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Exh showed up looking like a fashion model!

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RosaDiazepam · 18/02/2016 09:39

Skinny distressed jeans, boots, superdry leather type thing with fur collar, freshly shaved, hair in a quiff

Me & kids were like
After 10 years of not bothering to shower properly (once a week?) or brush his teeth and stinking the place out with his beer/fag breath aibu to feel a bit bemused/amused??

Lighthearted of course he is entitled to sort himself out and why do I even care ? No I definitely don't want him back
aren't superdry jackets expensive? Bastard,I'm scraping the cupboards for t tonight still happier though

OP posts:

NaughtToThreeSadOnions · 18/02/2016 09:44

New woman?!
I can see why it is amusing.

DelphiniumBlue · 18/02/2016 09:46

On the pull??

jaxtsoldlady · 18/02/2016 09:47

It won't last. Maybe he's trying to impress someone?

ScarlettDarling · 18/02/2016 09:47

Clearly a new woman.

It's hilarious though, hope you laughed.

RudeElf · 18/02/2016 09:49

My exp and my friends exh both did this when we separated. It was quite amusing. My exp got his ear piereced and was sporting some sort of david beckham cubic zircona earring.

PirateSmile · 18/02/2016 09:50

It's so funny when men do this.

brittanyfairies · 18/02/2016 09:52

Mine did this, went from not washing or brushing his teeth to dressing like an 18 year old. When he rocks up in his skinny jeans and silver trainers and 47 year old beer belly hanging over the top it makes me smile. I still don't think he washes or brushes his teeth much though.

But...when I was married I was so unhappy that I made very little effort with my appearance, no makeup, hair scraped back, same pair of jeans and fleece day in, day out. Once he'd gone and I pulled myself together I do hair and make up most days and always dress nicely. So maybe he's trying to pull himself out of a rut that he found himself in. I know whenever I feel I'm slipping back into old ways I have to give myself a bit of a talking to.

brittanyfairies · 18/02/2016 09:53

Oh yes, I forgot about the earring through the top of the ear and the new tattoos. How could I? I can't take my eyes off them when he's talking at me. I expect him to rock up one day with one of those earrings in his lobe that makes the hole get bigger and bigger.

GloGirl · 18/02/2016 09:53

Rude big grin, that revolting earring really must have been a help in moments of weakness thinking "I'm so lonely, maybe we did work well together?"

You should have paid for it, worth its weight in, well, cubic zirconias!

OP, he sounds like a right tool, you're well rid.

Titsalinabumsquash · 18/02/2016 09:54

Haha! My ex had taken to wearing embarrassing slogan tshirts with such gems as "worlds luckiest man ( my wife is a catch!)" on them
He also now drinks real ale despite always saying he hated the taste and the social stigma attached to men who don't like pints.

WhyCantIuseTheNameIWant · 18/02/2016 09:54

Nah. Superdry aren't mega expensive.

In a retail-outlet, they go for about £40... Ds wants one. He can have one when he has outgrown the 4 others he already has!

My ex is the same... Couldn't remove his bum from the sofa to mow the lawn for ds to play. But new woman has her giant lawn mown every week, for her cat!

MagicalHamSandwich · 18/02/2016 09:54

Does he look good at least or is it ridiculous?

My ex did this after I left him - unfortunately he never got the new belly to go with his new, tight shirts. It didn't make me regret my decision at all (which was the point, I think).

acasualobserver · 18/02/2016 09:58

His new look will last for as long as I takes his new woman to be properly trapped - then normal service will be resumed.

RobotMenu · 18/02/2016 10:00

Why is it funny when men do it? It's exactly what women are told to do (by other women/ advice on the forum etc.).

I don't get why it's any different. Women make fashion mistakes all the time.

(Genuine question btw, not being goady)

Alchemist · 18/02/2016 10:00

It has become a bit of a game here, ever other Friday.

"What will EH turn up wearing this week?"

Last Friday the skinny jeans showed me rather too much of the shape of his cock. Not nice at all.

CantWaitForWarmWeather · 18/02/2016 10:02

I was thinking the same Robot.

RudeElf · 18/02/2016 10:03

Oh it was hilarious. I didnt actually manage to hide my amusement the first time he showed up with it.

But as others say, it hasnt lasted. The earring is long gone now and he's back in his scruffy jeans with no aftershave and the sleep still in his eyes

MagicalHamSandwich · 18/02/2016 10:05

Well, but it's often ridiculous when women do it, too, robot

I'm not talking getting a new haircut and taking up exercise. However, the dowdy-housewife-to-vixen-in-an-obviously-too-small-dress-in-a-day seems rather amusing to me.

Arguably it'd be even more amusing in a man - but that's because a guy taking to wearing dresses upon separation would be taking it to a whole new level!

RudeElf · 18/02/2016 10:07

Who said it was just funny when men do it?

pieceofpurplesky · 18/02/2016 10:11

Mine has done the skinny jeans thing too and has chicken legs so looks ridiculous. He had also started chewing gum - like a man possessed his jaw never stops. Weird

PittedOlive · 18/02/2016 10:11

Why is it funny when men do it? It's exactly what women are told to do (by other women/ advice on the forum etc.).

It's funny when men do it because society is intensely focused on what women look like, and female self-esteem being heavily invested in what you look like, not 'letting yourself go' - whereas men are largely exempt. Male power and money is still viewed as buying female good looks and youth, so men are required to spend far less time/money/ attention /anxiety on their appearance. (Compare male and female actors over the age of fifty. Or even under it. Why isn't there a lengthy thread on the state of Tom Cruise's ageing, pallid, exposed knees?)

Male vanity is more or less optional. Society doesn't require it. That's why its funny.

frogletsproglets · 18/02/2016 10:14

hahhaha remember my ex doing this

I thought well perhaps if you had actually washed and shaved more often, done your hair and made an effort when we were together you might be still here?

turned out he was trying to pull an 18 year old. he failed

PirateSmile · 18/02/2016 10:17

I said it was funny when men do it. I know that's a hugely sweeping statement and sexist but I meant it's funny when men try to reinvent themselves and get it terribly wrong. There's nothing wrong with trying to look better by losing weight or improving your dress sense but this thread is about a grown man dressing like a teenager. I think that's ridiculous.

friendshipfloss · 18/02/2016 10:23

I think that my stbxh must now be sponsored by Superdry as his whole new wardrobe has been purchased there! Along with some very dubious other fashion choices, but I suppose he has to keep his much younger OW happy. Even the kids look at him like this and they both refuse to go into Superdry now themselves. Think he is trying to look 10 years younger, but not quite sure he is succeeding!!

Armi · 18/02/2016 10:25

I think it's funny. I don't really give a hairy rat's arse if the po-faced police think it's sexist. Men have had it their way for millennia - they can suck it up for a bit.

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