I was recently staying at DDs house for a few days last week. She has a DD aged nine and a DS who is four. One of the nights I was there my DD went out for a few hours leaving me with her DP and the two little ones.
The four year old bedtime is normally 7pm and the nine year old goes a bit later. Anyway I got to tuck DGS in bed and read him a story. Nice for me and nice for him, so all was good. However, a bit later, probably because he knew I was downstairs he kept calling down for things, another story, another drink etc. His daddy kept telling me to ignore it all otherwise he'd keep it up for ages. So he shouts up the stairs to be quiet, get in bed etc and dgs starts crying ."I want my nana" . DGs daddy told me to ignore him but I just couldn't, I couldn't resist his little voice calling for me. So I went up to give him another cuddle. WIBU to do this when the father said don't. He said I shouldn't have gone up, I said I didn't want to hear him crying. Who was right.
AIBU?
To be a bit annoyed my dgs didn't get a cuddle.
greensatin · 04/02/2016 14:44
I think there is a big difference between believing it's a grandparents job to spoil the children and undermining the parent's decision in front of the children.
Even now my 16 dd says to me 'when is she going to accept I'm not actually her child' because she now recognises the difference and finds it as annoying as I do!
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Had to chuckle at the like dogs comment. My son tries it every night (he is six) glass of water, hug, one more good night kiss. If I did it every night he'd be up till past 11pm then a grumpy sod for school the next day. We don't do it because we need to "clock off" (ironically I then load the dishwasher, wipe the sides, clean the front room etc anyway) we do it because they need the sleep. 
On that principle yabu op but if i was him I'd have let you go up just once more as you are his nan but going against him was wrong.
Sorry another yabu.
One of mine was a bed refusnik and it took us a lot of patience and ignoring requests, at times it was very much a one step forward and two steps back pattern.
When my inlaws or parents looked after them over night we would warn them and said what we did usually. More advice than an instruction as we wouldn't be in the house to se the ins and outs of a situation . Sometimes they would go and pick him up but that wasn't the end of the world as they would be the ones up at 11.30 with an awake child. My son knew the difference between a special night with nana and life as normal. It's different if one parent is still in the house though, the child should see ther parent as being the ultimate authority.
It would feel as a criticism if my parents or inlaws ignored my parental decisions in front of me, not the best building block of a good long term relationship.
Anyway, not the end of the world but don't do it again you Bad Grannie
meh, I'm a mum of 2 small DCs, and I don't knock you for going up, I think it would be torture for my mum (or especially my dad, a huuuuge softie where his dgc are conerned) not to respond to an "i want my nana"...and i think thats their job, they spoil them rotten, and my job is to straighten them out afterwards
my own grandmother never once was hard on me as a kid, and we had the best relationship ! i hope my kids will have that with their DGPs
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OP, your thread title makes no sense to me, because your grandson did get a cuddle, so why does the title say you're annoyed that he didn't? 
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