nail varnish, flowers, shite.... - again fine

How on earth is any of that stuff sexist? . I'd love a great big bottle of whiskey for mothers day but realistically my DS will probably choose daffodils (I got bangles last year)

I don't like GoT, don't need pans, don't like beer and while I like SF I also believe him to be a pillock!

It's a daft day OP. However I am looking forward to the annual MN threads about mums vs MIL's. It's not mothers Day without them

NOT IN A FUCKING SPA!!!

Oh. Just seen the cook book. I don't want that as DH does all the cooking here. I would love a subscription for Woman & Home I love it

Dh is abroad this year for Mother's Day.
My own mother won't tell me what she wants so will get flowers.
Mil will get a candle :) from Dh

Is it acceptable to ask for cash for mothers day? Perhaps i could write the DSes DH a poem to politely request said cash?

I'm really quite happy with bath salts, perfume, books, flowers, chocs and definitely, definitely anything alcoholic. Only I never get the alcohol, cos dh takes the dc to choose something for me, and they've not thought of alcohol yet.

One mother's day, DS2 came out of school, issuing strict instructions not to look in his school bag as his MD gift was in there. So I didn't. Come Mother's Day, I found a daffodil posy crushed and wilted, having spent 2 nights squashed in a dark school bag. They perked up though

I want the board game Ticket to Ride - India version (niche interest). I really don't want another scented candle or flowers or chocs (as I am too lardy).

It's the usual 'I don't really know much about who the person who birthed me is, so I'll buy some safe gender appropriate crap'. I hate flowers - dead things that wilt as you watch, candles give me a headache, and I can't cook won't cook. I do love luxury skincare but am discerning about brands so it would be risky.

One year DS bought me a Galena Geode. It was fake but it was so sweet of him to try to buy for my interests so I'll always treasure it. And I always have a book wishlist that he's welcome to consult.

There's nothing wrong with liking traditionally feminine stuff, but it wouldn't kill MN to mix it up a bit, I think that's the OPs point.

YANBU

I really want a scooter now.