WARNING: incredibly trivial AIBU

[AmberNectarine]

I am currently engaged in the pettiest squabble ever with DH and I am seeking counsel as to whether IABU.

Yesterday DH asked to borrow my headphones at work (we work together), as he had forgotten his. I gave them to him so he could listen to an online presentation or some such.

This morning after dropping kids at breakfast club I went to plug into my iPod and realised my headphones weren't in my bag as usual. No bother, I thought, he'll give them to me at work. I wanted them so I could listen to music at the gym at lunchtime (I find it unbearable without music). I dropped him a text to ask him to leave them on my desk.

Response: they're at home on the dining table - I left them there for you.

AIBU to think if you borrow someone's stuff, you give it back to them personally, or at least tell them where you've left it, rather than leave it somewhere in the house and expect them to apply their psychic powers/divining rod?

He is refusing to apologise for this minor annoyance as he is adamant he is in the right, which is further winding me up.

Told you it was petty!

[AmberNectarine]

That is a very good point!

And no, not quite at the end of my rope yet (though he did put a merino jumper in the coloured basket rather than the delicates one yesterday which subsequently got shrunk).

[Illcya]

lweji great thought

[PinkPjamas]

YANBU. My ex used to do this. Say 'Can I borrow X' (pen, phone, headphones,insert random handbag-dwelling item), and I'd say yes it's in my bag, then he wouldn't put it back in my bag he'd leave it in the place my handbag was, or on the side, or try to pass me it when I was in the middle of something, busy.

I'd be saying 'FFS please put it back in my bag where you got it from!It's not difficult!'