Dss dyed his hair against our wishes and school is going to go mad

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Dss dyed his hair yesterday to a blond colour and I personally don't like it (haven't said this). It looks very fake and doesn't not match because of his thick dark eyebrows and tanned skin tone.

Aibu to think that he did it so he should face the schools punishment.

He's 16. Old enough to dye his hair if he wants. He's also old enough to face the school's consequences, if there are any.

But blonde? If the school punishes him while ignoring the many girls with dyed blonde hair, then I'd back him up with school. The rules should apply to all, or none.

My DD is 15.5. She's had her hair dyed dark brown from her natural mid brown. I helped her, but then, I've been colouring my own hair since I was about 14, following on from my DM, who was the same.

I'm 47 and still considering bright purple, for the sheer hell of it.

Dd dyed her hair when she was 13 or so.I wasn't keen on the colour but said nothing. It annoyed her no end that there was no drama I think because she never bothered to dye it again. I wouldn't have commented, if there are repercussions at school then he will have to bear the brunt anyway.

When DS1 did something similar (also at this time of the year in Y11) I emailed the school before Monday morning and explained what DS had done...said we were not happy about it, and would support the school in any sanctions, while acknowledging they were far more experienced in dealing with the poor choices of teenage boys than we were..but at the same time asking them to bear in mind DS had probably done it in the hope of being excluded.

The schools response was to pretend they hadn't noticed, although a supply teacher did send him to the HOY, who still pretended not to notice anything out of the ordinary much to DSs amusement

You are telling him what to do with his hair at 16?
Oh dear.

The word 'banter' reminds me of The Inbetweeners.

Depends on your usual relationship with the child surely? If you have quite a jokey time normally then it'd be fine.

I told my dad he looked like Phill Mitchell on drugs when he had his head shaved. He thought it was funny!

I could see that independent/public schools might well have a no-dye policy. And be strict about it.

I think dying ones hair is a rites of passage thing, I remember my DB's various GF's all having a pop at dying his hair various colours...

I dyed mine too.

Just leave him be...its no big deal and he is more than old enough to deal with the consequences at school.

Sparkling so does calling someone a rent boy now that you mention it

Why 'on drugs' Cats?

Sparkling at that moment he had a very vacant expression reminiscent of someone off their tits

He's 16?!!!

If that's the extent of his rebelliousness then you've been very lucky.
Beak out.

Seriously some of you need to get a sense of humour and grow up a bit.

I have a sense of humour. I just don't think you are funny at all.

To the OP, it is just hair. I wouldn't give a curse and wouldn't judge him either. I would also hope his friends don't tease him (or call him rent boy - although that would be hilarious wouldn't it??) for his new hair do because if my friends did that to me at my age I'd be pretty upset so I would expect a teen to feel the same.

I'd tell him good for him for trying something different, tell him which bits I liked, and go to bat for him if the school gave him any crap about his haircut.

Oh come on! It's just banter.

Quite.

But seriously, would I tell my 16 year old daughter if I thought she looked like a hooker, of course? Partly from a safety PoV.

When I was 16 my friends and I were clubbing in Soho til the small hours dressed like the women in the Robert Palmer 'Addicted to Love' video.

If you're old enough to dress or dye your hair in a way that may attract unwanted attention, you're old enough to be warned.

I don't think I could get worked up at someone dyeing their hair. I did mine all sorts of colours when I was a teenager. It's only hair and it grows back or can be re-dyed

As already asked, Y11 or 12...I personally think there is a big difference, but then my DSs school has no uniform in Y 12/13.

When I was at school in the 80's (private, but liberal) a lad was actually banned from the whole school photo for dying his hair black (from brown) He stood looking out of an upstairs window in the school building behind the rest of us having our photo taken, so was still in it. )

My BIL looks like a posh version of Phil Mitchell for real.

• But seriously, would I tell my 16 year old daughter if I thought she looked like a hooker, of course? Partly from a safety PoV.

When I was 16 my friends and I were clubbing in Soho til the small hours dressed like the women in the Robert Palmer 'Addicted to Love' video.

If you're old enough to dress or dye your hair in a way that may attract unwanted attention, you're old enough to be warned.*

So to be clear here, a 16 year old boy with dyed blonde hair, looks like a "rent boy" and needs to be warned that he may attract attention from sleazy older men who think he is a prostitute as he winds his way to school.

are you for real? Have you been out much in the 21st century or was your last excursion down soho in 1979?

I don't think you need to tell anyone from a safety perspective but insults about haircuts are just lighthearted

Exactly.

Do stop whining headmaster, diff'rent strokes for diff'rent folks.