Too be annoyed at this parent...

[Confusedmomma]

So I'm arranging a birthday party , and in my childs class there are 4 child with the same hyphenated name L-M. Except one of the 4 her mother decided she was a special snowflake and her first name is 3 names all hyphenated L-M-E.
So as I'm writing the invites in a rush I accidentally write them all as L-M , no big deal right?
Well on Friday , the mother pulls me and says my child would attend your childs party but it seems you've given us the wrong invite. It's says L-M not L-M-E , and I'd like an invite with her correct name on and just walks off. Is it me or is she being a bit dramatic? I have a double name and have no problem having my name shortened , my mother never did. Am I right too be a bit annoyed or was I wrong for not putting her daughters full name?

[TamaraLamara]

rewrite invite with her name on it - there are others with similar name so it is important you get it right

It's also important not to be an obnoxious twunt, but unfortunately the other mother decided that being self-righteously indignant was more important than doing what any normal person would do in this situation and opted to strop off like a rude fool.

Poor L-M-E. Her party invites will dwindle rapidly if her mother doesn't make a concerted effort to be less of a cow.

[Hissy]

If this silly mare has the front to ask again, please just laugh and say "oh you're so funny! Do you have the invitation and a biro?" Good, well just write on it what you want...

[Confusedmomma]

Can I just clarify this was an accident that I missed Elizabeth off the invite. I didn't sit there going muhahaha I'm going to miss Elizabeth of the invite to pee of the mum. L-M-E didn't care what the invite said as far as I know she's just excited too be invited.

[Only1scoop]

What a ridiculous name.

Of course you don't write another invite. The mum said she'd be coming so just leave it at that.

[RJnomore1]

It was probably fair enough to check the invite was for her child I guess but demanding a new invite?😮

[Sallyhasleftthebuilding]

I'd write another and spell it wrong - but I like to wind her up !!

Bet she's pissed off her DD has a popular name and not unique!

[TheHiphopopotamus]

YANBU

That's a ridiculous name anyway and she's going to have to get used to a lifetime of people missing the ending off. And I speak as someone who has a fairly normal name that can be spelled a hundred different ways and nobody gets its right first time (and I do not care). My MIL still gets it wrong after 15 years (which I find quite amusing ).

[Biscuitsneeded]

Well she's clearly a bit nuts anyway, who in their right mind triple-barrels their child?? She's probably v sensitive because her 'princess' name which she will have thought was so fabulous turned out to be shared by 3 other kids in one class. So the Elizabeth matters a lot to her. Or the Elizabeth is for a dead relative (let's face it, it doesn't really go with the name Lily-Mae) so she's sensitive. Either way, maybe OK to mention to you but certainly not OK to demand a new invitation!

[ghostspirit]

if there are children in the same class with the same name but spelt differently to my childs then i would double check its for my child. but that would be it i would not fuss about the spelling. unless i misunderstood it it sounds like the parent is saying my child wont be at the party unless the naming is corrected.

[Twowrongsdontmakearight]

I have a Catherine. Her name is constantly misspelled even by family. But I consider it my fault for having chosen a name with more than one spelling. Her friends call her Cathy or Cath neither of which I like for her but it's tough. Friends often shorten names. DS is one of four or five in his class so they all get called by their surname.

I very much doubt L-M-E's friends will EVER call her that. She'll probably end up as Lizzie. The sooner her DM gets used to that the better.

[Confusedmomma]

That's your perogative too full name your child and not use a shortened version. As for disrespectful and rude - NO. That's how you're coming across. So what I missed Elizabeth by accident get a grip, she's got three names I got the first two right. My names double named , very rarely get given the full name and the first part gets shortened. Do I cry? Did my mum when I got invites/cards? No. Bigger things in the world than crying about an invite that misses one of your daughters 3 names on it.

[OlafLovesAnna]

I'm quite looking forward to DD being old enough to get invited to things for the sheer variety of mistakes with her name (normal but unusual and contains an X) no one intends to offend with this sort of thing so it's silly to get uppity about it.

WRT your situation if she gave you the original invitation back I'd just add -Elisabeth to the name (maybe in a slightly different pen!) and shove it in your DD's bookbag, if you don't have the invitation I wouldn't bother to do anything and leave it up to her to decide what she's doing about the party.

[AllPizzasGreatAndSmall]

I think it's fine to send the card to whatever name your daughter calls her, so if she never calls her by her full name why would she send it to L-M-E?

[SoporificHobnob]

That's going to look good on her CV. Good morning, I'm your solicitor Lilly-Mae-Elizabeth. Hmmm.
The mother is being ridiculous, poor child.

[fuzzpig]

She's my special little snowflake my L-M-E.

She actually says that? There was me thinking it was a MNism.

[shutupandshop]

Are the teachers expected to call her Lilly may elizabeth? whats her sibling called millie molly mandy

[OhMrBadger]

She's being very silly.

Next time you see her, tell her you searched and searched but you've run out of spare invites but if she would kindly bring the Incorrectly Addressed Invite into school, you will whip out your biro and remedy the situation forthwith.

Poor kid. Currently the parents (not just the mum, as there's obviously a possibility a dad may have been involved in the name choice?) are being mocked for this name but in time the child may be too. At that point she might decide to shorten her name and will her mother be outraged?

[OnceAMeerNotAlwaysAMeer]

Is there a chance this mother will not let the child attend the party because of this ridiculous situation?

If there is, it'd be such a shame.

I think that if there is, write it out properly again and hand it to the mother without a comment and simply just be cool to her. She's ridiculous, but the poor kid!

[Gileswithachainsaw]

omg she's ridiculous. accept or don't accept but demand a new invitation? feck off

Dds name gets spelt wrong all the time. however she knows that nothing is meant by it and doesn't cause a drama.

can you imagine in a fire and people are rushing everyone out and she's refusing to budge until more time is wasted on three more syllables.

[OhMrBadger]

OP can I just ask, was there a name on an actual invite inside a sealed envelope with the name written on the outside? You mentioned it was too late to change as it was inside a sealed envelope, so presumably you had realised the error at that point and could write the full name on the envelope?

[Confusedmomma]

Too be fair I could have put L-M-E on the envelope but I don't think that would have been enough. I made a spelling error on another childs invite the mother didn't have a hissy she laughed and said she's use too it and not to worry. My point is yes technically it's her full name , but the mother can't kick off when people don't address her as L-M-E every single time. The girl herself calls herself L or L-M it's just the mother. I would have apologised of she had gone about it the correct way but I wasn't given a chance and didn't realise the Elizabeth was such a big deal.