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To be a tad annoyed with maternity unit

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sstewart2016 · 17/02/2016 19:14

I phoned the maternity unit at 11am today after contracting since yesterday, they told me to come in for 5 tonight. Still contracting and I haven't been checked on
Just on a bed right next to the nurses station where I can here one nurse saying "bed 3 (me) can't possibly be in Labour she must have ate too much" is this standard Confused this is my first so no idea. Just in so much pain and not really sure what I expected Blush

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Ilovenannyplum · 20/02/2016 10:41

Good luck OP! Thanks

backonthebikeagain · 20/02/2016 10:45

Woo hoo, good luck op :)

Puuuuuusssshhhhh!!! Fingers crossed you will be enjoying amazing new baby snuggles by the end of the day xx

BarbarianMum · 20/02/2016 10:46

How about anyone with doubts about this thread report it rather than posting on here?

Good luck OP

AliceScarlett · 20/02/2016 10:52

Hope it goes ok, good luckFlowers

DinoSnores · 20/02/2016 11:03

"And they've kept you in for days despite not being in labour,"

But she's required IV rehydration as she is not keeping anything down.

Lj8893 · 20/02/2016 11:22

Sorry for such a "doom laden" comment earlier. But a syntocinon drip with intact membranes is just begging for a section, that's why the guidelines for ARM before inducing contractions are in place.

I am actually pretty horrified by everything that has happened to the op so far.

ChimpyChops · 20/02/2016 11:28

I had induction started on the labour ward, not the delivery suite. The pessary was given at 5. By 8 I was contracting, my boyfriend who is a paramedic was timing them and the midwife wouldn't believe him. I was making noises I've never heard before and she still refused to believe me or him. She raised her eyebrows when he gave her the time of the contractions and how far apart they were. She then examined me behind a curtain in a room full of partners and other women. I wslas howling and I don't know how I refrained from smacking someone. My home birth midwife arrived and got me down to the delievery suite (empty although was told it was full) and he was born 11 minutes later.

So yes I do believe the op, I really admire the work the midwives do and I appreciate the are busy and under pressure but the ones I have experienced (with my first labour too, where they told me I couldn't possibly need to push while giving me my epidural, he was born 10 minutes later) seem to just not want to listen to women who are the ones going through the pain. It is sad indeed and makes labour for these women, and me a horrible experience.

I turned into a nervous wreck and wouldn't say anything, thank goodness my partner was with me and rant my hb midwife when he did. My baby would have been delivered on the labour ward in front of everyone!

You'll be fine op, hopefully things are progressing nicely. Your labour sounds like my first, I was induced and he was born 6 hours later. Soon be time for baby cuddles x

ChimpyChops · 20/02/2016 11:31

Sorry for all the typos in that last post!

To add, my hb midwife didn't believe my partner when he rang either, until she heard the noises I was making over the phone. Then apparently she threw the Christmas presents she was wrapping down and legged it up to the hospital lol!

Ubik1 · 20/02/2016 13:06

Sounds pretty much like my first induced labour.
I was induced for two days, given diamorphine so my pain didn't upset the visitors and children running about, my waters went themselves though then I was put on the drip in one of the windowless cupboards Labour suites.Then drip turned right up the following day- ow- epidural, emcs, SCBU fir 2weeks.

Op - remember this happens to thousands of women every day and all goes well. Fingers crossed for you.

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sstewart2016 · 20/02/2016 13:18

Just an update, they've tried to break my waters just after 11 but I was so painful that they had to stop Blush been on the drip since I got to the labour ward, already feel so exhausted but it doesn't seem like much is happening
So confused about this all
Fair enough if you doubt my thread, but don't make me feel worse than I already do. I feel like a failure that I haven't gone into immediate labour. I've been contracting for four days now, with barely any sleep I just want my baby out by any means!!! Lol

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ICantThinkOfAUsernameH · 20/02/2016 13:22

aw Op thinking of you sounds awful hope you will be holding your baby soon x

NeedACleverNN · 20/02/2016 13:23

Bless you. Ask for some painkillers close the curtains and try to sleep. It's a long phase for this.

My longest labour was actually with my second child. I went in to labour Monday morning and he wasn't born until Wednesday evening. That was bad enough. I was exhausted

Lj8893 · 20/02/2016 13:24

Inducing contractions with a drip isn't going to work well with your waters still intact. Your not a failure at all, what's happened so far with your on and off contractions is completely normal for any labour, especially a first time labour. But I'm really concerned about you having the drip with your waters intact, it's very unlikely to lead to a successful vaginal birth. And for someone who is already so exhausted, it's even less likely.

WanderingTrolley1 · 20/02/2016 13:28

I went from 2 - 10cm within in 2 hours and was coherent enough throughout.

NameChangeEr · 20/02/2016 14:06

Just keep holding onto the fact that as soon as the babies born you will stop feeling sick and you can eat all sorts of yummy food!

InOverThroughandOff · 20/02/2016 14:08

Good luck, good luck, good luck!
ThanksThanksThanks

(My last induction was synto drip without waters breaking because they couldn't get enough access to break them, they went spontaneously about an hour later)

witsender · 20/02/2016 14:20

I don't think many doubt your story, but are just horrified at the cockeyed way they seem to be going about your induction!

InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream · 20/02/2016 14:31

What's cockeyed about it? She was kept in during very early labour due to HG and anaemia and needing rehydration. Now she had started induction and they have tried ARM. This is all normal! Stop trying to insinuate her care is crap! You don't know all the details.
OP, you're doing well. Try to relax and go with it. It will all be over soon.

Pedestriana · 20/02/2016 14:34

Please don't feel like a failure. How the baby is delivered is not important. What is important is that you and your baby are well and as free from stress as possible during the delivery.

If it helps you at all, I went into labour on the Tuesday. I was having contractions about 3 minutes apart. Taken in, monitored. Nothing.
I had a TENS machine which helped with the pain but my waters hadn't broken.
Contractions continued every 3 mins or so. For 24 hours.
I was in the birthing pool for eight hours on and off trying to get the baby out, but nothing. I was sent off to have some rest.
On the second day we tried again, with various through the night checks.
I had my waters broken, had some injection or other to induce me and still nothing. I was 4cm after 45 hours. By which time I was exhausted. I was a 40+ year old first time mother.
Eventually a snotty doctor examined me, told me in a rather disappointed tone that I was only 4cm and that given they'd tried everything, "You'll have to have a caesarian." I seem to recall saying "I don't care. Get the baby out."
Everyone else was fine, and nobody made any comment other than to ask if I was tired (yes), and if I wanted food/drink (yes).

IThoughtItWasAFart · 20/02/2016 14:38

OP that totally sucks. You're really having a hard time of it.

You are absolutely not a failure, that implies you have some kind of control over this. Which you don't.

Chin up, whatever happens this time next week you DEFINITELY won't be pregnant.

Lj8893 · 20/02/2016 15:04

What's cockeyed about her care is that they haven't properly explained to her about any of their plans, which presumably means she hasent been able to give informed consent about any of it.

Giving an oxytocin drip to induce contractions with membranes still intact is bad practice.

Also, an oxytocin drip carries a higher risk of serious PPH which is particularly dangerous for someone with anaemia.

InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream · 20/02/2016 15:09

Yes so you keep saying lj. But they have tried to rupture membranes.

Chicagomd · 20/02/2016 15:13

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FATEdestiny · 20/02/2016 15:15

Under what circumstances do they go straight to oxytocin without doing a peccary first?

Lj8893 · 20/02/2016 15:20

yes, so they shouldn't have proceeded with the drip. But that's by the by, and not the only part of her care that has been poor.

Either way, what's done is done and the op will have her baby in due course and I'm sure it will all be worth it. I haven't posted my concerns out of spite, but out of concern that it's not the right thing for the op and in hope it will help give her some knowledge and information because her hcps haven't done so. I'm sorry if it's been read and misinterpreted the wrong way.

Good luck op Flowers