Dss dyed his hair against our wishes and school is going to go mad

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Dss dyed his hair yesterday to a blond colour and I personally don't like it (haven't said this). It looks very fake and doesn't not match because of his thick dark eyebrows and tanned skin tone.

Aibu to think that he did it so he should face the schools punishment.

diff'rent strokes?

Is that the 70s version of "it's just banter"?

If you're old enough to dress or dye your hair in a way that may attract unwanted attention, you're old enough to be warned.

Warned about what?

Sounds a bit victim blamish. Like warning a woman the skirt and make up they are wearing means you're asking for it etc. it's daft. Someone's hair and clothing is not responsible for actions of others.

i think the blond thing is the in thing at the moment. i have seen lots of black boys. with the hair blonde on top and then its their natural black colour at the back and sides.

It depends entirely on the context headmaster, and perhaps also the intelligence, maturity and sophistication of the teenager in question.

'Darling you look stunning but those shoes are straying into hooker territory' is a completely different kettle of fish from: 'You're a whore'.

you're not his mother - beak out

What a bitchy comment. You no nothing of the relationship with the DSS! They could be living with the OP full time.

Isn't the OP a bloke ?

Sorry, I mean in relation to the "You're not his mother" comments.

Not very nice.

It depends entirely on the tone.

Oh for gods sake. Some parents have an informal relationship with their kids. Like I said my dad and I always take the piss out of each other.

I've never felt scarred by it

Oh enough headmaster

It's just a joke though. Why so serious and all.

X-posted. He's 16? Seriously? He can legally leave home, leave school and get a job if he wants. Being controlling about little things like what colour he dyes his hair will only push him away. It's time to accept that he's growing up.

I's just a joke though. Why so serious and all.

Maybe some don't find it funny.

Our family loves to banter, we are all regularly quite rude to each other. I have never even thought about saying that either my teenage son or daughter look like prostitutes. dd was really upset when one of her friends said that a top she really liked was 'slutty'. I couldn't figure out why they said it anyway, it was a very nice top that covered her breasts perfectly chastely as far as I could see.

Anyway it wasn't the OP who made the comment, he said he'd not even told his step son that he didn't like the look.

I'm glad that my kids school doesn't have any hair related rules. dd has had lots of colours in her hair over the years. Most of them have looked great (I wasn't so keen when she died it red, but only because it was a bit too dark on her). It seems ridiculously controlling to say that a 16 year old cannot do anything interesting to their hair - I wonder if boys are allowed long styles?

Hi folks. Just popping by with an appeal for a bit of peace and love! The original question seems to have been a little left behind. Can we draw a line under all the other stuff now and get back to the original question? OP - hope you're not collecting DSS from detention tomorrow night!

Oh for gods sake. Some parents have an informal relationship with their kids. Like I said my dad and I always take the piss out of each other.

Sounds like more of a disrespectful relationship than an "informal" one. Still, diff'rent strokes for diff'rent folks and all that

I had a friend whose father used to tell us we dressed like prostitutes. He was a hateful, misogynist wanker. We're were not laughing at his banter. Her self esteem never really recovered and she has dated some pretty dreadful men.

Which rather illustrates the point that it entirely depends on the context.

I once told my father that his new jacket was a bit 'taxi driver', he laughed but I don't think he got the reference. In fact his olive jacket looked a bit like Robert de Niro's in Taxi Driver.

Was I calling my lovely father a nutter? Funnily enough no.

I'm confused.
OP is talking about blonde hair.
Why all the hookers, whores and rent boys?

OP, don't sweat the small stuff, the lad needs to find his own way and speaking from experience if this is the only worry you have with him at this age, then you are fortunate.

DD did the same, went from her lovely natural blonde to yellow, then ombre, then my little pony multi coloured.

It is currently mousey grey

Hasn't stopped her getting fabulous grades though.

There are more important things to worry about.

This entire thread is a prime example of how ridiculous mumsnet has become at times.

yseulte

Your posts read like something from Viz.

Especially the last one

I'm still struggling with why a boy dying his hair yellow would elicit anything other than

"Lovely" or "Liked it better brown" or "how much did that cost you?"

That it could actually in 2016 elicit the response "you look like a rent boy har har" from an adult (so so funny!) certainly gives me pause.

in my kids' schools there are teens with blue/red/yellow/orange/multi coloured hair. I never thought it mattered at all.