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To think its not that weird to kiss your mum on the lips?

208 replies

altctrldel · 18/02/2016 22:38

So theres been articles in the DM about Sam Fairers boyfriend kissing his Mum on the lips and "how gross it is"

I always have. Still do and im 28.

AIBU to think its not that weird?

OP posts:
Gruntfuttock · 19/02/2016 18:30

wigglybeezer you kiss your friends husbands on the lips? Shock
Oh I say! I need a fainting couch.

MrsKoala · 19/02/2016 18:33

It was more a general description of the type of family we are, mouth kissing, sharing toothbrushes and letting it all hang out. Grin But no, i don't think it's a leap, i think if you are open with one thing like that then you are more likely to be open with other things. Obviously not based on any data, just personal opinion.

Sparklingbrook · 19/02/2016 18:35

Well you would have to stand around in shopping centres with a clipboard to get any proper data.

No sharing of toothbrushes here, or mouth kissing, or letting stuff hang out. but as I said I have teen boys which rules all of that out anyway.

nemno · 19/02/2016 18:37

Never realised other families did kiss each other on the lips until I read that they did on Mumsnet. I was shocked as I've never known or seen anyone do it apart from sexual partners or with small children. I've still never seen it but think I'll be cool about it now that I know some folk do. Before Mumsnet I really would have been shocked and uneasy.

Gruntfuttock · 19/02/2016 18:38

MrsKoala why on earth would you share toothbrushes?

TheFairyCaravan · 19/02/2016 18:38

I used to kiss my DSs on the lips when they were little. Now they're 19 & 21 they wouldn't like it and neither would I. We wouldn't like to see each other naked either.

That kiss between Paul and his mother was beyond weird but it's the least of Sam Faiers' problems as far as her relationship with him goes imo. (Which is completely based on that program)

Sallystyle · 19/02/2016 18:41

It makes me uncomfortable.

I can't remember kissing my children on the lips past the toddler stage, the thought of kissing them on the lips now, especially my teens makes me cringe.

I just watched the youtube link and that was may more intimate than a peck on the lips.

SouthWestmom · 19/02/2016 18:45

It's a bit grim. For some reason I think of people who do it also being the people referring to kids as sexy l'il man and buying those t shirts with dodgy slogans for little girls. A bit like boundaries being blurred.

MrsKoala · 19/02/2016 18:53

No sharing of toothbrushes here, or mouth kissing, or letting stuff hang out. but as I said I have teen boys which rules all of that out anyway

Genuine question - Why? Is it because they wouldn't like it or you wouldn't or both? Is that because it's the way you've always been do you think?

It's just that i was a teenage girl (a long time ago) and i still saw my parents naked, and i don't really intend to stop being naked at home when my boys get older unless they are uncomfortable with it. (can i just say i'm not talking about parading around and eating breakfast in the nuddy, i mean streaking to the loo in the morning or from the bathroom to the bedroom after a shower)

All the people i know who didn't/don't lip kiss were/are very much in a minority and i thought they were very unusual till i came on MN and realised there are loads of you. I find it quite shocking.

MrsKoala · 19/02/2016 19:05

Noeuf - i think those t-shirts are horrible and referring to children as sexy is very weird. In fact i think they are the complete opposite of the innocence of kissing my children on the lips. I suppose it all comes down to how sexual you find kissing on the lips, and to a lot of people it isn't sexual at all. there are no blurred boundaries. I also kiss my children on their bodies, which i do with DH. The same thing can be done in 2 completely different ways.

Sparklingbrook · 19/02/2016 19:05

We used to be a 'naked family' Koala but as the boys got older and turned to teens they wanted their privacy and for a few years now we have not seen them naked and they haven't seen DH and I naked.

Bathroom doors are locked and privacy is respected. it was just a natural progression.

If i went to stay with my parents now I wouldn't expect to see them naked and they certainly wouldn't expect to see me naked!

FreshHorizons · 19/02/2016 19:06

I don't share a toothbrush with anyone at all!

WaitrosePigeon · 19/02/2016 19:07

Not normal to me. I don't kiss my parents or my children on the lips. Only my husband.

FreshHorizons · 19/02/2016 19:07

I used to wander around naked in front of my children but there comes a time when they are uncomfortable about it and you need to respect their privacy.

Sparklingbrook · 19/02/2016 19:08

I have my own electric toothbrush. Nobody is allowed to touch it. If i was desperate i might use DH's in an emergency but not the DC's.

phequer · 19/02/2016 19:10

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FreshHorizons · 19/02/2016 19:10

It does enlighten me as to why people have problems with PIL if they are still kissing on lips, walking around naked and sharing toothbrushes with adult children and telling other people they are abnormal to want some boundaries and personal space. Hmm

helenahandbag · 19/02/2016 19:17

I'd rather remove all of my teeth with pliers than share a toothbrush with someone! Shock

Arfarfanarf · 19/02/2016 19:22

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Whatdoidohelp · 19/02/2016 19:25

It was more weird to me because it seemed not to be a peck, more of a prolonged kiss. The fact that she also pulled him in by his neck was pretty disgusting (to me).

helenahandbag · 19/02/2016 19:26

Just watched the clip posted of the guy kissing his mum - bleugh! Why does she go in for a second one? Why are they snuggled up like that for a kiss??

MrsKoala · 19/02/2016 19:27

I suppose i never got to that stage of wanting any privacy even as a teen. I always saw nudity as fairly natural and standard and just a body. I never ever thought about it any differently at any age in my life.

We never shut bathroom doors - still don't. And it never was a problem for us. And as for someone having a problem with my family as PILs because of the way we are, nope that's never happened either. In fact my 3 long term partners i have had have always thought it was lovely we were so natural with each other and said that's what they wanted with their families/children.

No boundaries have ever been encroached upon. I stayed at my parents on Weds and got up early and dad was coming out of the bathroom starkers. Neither of us flinched. It's not that we actively seek each other out when naked, or 'enjoy' seeing each other like it. It's just it happens and it doesn't bother us if it does.

(i was also painting strangers nude from 14 years old too, so maybe i have just seen so many bodies it doesn't bother me)

AnthonyBlanche · 19/02/2016 19:29

Yuck no! Definitely very weird. I don't kiss anyone on the lips except my husband. And of course in the past kissed boyfriends.

FreshHorizons · 19/02/2016 19:29

Life drawing is completely different.

MrsKoala · 19/02/2016 19:33

I know, i am just saying maybe that's why i skipped the teenage need for privacy about nudity. If i had ever felt uncomfortable then i'm very sure my parents would have put a lock on the door or something. Anyway. This thread is about kissing. I don't want to derail it any further. It was just a throw away comment about my family.