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Playdate DCs haven't been picked up. Should I drop them off?

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Recordmirror · 21/02/2016 20:33

So a mum from my DCs school asked me to have her two DCs today as her two are the same age/in the same class as my two youngest.
The DCs have been here a couple of times before but usually I arrange this with their dad and he picks them up.
But he is away on business and so their mum asked me to take them today as a favour whilst she is in work.

I've had them since 9 this morning. She was supposed to pick them up at 6:30. I called her at 7 and 7:30 and 8 and 8:15 but she's not replying. I have text her a number of times and nothing.

My DCs should be in bed. Her eldest isn't bothered but her youngest is getting upset saying that she should be in bed. I haven't told them that their mum should have picked them up by now.

Should I go round to theirs? I don't want to worry the DCs if their mum isn't there when we get there. But I would like to know where she is. So would I be unreasonable to go round there?

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IsEatBedThyme · 22/02/2016 07:53

I work in a nursery and a couple of years ago, one of the mums didn't turn up. Three children at the nursery, had never been late. We closed at 6pm. Two members of staff stayed at the nursery with the children. By 8pm they were very worried. Stupidly we only had the mums phone number nobody elses (we now insist on contact numbers for at least 3 people). Anyway to cut a long story short, the mum was eventually traced at around 3am by the police... at the bottom of her cellar steps in complete darkness with numerous broken bones after falling down them and being unable to move. She'd been shouting for help for hours but nobody could hear her from where she was.

Goingtobeawesome · 22/02/2016 07:53

It's hard to know how soon to worry and ring the police in this situation but I know of an 18 month old who spent 48 hours alone with the body of his mum before anyone checked. This was 40+ years ago and the two lived alone. Due to this I think I'd be thinking about alerting the authorities maybe sooner than necessary.

I hope the children all slept ok, OP, and that all is okay. Annoying as it would be I hope it is just that she wanted more free time. The alternative is too awful to contemplate.

Groovee · 22/02/2016 07:54

Hoping you and the children got some sleep and that there is good news for you this morning.

icanteven · 22/02/2016 07:55

I hope you heard from the Mum last n

icanteven · 22/02/2016 07:57

Sorry!

I hope you heard from the mum last night. If you haven't heard yet, are the children all in the same school? Presumably it is okay to bring them to school this morning?

skinoncustard · 22/02/2016 08:07

Nothing from the father?
No matter which time zone he is in it must be, or has been, evening or morning by now . Surely he would check his phone after work or when he woke.
These Dc will be so upset this morning, they will realise something is not right.

Aramynta · 22/02/2016 08:08

I hope everything is OK this morning OP and they have found her

Redglitter · 22/02/2016 08:11

There's nothing to say the dad hasn't been in touch. The last update from the OP was hours ago. Loads could have happened by then

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skinoncustard · 22/02/2016 08:26

There's nothing to say the dad hasn't been in touch. The last update from the OP was hours ago. Loads could have happened by then

That's why I posed the question - has there been no communication from the father.
They can't both have gone AWOL.
It's all very worrying. The OP must be beside herself! What on earth would you say to these children.
Let's hope it's all been resolved and the OP is having a well deserved rest/sleep.

BrieAndChilli · 22/02/2016 08:27

I would ring the school now as someone will be there and they should have some emergency contact numbers for the children.

Rezolution123 · 22/02/2016 08:28

Recordmirror Please give us an update as soon as you have a moment to spare. If it is bad news then you do not have to tell us anything too specific if the police are involved.
How are the DCs this morning?
You will be doing a great job if you can act as normal as possible.

willnotbetamed · 22/02/2016 08:30

Marking my place, and hoping against hope that there is a good explanation for what has happened (a minor accident or something). Also hoping for the nicer side of mumsnet to stay dominant on this thread. If this mother did effectively abandon her kids overnight, then she has a screw loose in my opinion - a horrible thing to do, especially for her kids, but perhaps with underlying reasons that we can't easily understand.

0christmastree5 · 22/02/2016 08:30

Still nothing!! How awful.

AnonymousBird · 22/02/2016 08:33

Hoping for a positive outcome and that the OP is simply on the school run and mum has returned.

DartmoorDoughnut · 22/02/2016 08:34

I'm guessing with 4/5/6 children to get to school the poor OP has her hands full! Really hope it's all resolved now and that the mum and kids are ok.

ChristmasZombie · 22/02/2016 08:37

It's 8:30am in the UK, so school will now be involved and (hopefully!) Recordmirror is getting some respite.
Please do update us when you're ready, but you must put yourself first right now. Rest, and let someone else (school, police, whoever) be in charge for a bit.

frozenfairy123 · 22/02/2016 08:37

Following x

fiddlesticks123 · 22/02/2016 08:42

OP you are being an absolute star, hope this morning brings some better news for all involved xx

Imnotaslimjim · 22/02/2016 08:44

Goodness I read this last night and honestly thought that they would turn up over night. I hope you've managed to get them to school and are getting some well earned rest

Canshopwillshop · 22/02/2016 08:44

Oh no, followed this last night and was really hoping things would be resolved by now. It's not good

diddl · 22/02/2016 08:44

Nothing yet?

Hope everyone managed some sleep.

My husband once got locked in somewhere overnight!

Aebj · 22/02/2016 08:49

Hope everything is ok

ApollO88 · 22/02/2016 08:49

Marking my place. Followed this last night and hoped that id wake up to an update along the lines of the mum frantically stuck in traffic with no battery/signal.

Hope all is resolved op

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