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Playdate DCs haven't been picked up. Should I drop them off?

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Recordmirror · 21/02/2016 20:33

So a mum from my DCs school asked me to have her two DCs today as her two are the same age/in the same class as my two youngest.
The DCs have been here a couple of times before but usually I arrange this with their dad and he picks them up.
But he is away on business and so their mum asked me to take them today as a favour whilst she is in work.

I've had them since 9 this morning. She was supposed to pick them up at 6:30. I called her at 7 and 7:30 and 8 and 8:15 but she's not replying. I have text her a number of times and nothing.

My DCs should be in bed. Her eldest isn't bothered but her youngest is getting upset saying that she should be in bed. I haven't told them that their mum should have picked them up by now.

Should I go round to theirs? I don't want to worry the DCs if their mum isn't there when we get there. But I would like to know where she is. So would I be unreasonable to go round there?

OP posts:
hibbleddible · 21/02/2016 21:27

This sounds very worrying op.

Either she has had something untoward happen meaning she can't either pick up the children or contact you, or she is neglecting her children and taking advantage of you.

I agree to call 101 and ask for advice. If she can't be located soon I would imagine it would be an issue for the police and social services.

eatyouwithaspoon · 21/02/2016 21:27

How very odd. I hope the mum is ok, maybe as others have sugested fb her family? Im not sure I would contact police yet but definatley would if family cannot get hold of her.

Missanneshirley · 21/02/2016 21:27

Oh you poor thing. As someone above said I think it's very important that the kids think this is planned - eg your mum let me know she's going to be a bit late type of thing? Just to try not to panic them. Fx for you

Crabbitface · 21/02/2016 21:28

Any chance that she meant she'd pick them up at 6.30 am???

UmbongoUnchained · 21/02/2016 21:28

Really hope it's a massive piss take :(

makingmiracles · 21/02/2016 21:28

Hope you hear something soon Brew

DreamingOfAFullNightsSleep · 21/02/2016 21:28

I agree with the others, routinely dumped children don't seem to notice routine changes so much.

Any news OP?

DameBabsLoveCheese · 21/02/2016 21:28

Oh no. Poor babies. It's hard to believe that any mother could be so selfish as to knowingly leave her kids with you like this. But then the alternative is too horrible to contemplate.
Hoping for a happy outcome.

Twowrongsdontmakearight · 21/02/2016 21:29

Seconding other posters that I'd get in touch with police. Three hours is very late particularly on a school night. I hope everything is ok with their mum.

UterusUterusGhali · 21/02/2016 21:29

What a worry. :(

This sort of happened to me once when I was babysitting as a teenager. They turned up the next morning having been arrested. Hmm
They were out on the tokes though. Not working in an office!

Hunchbackofnotre · 21/02/2016 21:29

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Turquoisetamborine · 21/02/2016 21:29

I'd do a public Facebook post to see if anyone has seen her. How worrying.

NeedACleverNN · 21/02/2016 21:30

Sounds worrying.

I would call 101 too by now

PeppermintPatty1 · 21/02/2016 21:30

Fast moving thread. Agree that with no lights on and no answer at the house there is no option other than to call the police and request a welfare check. I think we should slow the thread down until you have a chance to sort yourself out there! Hope you're ok OP - this is horrible for you.

BoredHorse · 21/02/2016 21:30

What a difficult situation for you. Poor children too. I would be calling 101 for sure by now.

DancingDinosaur · 21/02/2016 21:31

I'd call the police now. Shes 3 hours late.

SirChenjin · 21/02/2016 21:31

That doesn't sound good. Hopefully the police will be able to put your mind at ease - definitely time to call them.

Mumblechum1 · 21/02/2016 21:31

Surely if she meant 6.30 am, they'd have their pjs and uniforms with them?

MilleniumTalcum · 21/02/2016 21:31

It would surely be hard to avoid the kids hearing the phone call and getting worried so you're doing the right thing putting them to bed. But definitely ting when you can Flowers

Furiosa · 21/02/2016 21:31

UmbongoUnchained

I hope you're right, but for fuck's sake, what's with your username?!Grin

MilleniumTalcum · 21/02/2016 21:32

*ring

Only1scoop · 21/02/2016 21:32

Hardly a 'playdate' full days childcare covering the dm's work.

Hope you hear soon

lifesalongsong · 21/02/2016 21:32

I remember the previous thread like this and the one where the OP heard noises of someone falling in the flat above hers, iirc both were cases were the police were rightly involved, I agree with those saying ring 101 but I also understand that as you're in sole charge of 4 young children that's easier said than done.

GlitteryFluff · 21/02/2016 21:32

I think I'd settled the kids down for bed and call 101 out of earshot. Hope everything turns out ok.

HPandBaconSandwiches · 21/02/2016 21:33

Oh how worrying.

Do you have their dads phone number or would any of your school contacts? I know you said he's away but he may be able to clarify if she's likely to do something flakey or if there's good reason to be worried.

Hope you can get those children settled.

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