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To think its not that weird to kiss your mum on the lips?

208 replies

altctrldel · 18/02/2016 22:38

So theres been articles in the DM about Sam Fairers boyfriend kissing his Mum on the lips and "how gross it is"

I always have. Still do and im 28.

AIBU to think its not that weird?

OP posts:
kali110 · 20/02/2016 12:35

Not seird. Used to kiss my ddad.

Does anybody have a link for this kiss though??

Arfarfanarf · 20/02/2016 12:42

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FreshHorizons · 20/02/2016 13:26

I don't think it is an age thing at all. I am older then you RichPetunia and never have done it or want to do it.

BackforGood · 20/02/2016 20:27

I don't think it's an age thing either. I'm in my 50s too and have never come across it in my life. (apart from when it first came up o MN some time ago)

MamaLazarou · 20/02/2016 20:30

Lip-kissing anyone but a romantic partner does seem very strange to me, but people can do what they like, it's none of my business! I would never dream of kissing anyone but DH on the lips, least of all my mum.

MamaLazarou · 20/02/2016 20:31

However, my grandad once accidentally squeezed my breast. I cringed for about three months afterwards (as I'm sure did he).

PrimalLass · 21/02/2016 09:13

We are a nude family too so all happy to see each other in the buff etc.

You are now, but you might not be when your boys are bigger. My DS is 10 and would rather eat his own poo than see me naked. We were relaxed about nakedness so this is from him.

Sparklingbrook · 21/02/2016 09:29

Exactly Primal. it does make me wonder how many 'nude families' exist with the older children cringing and wishing their parents would give them some privacy and cover themselves up a bit, but daren't say.

helenahandbag · 21/02/2016 11:34

Sparkling

My boss has an almost 14yo who begs her for privacy and she thinks it's 'cute'. She walks from the bathroom with just a towel around her waist, she goes to the toilet while he is in the shower and on holiday he asked her not to sunbathe topless but she laughed at him and did it anyway.

I think that's so inappropriate.

BumWad · 21/02/2016 11:37

Makes me cringe yuk

MrsKoala · 21/02/2016 12:44

Prima - i was talking about the family i grew up in, not my family now. So i am 40 next year, Dad is 70 and Mum is 66, Half sister is 50. We still see each other naked and it has never bothered any of us all the way thru our lives. If it had, we are very vocal, we would have said something.

I will probably become more modest as my boys get older and definitely follow their lead. But of all the 'nude' families i knew growing up not one of my teenage friends found it weird or creepy or was 'cringing'. I did grow up in a very liberal ex hippy MC area and most of my friends parents were woodstock era veterans Grin Maybe that's why. I don't know.

PrimalLass · 21/02/2016 12:59

That wasn't so clear from your post. But it makes no odds, as there is no right and wrong as long as no one inflicts their nakedness where it isn't welcome Grin

MrsKoala · 21/02/2016 13:04

Really, sorry i thought i made it clear when i posted about seeing my parents naked often, even last Wednesday and saying it never bothered me even at 14yo.

grannytomine · 21/02/2016 13:04

I don't think you should kiss babies/children on the lips as that is how so many of us ended up with cold sores (herpes). Apparently as you get older your body is supposed to get better at dealing with it but I have suffered all my life with multiple outbreaks and as a teenager it destroyed my confidence, I always seemed to have them on any special occasion. I have had cold sores for 60 years because some thoughless adult thought it was appropriate to kiss a 2 year old on the lips.

As for adults I don't have an opinion, its up to them.

Laura280315 · 21/02/2016 13:07

Personally I wouldn't when my DC got older but no problems with those who do

what got me about SF boyfriend was how long it lasted and the fact that hands and hair teasing was included which is really odd, my DH mum sits and chat to him while he's in the bath which is gross in my opinion X

Trills · 21/02/2016 13:37

I'm voting on the side of kissing on lips only being for romantic partners.

PrimalLass · 21/02/2016 13:58

It is nitpicking and doesn't matter but your paragraph was:

I find it so weird that people find kissing on the lips weird. I actually feel creeped out by people saying they think it's creepy. Reading the posts on here have made me feel a bit icky and involuntarily clench everything and hold my breath. I suppose it's because it is something that feels so natural to me. I kiss my parents and my dc on the lips. DS1 (3) kisses everyone on the lips as well. We are a nude family too so all happy to see each other in the buff etc.

And that's what I replied to (the last sentence is what I quoted). Not the subsequent posts.

AndNowItsSeven · 21/02/2016 14:03

It's very weird , kissing on the lips should only be done with someone you are in a romantic relationship with.

NeedACleverNN · 21/02/2016 14:07

I was bought up in a family who was nude aswell apart from my dad.

So me, mum and sister would happily walk into the bathroom whilst in the bath or toilet and getting dressed.

My dad was different. He didn't like it so we didn't do it.

I'm doing the same with my family. I don't mind if the kids walk in on me nude and in the bath but my husband feels uncomfortable despite them being toddlers so we don't do it with him. As soon as the kids tell me they don't like it I will allow them privacy. Until then I will assume it's all ok

MrsKoala · 21/02/2016 14:11

Aaah sorry. I had meant both families at present. As in my wider family and then in subsequent posts i had referred more specifically to my parents. Apologies. And no i don't force my nudity on anyone - altho i do change in communal changing rooms and i don't hide under a towel Shock Grin

MrsKoala · 21/02/2016 14:12

seven - what about if you don't kiss on the lips with people you are romantic with? Can it then be used for other people?

DownstairsMixUp · 21/02/2016 14:17

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AndNowItsSeven · 21/02/2016 15:24

Mrs koala never really considered that. Surely it would be unusual not to kiss the person in the lips with whom you are having a relationship with.

MrsKoala · 21/02/2016 16:31

I don't really kiss dh. Not on the mouth, never have. Only platonic mouth kisses here.

chelseabuns2013 · 21/02/2016 20:17

Only if you use tongues 😘