AIBU to not breastfeed?

[Stephieee]

DD is yet to arrive, but I never breastfed with DS and my goodness, I was made to feel terrible about it! I've told people that I'm not going to, this time around, but their views haven't changed :(

I'm going to post my feelings on this, and I fully expect to be told off for doing so.

I don't understand why you would choose not to breastfeed, given that formula is recognised as lesser by every health authority that's relevant. This is of course assuming that you have a free choice between the two, so for example no medical issues that would prevent breastfeeding. I had a free choice between breastfeeding and formula, and I can't see any reason that would persuade me that formula would be better. Formula would have to be significantly better than breastfeeding to justify the extra cost, the extra prep time and so on.

Every single time Dixie. Never achieves anything.

Yes they do. Why anyone starts them is beyond me.

Yep they certainly do Dixie

Thankfully in real life, I don't know anyone who feels particularly strongly either way about other women's personal choices

It seems to be very much an online thing.

I wonder if certain topics should be banned from AIBU. There is a feeding topic isn't there? If people genuinely want some help and guidance with their decisions?

I have it hidden but is it all fall of bunfights?

*full

Oh do they Dixie? That's a bit disappointing.

Infant feeding hardly ever has a bunfight, it's usually (always tbh) full of threads where people are asking for specific advice. If anyone starts having a go about formula or breastfeeding they're usually well told by regulars to stop it.

Well I like a brioche bun and wouldn't dream of throwing a common sesame seed job.

Don't you think people post a lot of things anonymously on a chat forum that they wouldn't say to friends and family?

There will always be bun fights if certain posters continue data flooding any thread where people suggest it's fine to FF.

Unless someone asks for facts, keep your copy and pasting to yourself.

Can you imagine going up to a friend in rl and telling them you don't understand why they didn't want to try bf? fuck that

I've only witnessed something similar to that once.

The school gate busy body who tried to publicly embarrass one of the other mums who brought her newborn to school.

She stood there and tried to give the poor woman a dressing down in the playground, until another Mum stepped in and asked what good breastfeeding had done for her obese 10yr old and for her 'disrespectful shit of a teenager' who had apparently given her a fat lip.

It all got very ugly and I've never seen a crowd of Mums disperse so quickly. Me included!

I'm kinda with you dixie

It's better. yeah yeah it is.

but I have 2 children . one a full term healthy weight who's had eczema from.a baby. and asthma from around 2. I breast fed her for three weeks. I expressed for three months. I spent every waking minute either feeding or expressing. clinics and HV visits and weeks of being so fucking anti social sat upstairs witg breast pumps. got me frickin nowhere.

dd2 well low birthweight and a rocky start thanks to our wonderful germ infested hospital. she was even CMPI.

but she's so much healthier than dd1. tummy bugs chicken pox etc none of them hit dd2 as hard as dd1. even when dd2 was much younger. no asthma, no eczema even tbiugh she was far higher risk. not a single drop of milk passed her lips.

I look at both if them and always feel i wasted my time completely. all that money on taxis to clinics, all that time I didn't see anyone, all the blood, the excruciating pain all fir fir a few mls of milk

I really feel like it was a waste. and zero benefit to her.

never ever ever again. the benefits in my family are few and far between when balanced witg everything else

Hang on, the OP posts a thread in AIBU titled "AIBU not to breastfeed?" and no one is allowed to say YABU? What is the point of posting on AIBU if you only want one type of response.

I have no idea what response they were after TBH. I thought maybe some ideas of how to get the interfering relatives to pipe down a bit with their unwanted opinions.

I often wonder if she's a bit of an online keyboard warrior Dixie

Just like the only person who ever gave me the 'best start in life' speech (or tried to), until I politely enquired whether she thought deliberately getting pregnant whilst morbidly obese was giving her child the best start in life.

She could be online right this minute giving people that speech, while they're completely unaware of her hypocrisy.

CultureSucks that's only the title.

The content of the OP is clearly about her being made to feel bad about her choice.

What is the point of continuing to make her feel that way?