To ask the nanny if she would like her own fridge / cuboard and seperate food

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Hello,

We have had the same nanny for about two months. Its all going pretty well (third time lucky) and she is lovley and the our three children get on really well with her.

We eat a unprocessed / organic diet that is very healthy but I understand it is alien to most people who eat a "normal diet". I know that she has a normal diet and I don't judge her for that but she may be unconfortable with some of the food in our house and although we've said to just help herself to anything I dont think she realises that some of it is very expensive (she ate two packets of crackers that cost 8 pounds as a snack!).

Would it be offensive to get her her own fridge and cuboard space? She is not live in.

thanks

M

The nanny took you at your word and 'helped herself', OP. If you didn't mean that, you should have said 'do help yourself to food, but I will conduct regular inspections to enforce portion control'.
If you'd feel happier changing the T&Cs of her contract so that she needs to supply her own food, just do so and adjust her salary accordingly. I think it would need to be by more than £8 though.

Bada bing, ghosty!

"I wouldn't mind if she really liked some of these foods, but I don't think she does and would rather other ones."

Best get her some meat pies and black pudding in, what with her being a northerner then..

Surely the solution to this problem is asking her to write you a list of her favourite foods, and then stocking them? No problem with her having her own shelf in the cupboard, but surely you must understand that a separate fridge is absolutely bonkers.

If you are in an industry that is struggling, stop buying £4 packets of crackers?

I'm not sure I understand why the fact that you're both northern is relevant? Is there some kind of north/south cracker divide that I'm not aware of?

Agree with PPs...if you're in financial difficulties, spending £8 on a small number of crackers is ridiculous, regardless of who's eating them.

And I can assure you, if she's eaten 2 packs of the posh crackers they've obviously not made her uncomfortable. Please don't assume that because she's not the kind of person who tries to eat unprocessed organic foods as a rule she's therefore so unaccustomed to them that she's actually uncomfortable being part of a household that does eat that way.

Speak to her to see if there are things she'd like you to buy just for her. Anything more than that and you'd be making it quite clear that you resent buying more expensive foods for your family only for her to eat it.

Telling her to help herself was really disingenuous of you.

Or do you actually work in the cracker industry and so are trying to prop it up by buying them?

OP - As you've already decided, it's usually best to ask your nanny what she would prefer. I saw it as you being considerate.

I'm not sure why people are being so unpleasant - most people in this country don't eat an 'unprocessed / organic diet', so it's possible that the nanny does find it all a bit dry and joyless, and only ate the crackers under duress!?

Best get her some meat pies and black pudding in, what with her being a northerner then

And mushy peas too, you know the stuff that looks like guacamole.

Wait...., Your chippy delivers focus . I have never heard of such a wonder. We have plenty of great chip shops locally but the lazy bastards all expect you get off your fat arse and go get it yourself.

I'm not sure why people are being so unpleasant - most people in this country don't eat an 'unprocessed / organic diet', so it's possible that the nanny does find it all a bit dry and joyless, and only ate the crackers under duress!?

I agree. She's unhappy eating your food; you're unhappy she's eating your food; buy her her own food and stock generous quantities.

Well I'm northern, born in Durham and lived there for 18 years, moved 'Down South' for twenty years and moved back to my roots in 2007..........I'm SO CONFUSED!!

Should I be laughing at the £4 crackers or stockpiling them

Or do you actually work in the cracker industry and so are trying to prop it up by buying them

Or maybe she is trying to get a load of Mumsnetters buying her fancy crackers to prop up said business.

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'Fucking pleb should be happy with her Jacobs'

Funniest comment on this thread, Panetone

THERES NO SUCH FUCKING THING AS A CLEAN DIET

And guess what..when you go to the gym YOUR JUST GOING TO THE GYM. Your not fucking TRAINING or going to train.

Unless you are actually training, in which case have at it

fill the fridge full of SmartPrice lard, Fray Bentos steak and onions pies and 4-in-a-pack Mars Bars for a quid a pop, she'll be shagging your husband within a week

"I suspect it is the hunger pangs from your diet that is making you B so U."

A PP said this - I think it's right - this sort of food angst often goes with hunger / hanger and weird control issues.
It's impossible to sort out the cause and effect though

This thread about crackers is cracking me up laughing!

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I bed your farts really smell OP.

At that price I thought they were Xmas crackers and had silver plated dice in them.

Anyway, must pop off to Tesco for some pink salt. It will look naice in the cupboards.

Given that we have got into the subject of salt, I have black salt (it's not flavoured with olives it's just flaky and black)

What's it for? Ive asked the nanny but she didn't know

I'm not really sure what the problem is here.

Either let her eat your (expensive, unprocessed) stuff and suck up the cost, or don't.

Or just say 'feel free to bring your own food' - I'm not sure it needs a whole separate fridge unless you feel "normal" food will contaminate your food?

Hilarious. Made my Friday.

THERES NO SUCH FUCKING THING AS A CLEAN DIET

Oh yes, this.

most people in this country don't eat an 'unprocessed / organic diet',

Im still trying to figure out the 'unprocessed' cracker... nope, doesn't make sense.

Black Salt