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Playdate DCs haven't been picked up. Should I drop them off?

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Recordmirror · 21/02/2016 20:33

So a mum from my DCs school asked me to have her two DCs today as her two are the same age/in the same class as my two youngest.
The DCs have been here a couple of times before but usually I arrange this with their dad and he picks them up.
But he is away on business and so their mum asked me to take them today as a favour whilst she is in work.

I've had them since 9 this morning. She was supposed to pick them up at 6:30. I called her at 7 and 7:30 and 8 and 8:15 but she's not replying. I have text her a number of times and nothing.

My DCs should be in bed. Her eldest isn't bothered but her youngest is getting upset saying that she should be in bed. I haven't told them that their mum should have picked them up by now.

Should I go round to theirs? I don't want to worry the DCs if their mum isn't there when we get there. But I would like to know where she is. So would I be unreasonable to go round there?

OP posts:
Gruntfuttock · 21/02/2016 21:23

Are you going to contact 101?

Furiosa · 21/02/2016 21:23

OP You need to establish that the mother hasn't had an accident.

Why won't you call 101?

Only1scoop · 21/02/2016 21:23

Don't worry about the school uniform issue Op.

They would hardly be going if DM still AWOL.

flossietoot · 21/02/2016 21:23

I would phone the police.

MattDillonsPants · 21/02/2016 21:24

I agree that at this point, the police is not an overreaction. She could be in the house ill.

Christinayangstwistedsista · 21/02/2016 21:24

You really need to contact the police

duckyneedsaclean · 21/02/2016 21:24

Yes, getting them in bed is the best plan, op. Then get on the phone to 101, explain the situation and ask them to do an urgent welfare check.

Maybe fb message her family?

origamiwarrior · 21/02/2016 21:24

Def put the kids to bed - best case scenario Mum turns up and takes sleepy children home, worse case they get a good night's sleep, ahead of school tomorrow and whatever the day might bring.

Leaving them awake and anxious is not good for anyone.

As soon as they are settled, call 101

DoingTheBestICan · 21/02/2016 21:24

I'd ring the pol de now tbh, she could have had an accident in work and be still there, hope you hear from her soon op.

edwinbear · 21/02/2016 21:25

Lack of a uniform is a non issue. Wash the clothes they are in tonight, if they have to go in tomorrow in today's clothes and out of uniform, under the circumstances I really can't see school objecting.

AdriftOnMemoryBliss · 21/02/2016 21:25

i wouldn't normally advocate panicking, but i think at this point its either

a)some emergency and she's held up
b) her Dh isnt away on business and the two of them are taking the piss.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 21/02/2016 21:25

Op contact 101 now.

Mia1415 · 21/02/2016 21:25

How awful. I think I'd be calling the police now. I really hope everything is ok

WitchWay · 21/02/2016 21:25
Sad hoping for news soon
DancingDinosaur · 21/02/2016 21:25

Crikey, that is a worry. Hope their mum is ok.

BadgersNadgers · 21/02/2016 21:25

All you can do is settle the kids. Do the mum and dad live together? Could they have gone for a night out?

MillionToOneChances · 21/02/2016 21:25

If the children are upset and not saying she's done this before, I'd definitely call the police as soon as you e got them to bed. In my experience even quite young children will 'out' a parent who is routinely late to collect them.

DoingTheBestICan · 21/02/2016 21:26

Sorry, I meant police

DartmoorDoughnut · 21/02/2016 21:26

So glad that whatever has/is happening she left the kids with someone as caring and capable as you OP Flowers

StrawberryLeaf · 21/02/2016 21:26

That's so worrying, I hope she turns up very soon and it's nothing serious

NK5BM3 · 21/02/2016 21:27

You really need to call the police. It's late. It's school tomorrow and the youngest knows she ought to be asleep (so indicates she's used to a routine).

Do they usually live with the mum? You said you usually organise play dates with the dad...? Do you not have his number??

I'd be v worried. :( hang in there.

FirstWeTakeManhattan · 21/02/2016 21:27

The OP is undoubtedly trying to deal with at least 4 kids' bedtime routines. It won't be easy for her to call until she can do so away from settled children, I imagine.

But, yes. Do call OP, as soon as you can.

harboromummy · 21/02/2016 21:27

Oh I hope she's okay x

dynevoran · 21/02/2016 21:27

I'd put kids to bed and call police as well. Hope she is okay.

phlebasconsidered · 21/02/2016 21:27

Get the kids in bed, make a sleepover of it, be breezy. Check local FB pages and so on for news, ring the police. I live very rurally, an auto accident could remain unreported for a while on our wee roads with infrequent traffic, so i'd ring the police for sure. Equally, when I lived in London, I still experienced huge delays in travel. It's likely that it's something simple and she's delayed with a dead phone feeling anxious, but always best to be safe. If it were me, i'd be glad that another mum had my back.

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