To ask the nanny if she would like her own fridge / cuboard and seperate food

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Hello,

We have had the same nanny for about two months. Its all going pretty well (third time lucky) and she is lovley and the our three children get on really well with her.

We eat a unprocessed / organic diet that is very healthy but I understand it is alien to most people who eat a "normal diet". I know that she has a normal diet and I don't judge her for that but she may be unconfortable with some of the food in our house and although we've said to just help herself to anything I dont think she realises that some of it is very expensive (she ate two packets of crackers that cost 8 pounds as a snack!).

Would it be offensive to get her her own fridge and cuboard space? She is not live in.

thanks

M

I think that would be a bit rude. Don't tell her to help herself if actually you don't want her to.
Maybe ask her if there's anything she'd like you to get in for her then you can buy her some food. Don't see the need to separate it from yours though.

You can't really tell someone to help themselves and then mind when they do! I suspect it's reasonably uncommon to have £8 packets of crackers and it would never occur to me to think a packet of crackers could cost so much.

That said, what was the time frame for her eating them? I'd be a bit if anyone in my household got through two packets of crackers in less than a week or so?

I wouldn't give her her own space in the fridge but I would have an area in the cupboard where "snack" food is kept. Tell her she can help herself from that area and keep it well stocked.

Are crackers not processed?

Why are you considering this - to help her not see your food she might feel uncomfortable with*, or to keep her away from your expensive crackers? i.e. for her benefit or for yours?

Either way I do think it's quite a good idea, but an open and honest chat would be a good first step.

*my mind is boggling - raw placenta maybe?

unprocessed crackers? yabu for buying 4quid crackers then moaning someone ate them, after offering. Then doubly U for thinking she did it because shes a bit stupid and doesn't 'get' your oh so unusual diet.

I'm not sure whether your motivation is because you don't think she like s the food that is available or because you don't want her eating your £8 unprocessed organic crackers?

I'm fascinated by the £8 crackers

You say she lives out, what meals does she eat at your house? I would ask her what food she would like you to buy for her and then ensure you get that in for her and show her where it is - this would be thoughtful and welcoming, not rude at all

We have a live in nanny and a system where she writes what she wants on the weekly shopping list on the fridge so she always has what she fancies - works well for us.

I'd be a bit hmm if anyone in my household got through two packets of crackers in less than a week or so?

I could do that with ease! I've got a pretty healthy diet, (used to love crackers but IBS now prevents me from eating them) but back in the day I could easily have eaten two packs within a week, with no guilt at all- life's too short!

Can't you just give her a space in your fridge?

£8 crackers - I don't think most people would realise that crackers cost £8 a packet. They're normally quite cheap so she probably thought she was being quite parsimonious.

'we've said to just help herself to anything'

If you don't mean what you say don't say it. Ask her if there's any food she would like you to get and explain what she can and can't eat.

Buying another fridge (!) is rather more expensive than £8 of crackers

'(she ate two packets of crackers that cost 8 pounds as a snack!)'

Aren't crackers normally eaten as a snack??

I think it would be a bit odd to offer cupboard space to someone that doesn't live there - what might be better is to offer to shop for the type of foods she would like when she is there, and show her where it is being kept?

Lol at 'unprocessed' £8 crackers

I think others have given some good advice about including her requests on your weekly shop.

Perhaps the Nanny is giving the crackers to the three children.

Is this that poster back again? Always with the elitist/faddy/ridiculous diet scenario - you have to laugh or you'd cry!

Buy a price gun and price everything up so she knows how much she's costing you
I manage an organic farm shop / health food shop - I understand the £4 crackers!!

Would she have to keep crackers in that fridge?

YABVU

if she is part of the family then your bills will go up by an equivalent of what your DH or you spend when you are at home!
That IMHO is very logical consequence.
To give her allowance for food and dividing it into hers and yours will brew resentment and she would leave quicker than you think.

If she likes snacking then ask her what she likes and just buy it and don't begrudge her that he eats EXACTLY the same food you are having! Because you know, that is very, very mean!

You can't tell someone to help themselves and then be annoyed that they did.

Unprocessed crackers? As a snack?! Crackers!

How old are the DC? What will happen if the nanny wants to eat a cheese and pickle sandwich and the children ask to try it rather than eating their unprocessed crackers?

You know crackers are a processed product, right? Even if they're made from spelt flour farted out of a unicorn's arse, someone has taken that spelt flour and through the medium of processing it, has produced a packet of crackers...

I think you are going to be getting a hard time on here partly because you have a nanny and partly because you have an expensive organic unprocessed diet which put together will lead to scorn on AIBU.

I know you said to help herself but you probably envisaged that as grabbing a banana or an apple occasionally.

Perhaps the Nanny is giving the crackers to the three children.

^^This.

Maybe she got carried away and couldn't stop herself. I mean 8quid crackers would have to taste like chocolate coated orgasms at that price.

I'm here just for the replies, I needed cheering up