Too be annoyed at this parent...

[Confusedmomma]

So I'm arranging a birthday party , and in my childs class there are 4 child with the same hyphenated name L-M. Except one of the 4 her mother decided she was a special snowflake and her first name is 3 names all hyphenated L-M-E.
So as I'm writing the invites in a rush I accidentally write them all as L-M , no big deal right?
Well on Friday , the mother pulls me and says my child would attend your childs party but it seems you've given us the wrong invite. It's says L-M not L-M-E , and I'd like an invite with her correct name on and just walks off. Is it me or is she being a bit dramatic? I have a double name and have no problem having my name shortened , my mother never did. Am I right too be a bit annoyed or was I wrong for not putting her daughters full name?

[8reasonstohide]

I am another one who thinks the mother of Lily-Mae-Elizabeth is being a PITA, over-reacted and quite dramatic and precious quite frankly.

I honestly believe she knew quite well it was for her daughter (why else ask for her full name to be put on the invitation). Anyone else would probably say something along the lines of: "I'm sorry, is this for Lily-Mae-Elizabeth just that I'm not sure if this has been given to the right person because it says Lily-Mae" (And even then, she is being ridiculous. Anyone in possession of an invitation, even if it is for the wrong person, is unlikely to be made aware of the mistake or turned away!)

If this was me, I would simply say; "I am sorry to have missed off your child's third name. It was a genuine mistake as I am aware that everyone calls her Lily-Mae and her father refers to her as Lils. But the invitation is for your daughter. We would love for her to come bu unfortunately I am unable to provide a new invitation".

If she declines, so be it! I am sure other mum's would catch wind and then decide to leave out the precious Lily-Mae-Elizabeth in future birthday events to save themselves the hassle of a PITA of a mother. Shame for the child, but as someone said, she is unlikely to refer to herself as Lily-Mae-Elizabeth as she gets older and will probably need counselling and hate her mother forever!

[kali110]

Op i have a traditional name that only has two real well known spellings and one very unknown one, and my mom decided to pick the unknown one!
Noone has ever been able to spell my name, including managers
Once someone even asked me if that was really how I spelt my name, or if i'd misspelt it
I don't get annoyed nor has my family, what is the big deal, really?

[Whocansay]

Did you see Rude Mum today?

[Pigeonpost]

A triple barrelled first name is a MN first for me. Well I never.

[YeOldeTrout]

Smile at her nicely and say you don't have any more blank invitations but if she brings the invitation to pick up you'll add on 'Elizabeth' onto the end of it if she likes. Brandish a pen around just to make your point.

That is brilliant.

I'm a mouse. Assuming my DD still wants LME there, I'd hand Mom another invite (assuming I didn't have to pay for a whole new pack of invites, else something written out hastily by hand) and mark her down as One-To-Avoid.

I have a weird spelling of a common 5-letter name, I couldn't care less how people spell it, unless official documents.

[SoporificHobnob]

I went to school with a Mae, she was Scottish so I assume that's where the spelling came from.

[bolleauxnouveau]

yanbu. She was rude.

Are triple barrelled names a thing now?

I may go over to the naming threads and suggest a few.

Truly Madly Deeply, Snap Crackle Pop, Scooby Dooby Doo

[IoraRua]

To add to your list Alpaca - I know of a Lilliee Mai

[Claraoswald36]

Wait. There are 4 kids called lily may? How unfortunate

[jillyarmeen16]

Knew it would be lily mae. When did may start being spelt mae and why?
Lillly mae Elizabeths mother is an idiot.

[GingerCuddleMonsterThe2nd]

What a name! A bit of a farce to go around demanding people 're-write party invites and demand a second copy.

I'd have seen red, said fine give me the invite back and I WILL add on your precious petals quite frankly absurd name name in full....but I have a fowl temper.

Just say, I don't have a spare but of you give that one back to me I can write it on the end you swine and smile

[Confusedmomma]

Luckily all the L-Ms are lilly-Mae. It's like I said though I personally handed the mother for the invite so no confusion if it was for the right child. She's being a fussy sod. Can imagine her tantrums when her childs older and none of her friends call her L-M-E

[d270r0]

Ha ha, what a strange lady, demanding another invitation. Smile at her nicely and say you don't have any more blank invitations but if she brings the invitation to pick up you'll add on 'Elizabeth' onto the end of it if she likes. Brandish a pen around just to make your point.

[Cuppaand2biscuits]

Cross posted Picnic!
Don't forget Lillie! My gran was actually Lillian, never heard her called Lillie.

[Cuppaand2biscuits]

I hope that you used the correct spelling for all of the other L-M's!
I know a Lily Mae, Lilly Mai and Lillie May!

[AlpacaPicnic]

Ooh, the options when it comes to the myriad of lily-may names are endless. I hate when I am filling in a form for one of them and have to ask the spelling because almost every time the mother will look at me as if I'm being deliberately difficult.
But I've come across...
Lily-may
Lily-Mae
Lily-mai
Lilly-may
Lilly-Mae
Lilly-mai
Lili-may
Lili-Mae
Lili-mai
Lilli-may
Lilli-Mae
Lilli-mai

And I'm sure there are even more variations out there.

L-m-e's mother needs to stop taking it so personally.

[Zippidydoodah]

Lilly- Mae-Elizabeth?! Ffs!!

[Whocansay]

She's clearly a loon and likes a bit of drama. Do not pay any attention to her tantrum and definitely don't give her another invitation. Ignore completely.

[Iliketoparrty]

I have a traditional boring name, which has only 1 English spelling Patricia. Throughout my life my name has been spelt wrongly. Patrixia, Patrizia, etc I love seeing the odd spellings my current favourite is Phyatrixxiya. I think the h, y and second x is silent.

I've spelt peoples names wrong before. I apologise and move on which I'm sure you would have Op had she given you the chance.

L.M.E's DM will spend a lifetime being upset and unhappy for nothing, surely she must have thought about this before she named her DD.

[Oldraver]

She was rude so I wouldn't bother giving her another invite.

[llhj]

dingalong
Your daughter has a popular 5 letter name and yet when's it's misspelt a certificate, it's unrecognisable?
What kind of teachers does she have where they make those kind of catastrophic spelling errors? Bizarre.

[Viviennemary]

I think it was a bit rude of the Mum to demand another invite. But it could be the child has made a fuss and doesn't think the invite was for her. I probably would write another invite but would roll my eyes and moan to everyone.

[fastdaytears]

She has been very rude but I'd be surprised if she's not identifiable with that name