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Playdate DCs haven't been picked up. Should I drop them off?

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Recordmirror · 21/02/2016 20:33

So a mum from my DCs school asked me to have her two DCs today as her two are the same age/in the same class as my two youngest.
The DCs have been here a couple of times before but usually I arrange this with their dad and he picks them up.
But he is away on business and so their mum asked me to take them today as a favour whilst she is in work.

I've had them since 9 this morning. She was supposed to pick them up at 6:30. I called her at 7 and 7:30 and 8 and 8:15 but she's not replying. I have text her a number of times and nothing.

My DCs should be in bed. Her eldest isn't bothered but her youngest is getting upset saying that she should be in bed. I haven't told them that their mum should have picked them up by now.

Should I go round to theirs? I don't want to worry the DCs if their mum isn't there when we get there. But I would like to know where she is. So would I be unreasonable to go round there?

OP posts:
Evabeaversprotege · 21/02/2016 22:55

Are doing

DrRanjsRightEyebrow · 21/02/2016 22:56

Well done on getting the kids settled op. I hope the police get back to you with good news very soon so you can relax, you must be unbelievably stressed.

ButtonMoonLoon · 21/02/2016 22:56

How unsettling, I do hope that you hear from one of the parents really soon. It sounds as though you have done everything that you possibly could have done under the circumstances. Her children are very lucky to be with someone as caring as you. I hope that you have an ok night - hard to sleep with so much uncertainty I'd imagine.

Northernlurker · 21/02/2016 22:56

Police will be able to check the hospitals too. Tbh if you rang my dh when he was away for work there's a good chance he wouldn't answer. If eating out etc it's easy not to hear the phone.

donajimena · 21/02/2016 22:56

Were the police called?

Ooof35 · 21/02/2016 22:56

How awful for you, OP. Thank goodness the children are unaware. Really hope Mum makes contact soon.

freshmint · 21/02/2016 22:56

I'm really sorry to hear this. I hope all is well in the end. Fingers tightly crossed.

edwinbear · 21/02/2016 22:56

OP hope you are able to get some rest yourself tonight - do you need the be in work yourself tomorrow? Hope it all works out OK.

ZootSuit · 21/02/2016 22:57

You are doing well op, I'm not sure I would cope as well as you have been. I hope there is someone that can come and sit with you so you are not alone?

passmethewineplease · 21/02/2016 22:57

don OP said in her last update that she had phoned 101 and they were checking the Mums house and work place.

Lj8893 · 21/02/2016 22:57

Oh I really hope everything is ok.

There was a similar thread to this before, I think the mother had some health issues and had an extra long hospital appointment and there was a big miscommunication between her, her husband and the friend who had the kids (the op). Hope it's a similar outcome this time.

OvariesBeforeBrovaries · 21/02/2016 22:58

You're doing amazingly Record. Fingers crossed for a quick, positive outcome.

EweAreHere · 21/02/2016 22:58

Worrying. But glad the police are now looking.

I'm glad the children are safe and with you. Hopefully you'll get some good news soon...

Fanfeck · 21/02/2016 22:58

You're doing brilliantly OP

Haggisfish · 21/02/2016 22:59

There was a similar thread once and the parents were found, all ok - there had been numerous hitches and glitches that explained why they had not been in touch. Hope that is the case here, too.

MagratsFlyawayHair · 21/02/2016 22:59

Gosh. How worrying but you are doing an amazing job.

DartmoorDoughnut · 21/02/2016 22:59

Well done OP, keeping everything crossed for a happy ending to all this.

RaspberryOverload · 21/02/2016 22:59

If the dad is in bed, he may well have left his phone switched off. It's the mother not answering that concerns me.

I rarely have my phone in my bedroom (have the landline, though). Even on vibrate it's still a loud phone and I have poor enough sleep as it is.

ProfessorPickles · 21/02/2016 22:59

Reading your thread is making me feel really upset and unsettled OP, those poor children. I really hope their mum is ok. It sounds like you're doing a good job with the kids and I hope they all stay fast asleep until the morning now.
I can only imagine it is something serious that has happened, but I do hope it isn't life threatening and that she will be alright.
How worrying :(

Ooof35 · 21/02/2016 23:00

From FB, you weren't able to locate any relatives/ grandparents etc for back up/ plans for tomorrow?

TheFridgePickersKnickers · 21/02/2016 23:00

Blimey. I read this earlier and didn't bother to post as I just hopef/assumed mum had probably been delayed for some mundane reason.

Much more concerned now though given the time of night. I recall that thread a while back when the mum was ill in hospital and too ill to tell her dh who had the kids.

I hope it's nothing serious but if it isn't then what a mess. I can't see a good outcome now really.

I think you're going a sterling job op. Keep upbeat bright and breezy when dealing with the kids for now. No point in stressing them out until you know what's happening.

TheAngelofNitshillRoad · 21/02/2016 23:00

Maybe they're away trying to save marriage or something, she's found out he's having an affair or something like that?

I dunno, just trying to think of possible scenarios Confused but imo that wouldn't justify it either...

Bulletpr00f · 21/02/2016 23:00

Well done OP. It's a horrid situation for you and the DC but you have done everything you possibly could. The DC are lucky they are with you. Going to bed with my fingers crossed and thinking of you.

fassbendersmistress · 21/02/2016 23:01

OP you have absolutely done the right thing. You've held it together, sorted the kids and sorted out help. There's not much more you can do now but wait. I do so hope it turns out ok.

Is there any chance she asked someone else to pick them up because she had plans after work and that person forgot? Although why you wouldn't want to get home to your kids on a Sunday night when you'd be working all day and you knew dad was away....

thekaratekid · 21/02/2016 23:01

Well done OP, you are doing all you can in this situation. Suggest the same as the poster above, get yourself some sweet tea etc and make sure you look after yourself.

Is it at all likely she could have broken down on a really remote country road? No signal or no battery...it could take hours to flag down another motorist especially at this time of night.

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