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Guests using your shower gel?

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MrsB76 · 08/02/2016 16:46

This is really just a minor niggle but I'm curious - is it really silly of me to begrudge visiting family members the use of my shower gel? I just had my MIL and SIL stay for a few days overnight and I bought them travel size toiletries (they came on a plane) and DH thinks I should be more hospitable and just let them use my shower gel (well mine and his) and toothpaste. Really?

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Lweji · 09/02/2016 12:14

limitedperiodonly

If you had picked your own hair from the plug hole, your dad wouldn't have had to. Wink

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paxillin · 09/02/2016 12:15

I objected to a (male) mate trimming his pubes using my nail scissors. We're not that close, I prefer not to know about his pubes, much less find them on my personal grooming stuff and I stand by that. Dh would be a different matter.

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tomatodizzy · 09/02/2016 12:23

Sorry to go off topic a bit, but I once went into a swimming pool changing room to find the floor covered in shaved and cut pupes! They actually bought the razor/scissors to the pool to do it there. I was horrified.

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MrsKoala · 09/02/2016 12:24

Sorry didn't realise he left them on the scissors - grim. I thought you said he had just told you. As long as someone wiped them i wouldn't really care. I leave scissors in the bathroom and anyone in there can use them for anything. Thinking about it I would find it odd if they told me what stuff they used tho, and what for.

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paxillin · 09/02/2016 12:27

Yes, the telling me about it was truly weird, although I am glad he did. Today is brief-the-hostess-about-your-pubes-over-breakfast day. But even he was welcome to the shower gel, shampoo, toothpaste and whatever else he needed.

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limitedperiodonly · 09/02/2016 13:10

I did Lweji. Honest. It was my sister who didn't. She also used to pour in gallons of baby oil to make her skin soft. Are you beginning to realise how grim that plughole was?

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Lweji · 09/02/2016 13:12

I see. In that case, soak the tweezers in vodka and flame them.

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limitedperiodonly · 09/02/2016 13:17

MrsKoala plucking nose hair could be classed as torture.

tomatodizzy my gym has notices banning shaving in the showers. It still goes on. I don't mind that so much because it's so short it sluices away, though maybe it blocks the drains.

It's grim seeing a clump of head hair on the floor, much less standing on it. Why don't people just pick it up and throw it in the bin?

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AppleSetsSail · 09/02/2016 13:39

I can't understand being so product-agnostic that you go away for the weekend without a toiletry kit.

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MrsKoala · 09/02/2016 13:40

I used to shave my legs at my gym, but it had separate cubicle style showers and a plug hole just like at home so would quickly run a razor over already quite short hairs, (i have long hair which moults a lot and would make sure all hair was gathered up and put in the bin) - This was in my old pre dc life when i would swim everyday

I wouldn't do it in a communal style shower set up tho.

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HotNatured · 09/02/2016 13:43

I presume if they are staying in your house, using your bed and sheets that you have a modicum of affection towards these people, in which case why on earth would you begrudge them using your shower gel and toothpaste Confused. Can ustand if it was say, a builder using all your Molton Brown washing his dirty hands ten times a day, but friends and family ? Are you as tight about how many teabags they use, or the amount of milk they pour on their cereal? Remind me never to come and stay at your gaff.

YABVU

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MrsKoala · 09/02/2016 13:44

I take my own shampoo and conditioner and moisturiser as i am particular about that, but shower gel/soap and toothpaste i just don't care about. What else would you take in a 'toiletry kit '?

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thegiddylimit · 09/02/2016 13:48

Considering you've bought them cute little travel size toiletries then I think that's lovely and thoughtful and would never think 'Oh, she didn't let me use her showergel' because you've bought me a nice special one just for me. It's a bit weird to not want other people to use your stuff but you've dealt with it in a nice way.

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Notso · 09/02/2016 13:54

People are so weird. I usually take my own toiletries incase I find myself staying with some tight-fisted loons and I like a particular brand of shampoo and conditioner. However I love to have a nose at whatever other people use.
My sister has a really good foot scrubbing thing that I always use, at least I assume it's hers. Might be her DP's.

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AlmaMartyr · 09/02/2016 14:02

I normally take this stuff with me. I'd be quite happy if someone bought me travel sized things to use, very thoughtful. Equally happy to use their normal stuff but yes, normally take my own toiletries. I don't mind what guests use here really, but very happy for them to use my stuff if they want. Didn't realise this was a big thing really!

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AppleSetsSail · 09/02/2016 16:39

I take my own shampoo and conditioner and moisturiser as i am particular about that, but shower gel/soap and toothpaste i just don't care about. What else would you take in a 'toiletry kit '?

Why the quotes around 'toiletry kit'? It's not an obscure invention of mine.

I take everything I'd need at home: shampoo, conditioner, face wash, body wash, bath puff, razor, moisturiser, deodorant, hair oil, hair spray, perfume, toothbrush, toothpaste, dental floss, etc. It's not difficult; it's permanently packed and ready to go.

I'd never choose to use someone else's toiletries, apart from my sister who uses pretty much the same stuff that I do. We have some friends who we stay with in the country quite a lot - she's very into 'organic' products, lots of mint and lavender and lemon .

That said, I wouldn't find it weird if someone wanted to use my products.

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Needthesunshine · 09/02/2016 22:04

There's a risk of spreading hepatitis B and C through sharing toothbrushes and razors so I wouldn't do it. Wouldn't bother me sharing toothpaste, shower gel, shampoo and such like.

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MrsKoala · 09/02/2016 22:18

I have never heard of a 'Toiletry Kit' in my life. It sounds really technical and like a complicated tool box to me. We have a wash bag that we stuff some bits in, but certainly nothing as elaborate as yours. I don't even use that many products at home let alone when travelling. Sounds like a horrendous faff.

With the packed and ready to go stuff, do you then have others on the go in your bathroom and keep double the quantity of everything in the house, some ready to take away with you and some you use daily? Or do you put the stuff you use daily back in your kit every time you use it so it's ready at the drop of a hat to go?

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LeaLeander · 09/02/2016 22:29

I too have a travel toiletry kit and so does everyone I know. Mine is always packed and at the ready.

If staying in hotel I travel with all of the items AppleSetsSail mentions and sometimes more. Manicure supplies, facial mud packs, whatever I think I'll wish to use while on vacation or down time on a business trip.

Staying with close friends, I take stuff but am welcome to use theirs. Staying with sister, or vice versa, we use the hosts' supplies and thus travel with lighter luggage.

Shoving a bar of soap and tube of toothpaste in a bag and calling it good may work for some but there is no need to act disingenuous and holier than thou about it. One person's "faff" is another's "good grooming," after all.

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WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeG0es · 09/02/2016 22:38

I have a permanently packed "toiletry kit", which I call my washbag. It has in it shampoo, conditioner, razor, spare contact lenses, tin of Nivea, facial sunblock, toothbrush and paste, hairgrips and bunchbands, soap, comb. Then I just add my contact lens solution, case and glasses on the day and off I go, it caters for everything from camping trips to 5 star hotels.

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tinofbiscuits · 09/02/2016 22:42

I have a washbag which would equate to the toiletry kits mentioned. Just the same thing with a different name.

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Inertia · 09/02/2016 22:43

I keep a washbag permanently packed . It means I never forget my toothbrush and need to share anyone else's. The stuff I use everyday stays in the bathroom, ready to use.

The washbag lives in the cupboard with my travel makeup bag, travel slippers, travel hairdryer, travel straighteners, and travel chargers- all ready to just be packed straight into the bag.

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MrsKoala · 09/02/2016 22:43

I'm not being disingenuous or holier than thou Confused . Having things packed at the ready seems like a faff, not the products as such, and calling it a kit is something ive never heard of.

considering i only have time to shower 1-2 times a week, all that stuff seems a lot to me. I also have never had a house big enough to keep packed toiletries/bags and others on the go in the bathroom. I don't know anyone who is that organised either so doubt anyone i know has all that stuff packed just in case.

Even when i was pregnant i didn't have a bag packed as i kept having to take things out daily to use them.

When i got rushed into hospital a kind mner brought me some shampoo Grin

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MrsKoala · 09/02/2016 22:47

Grin fucking hell you lot are organised, and you travel a lot more than me too! I suspect if i had a packed kit it would just be taunting and reminding me i never go anywhere!

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BeaufortBelle · 09/02/2016 22:56

I have a washbag - has mini sizes of everything, toothbrush, nail file, plasters, couple of days supply of all my tablets. And go. DH has one too. He travels a lot --and brings home mini sizes of oodles of shwr gel, shampoo, conditioner, soap, little toothpastes, etc. They are all kept in a basket in the guest bathroom. If I didn't have them, or an extra bathroom, I don't think it's in my soul to begrudge anyone a squirt or three.

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