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To ask you all to help calm me down re dd's vaccinations

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Givinguph0pe · 24/02/2016 17:09

Dd is due her 8 week jabs tomorrow. Since she was born I've suffered terribly with ptsd, pnd and extreme anxiety - particularly around dd being ill.

I know she has to have the vaccines but the idea of taking my tiny helpless baby along to be jabbed by something which may make her ill is making me feel incredibly anxious already. I took ds and didn't worry but everything has been different this time round.

Please tell me how she will be ok after the jabs. I know the risk is greater not having them but it just feels awful taking my healthy baby for something which might harm her.

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StarUtopia · 24/02/2016 22:19

Disease rates are down for a whole host of reasons, of which vaccines actually plays a smaller part than most ppl realise.

For eg..for measles..check www.jayne-donegan.co.uk/measles-2013

I have part vaccinated so I'm not an 'anti-vaxxer' but I have respect for those who have taken the time to research and find out what's in these vaccines etc. Far too many just allow the doc to inject based on, we've been told to have it, the NHS do it, it must be safe etc etc

Please. You should all do your research. It's actually pretty irresponsible for everyone to just be telling OP to get on with it and it will be fine imo. The world' sheep' springs to mind...

To ask you all to help calm me down re dd's vaccinations
UnderTheGreenwoodTree · 24/02/2016 22:19

sugar21 Thanks

ollieplimsoles · 24/02/2016 22:20

So sorry about this sugar, people like you push the life saving vaccine despite everything you have suffered, then people come along with their total bullshit Flowers

UnderTheGreenwoodTree · 24/02/2016 22:21

OP - Do not under any circumstances research this on the interweb, or click on any anti-vaccination sites. They are choc-full of pseudo-science, mis-information and downright lies that would put the willies up anyone, never mind a mother of an 8wk old with anxiety Thanks

WelliesTheyAreWonderful · 24/02/2016 22:22

Hand holding too. I think it's much worse for us as parents than it is for them! DS cried but I think it was more out of shock than pain, he just got a little fright and when I distracted him he totally forgot about it! I now feel safe in the knowledge that he's no longer at risk from catching the measles which put my DSis in hospital and put her sight at risk. He didn't have any after-effects from the vaccines either.

MummaGiles · 24/02/2016 22:23

She will be fine. My DS was just more sleepy after his jabs, which was brilliant! Rest for me! He's just had his 12 month jabs which included his MMR and even that hasn't affected him. Much better to make her even a teeny bit ill from the jabs than have her actually contract one of these awful diseases - we forgot how bad they are now that they are so rare as a result of childhood vaccinations.

DirtyHarrietOnABike · 24/02/2016 22:23

Don't do it!!! I regret it deeply.

ollieplimsoles · 24/02/2016 22:25

I was sort of with you right up to the word sheep springs to mind

A really shitty thing to say. The op has made her decision, she asked for reassurance...

sugar21 · 24/02/2016 22:25

I just don't want to say anything because OP is anxious and doesnt need my input. So just it will be ok OP Flowers

ollieplimsoles · 24/02/2016 22:26

What happened Dirty ??

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DirtyHarrietOnABike · 24/02/2016 22:28

My son got TB from the BCG vaccine

Hezaire · 24/02/2016 22:28

Sort term worry for you but long term peace of mind I think. X

YerTiz · 24/02/2016 22:28

She will be fine. She'll shriek because of the shock and it stinging, you will cuddle her and make everything better, she'll be protected from those diseases and you won't have to worry about them. Flowers

ollieplimsoles · 24/02/2016 22:32

The BCG is not given anymore routinely and not to babies, I don't think you should be telling op not to vaccinate her baby based on this.

MrsTerryPratchett · 24/02/2016 22:32

And I could have got drug-resistant TB from a street person I worked with. Luckily I had had the BCG so didn't. He was in hospital for months. Could have killed him.

I know vaccines damage. I know people suffer greatly. But the stats are that vaccines save more lives than vaccines affect.

And, why am I pro-obesity and anti-vegetables because I'm pro-vaccine? Seems like a leap.

JoyofSpring · 24/02/2016 22:32

OP - I felt exactly the same as you when I took my DD2 for her jabs. Weirdly, just like you, I had been OK with DD1.

I hated the idea about her being hurt and in particular was having a wobble about giving her paracetamol. Having read the Lancet article on Men B vaccine and paracetamol and the NHS guidelines for healthcare professionals I found that if I separated the men b from the other jabs they are much less likely to get a fever and therefore prophylactic paracetamol is not required.

I also had a long chat with my GP about it and also discussed with her whether we should have rota virus (which we did). In the end, I delayed all the jabs for 2 weeks and then separated them out so she had Men B a week after the others. I did lots of deep breathing while she was having the jabs.

Anyway, what I am trying to say is this. You are not alone. It's normal to feel horrible about injecting your precious tiny baby with a sharp needle and something that can make them feel poorly - even if it is for their own good. Add to that the worries of should I / shouldn't I vaccinate at all and a whole load of postnatal hormones and it's no surprise that most of us are crying harder than the baby by the time we get to the doctor.

You will both be fine and it will all be over quickly. We've got 16 week jabs next week (at 18 weeks) and I'm feeling OK about it now! It was just that first one that was so awful.

Good luck!!

Heatherplant · 24/02/2016 22:35

I get what you're saying, I made my other half take my little guy for his last round of jabs. Taking him for the first lot did make me cry but it was something that I felt he needed to keep him healthy having read up on the pros and cons of immunization. Do you have a health care professional you trust that you can talk your concerns over with? I had a really lovely HV who I chatted to about my anxiety around my little guy after he was first born and I found her to be very supportive. Depends on the HV service in your area and they get a bad rep on here but I find mine really good for stuff like this.

badg3r · 24/02/2016 22:37

Sorry you are having a tough time op. No vaccine is 100% effective. In getting dd vaccinated you are also taking care of ds who will have a much reduced chance of being exposed to these awful diseases if they both have immunity. Complications are very rare. Weighing up the risks, vaccination is the best decision by far.
Good luck for tomorrow. It will be a relief for both of you once it's done!

StarUtopia · 24/02/2016 22:37

ollie I wasn't referring to the OP as being a sheep...I was referring to everyone just telling her to get on with it!

Plus, I personally didn't read her post as her having made up her mind. I saw a post where someone was not in a good place at the moment, and I thought she should know she can wait. It doesn't have to be now I saw reassurance as being, help me. I see help as...take some time.

Militant people on either side of this very contentious debate really really don't help. Can we not all be a little bit more open minded??

gooseberryroolz · 24/02/2016 22:41

I can imagine all these vaccinated children growing up and being really pissed off when they find out their parents vaccinated them and put them at risk. I was. My dc won't be. Keep up now.

"Keep up now"?? Are you not even going to attempt to sound reasonable and pleasant schlo? Hmm

AuntDotsie · 24/02/2016 22:41

I know a little bit of how you feel, OP. My DS was in the SCBU for a week when he was born, lots of jabs, tests etc.

But honestly, it's fine. He had a bit of a raised red area where the injections were, cried for a few seconds and had a long sleep that night, but he was utterly fine. I find the peace of mind I get from knowing I did my best for him in regards to these horrific diseases outweighs any negative feelings about needles and all that. Flowers

Alasalas · 24/02/2016 22:44

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Brummiegirl15 · 24/02/2016 22:49

Calpol is given now as standard with the jabs due to the men B vaccine resulting in a raised temp. They don't like you to give it before, but literally the second after it's done. And then repeat 2 more doses every 4-6 hrs

My baby was 6 wks premature and when she was in hospital recently I asked this very question- should I push them back? Was told absolutely not, because she was prem, it was even more important

All the anti- vaxers though will rely on the herd immunity. I don't like the idea of it either but it's ok for my child to have them so yours doesn't have to???

If we all thought like that then we would have a very serious situation on our hands

OP honestly, your DD will be ok - just make sure you have calpol for when you get home

DirtyHarrietOnABike · 24/02/2016 22:49

BCG was the first vaccine my baby was given - only a few days old. I deeply regret not finding the time to do more research about vaccines before he was born. Afterwards I started seeing side effects in almost all his peers, eczema being the most common. It's a tragedy.

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