Make up, boob job, internal dilemma and explaining it all to DD

[Ploppymoodypants]

Hello, probably wrong section but posting here for traffic. I am currently having an internal dilemma I can't sort out in my head. I identify as a feminist and also believe that being a feminist means that other women can make their own choices, so my dilemma is in no way about judging others. Anyway I usually wear make up (not a lot, tinted moisturiser and mascara) and like to make an effort for nice occasions with clothes, but am equally comfortable slobbing around on the farm knee deep in muck. I am firmly of the opinion that people's self worth should not be attributed to how good looking they are. However I am really struggling to answer my DD (3) when she asks why I wear make up, without giving the message that what you look like is important... Additionally since children my boobs have shrunk to non existent and I would quite like a boob job but again how do I explain that to DD without giving a message that we must have sexy boobs to please our men/be valued? Am I over thinking it? Any advice would be helpful. Thank you

I think it should be obvious that a reduction is quite different than augmentation.

Why? I didn't need it. My back wasn't bad. I just felt uncomfortable. It was for cosmetic reasons.

Have a look at this website Bratabase OP, it has all the different kinds of bras and all the different shapes of breasts, there may be a brand out there which will suit you better.

Katenka good for you! ( though seems it's ok as it was a reduction instead of augmentation ) you should do what you feel is right for you.
I also don't think telling your children how to dress for work is always a bad thing, if the message isto dress smart or respectable. ( telling children of both sexes )

kali I agree. Guiding your children in what to wear is something that should be done. Telling them they must wear certain things to fit in and be respected is different.

I also think work environments are starting to change and a lot of companies like people who have their own style, within the dress code of work.

We should guide our children whilst listening to what they want and help them see they need to make their own choices. Being a parent is hard for that reason got to tread the line of guidance yet let them make the decision.