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To not want to feed DD roast dinner.

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MrsA2015 · 27/01/2016 13:06

Well not just that, but all food!

DD is 3 months and EBF at the moment and I'm fine with it but see no harm in switching to formulate if need be. But I'm sick to death of hearing "oh she's hungry for something else give her a little taste" I've had this stupid damn advice since the day she was born almost!!!!!! Just because she's started chewing her hands it's apparently a sign to shove a lamb chop down her throat. FFS! I'M GOING TO WEAN HER WHEN SHE'S OLD ENOUGH! had it up to here now, she's absolutely fine and putting on weight as she should and is clearly content with BFing . Can't even leave her with anybody inlaws/DHsfriend for a while to shower or have a sleep because I'm likely to hear " oh she loved a taste of cream/butter/jam". Just Arghhh!

And I know in "other countries they are on solids from really early stop bring precious" I couldn't give a hoot! There are guidelines for a reason!

Constantly on edge now if feeding around these people.

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Throwingshade · 27/01/2016 16:51

Thing is there has been different advice (or no advice) over generations and half generations.

When my teens were babies, advice was 4 months so everyone I knew weaned about 3.5/4 months.

Just ignore and don't see it as some kind of evil plan to hurt your baby, it's just what people think is best - even if misguided.

Pyjamaramadrama · 27/01/2016 16:54

Fruit why wouldn't you give a roast dinner to a baby under one?

Once they're 6 months there are only a few things that you shouldn't give (another good reason to wait), such as honey, high in salt food.

ppeatfruit · 27/01/2016 16:58

I'mwith Erm you can't see the difference between pureed rice with bm or formula and steak and kidney pie? Or roast pork?

Katastrophe13 · 27/01/2016 17:00

Yanbu. I had all this shit from my family when my dc1 turned 3 months. Kept going on about when I was going to wean because it was 3 months when they did it. Told me to most of it doesn't stay in the mouth when you first wean. Right yes because a 3 month old can't swallow food and pushes it all back out! MIL got huffy with me when he was 5 months (and still not weaned) because I wouldn't let her give him Easter egg. She couldn't understand why I would not want him to have chocolate as his first ever solids.

imwithspud · 27/01/2016 17:07

Erm you can't see the difference between pureed rice with bm or formula and steak and kidney pie? Or roast pork?

Yeah, one actually has flavour, nutrients and is fine from 6months. The other is the equivalent to puréed cardboard.

ppeatfruit · 27/01/2016 17:13

Pureed rice can be 'whole' organic rice which keeps half of India alive oh and they don't even eat whole rice. A damn sight easier to digest than roast pork and potatoes fgs.

RainOhJoyus · 27/01/2016 17:26

YANBU baby rice/rusks are less calorie dense than milk. If hungry just give more milk, simples.
Feeding a baby purée in a bouncer because they are too small for a high chair to sit up unaided is just crazy

53rdAndBird · 27/01/2016 17:38

Oh, I know the frustration. It's not even that my family felt babies should be weaned at 4 months, it's that they wouldn't bloody drop it. "She's hungry!" "Look, she's looking at your plate, can't you even give her a little taste?", "oh she's still waking in the night, she needs filling up with proper food," "you're just being cruel to eat food in front of her when you won't let her have any!" and on and on and bloody ON. I am sure they thought they were being helpful, but aaaaaaargh.

imwithspud · 27/01/2016 18:17

Neither of my dc's have had baby rice. It's not a necessary part of a babies diet at all despite what the baby food companies would have you believe, especially not at 4 months. So fgs yourself

bumbleymummy · 27/01/2016 18:22

Baby rice is horrible stuff.

Figmentofmyimagination · 27/01/2016 18:29

Have a look at bee wilson's new book - First Bite - how we learn to eat. Really fascinating stuff. She says the 'taste' window opens at 4 months - and often closes too early for babies who start weaning at 6 months. Worth a read.

CheshireChat · 27/01/2016 18:31

My PIL tried this with DS and even now at 14 months I get comments that I won't give him things like gravy made with Bisto! However I actually regret not weaning my son at about 5 months instead of 6 as he showed all the signs and we were worried it's too early.

53rdAndBird · 27/01/2016 18:31

She says the 'taste' window opens at 4 months - and often closes too early for babies who start weaning at 6 months

Does she have research backing this up? Seems a bit

Figmentofmyimagination · 27/01/2016 18:36

53rd - yes - it's a good read. Mine are teenagers now though. It's also about changing our adult food tastes.

bumbleymummy · 27/01/2016 18:38

Riiiight...so all the children who have been weaned at 6 months missed their 'taste' window

doleritedinosaur · 27/01/2016 18:40

Guidelines are there for a reason however every baby is different which parents/in laws/everyone else seem to forget.

I weaned at about 24 weeks as that's when he gave me the signs but he was not hungry until he started crawling at 8.5 months & then actually increased to his 3 meals a day & now only feeds 2-3 times a day.

So for us the guidelines worked.
Your baby your rules. Well more the baby's rules.

bibbitybobbityyhat · 27/01/2016 18:48

When dd was born (not that long ago) the guidelines were four months and so I started to introduce other foods at that age. BUT that involved nothing more than baby rice, porridge, carrot, sweet potato, broccoli, banana, apple - all vegetarian, all pureed.

By the time ds was born 2.5 years later the guidelines had shifted to six months. I'm afraid I did exactly the same with him as I did with dd .

I was very old and self confident when I had my babies, I would have had no problem in telling anyone to fuck off if I thought they were interfering (yes, including my mil). If you can't do that, op, then just stop spending so much time with them!

Quietlifenotonyournelly · 27/01/2016 19:17

I think what people have to remember are that guidelines are just that, not a rule.
For some, early weaning works, for others the guideline advice works or later.
I also read about the 'taste window' in babies aged 4-6 months. It was some research done by Oslo university I think.
I agree with ppfruit in some ways when it comes to giving babies meat, I personally only give fish and chicken but not everyday, so mainly fruit and veg and cereals etc.
I hope that the way that Ive been introducing foods into DS diet has helped slowly develop his digestive system over the last few months.
Weaning age and how people do it is always going to be a heated debate because every parent, relative or professional has a different opinion.

maizieD · 27/01/2016 19:18

She says the 'taste' window opens at 4 months - and often closes too early for babies who start weaning at 6 months

That sounds ludicrous to me. I'd always assumed that the problem I'd had with my first was becasue he wasn't at the 'putting things in his mouth' stage and so was completely unfamiliar with any other taste apart from me and breastmilk. I don't think his 'taste window' really opened until he was about 14yrs . The whole rationale for leaving the second one later was so that she would be familiar with different tastes and more receptive to food.

OTH I had a friend who breastfed her middle child exclusively well past 6 months (like 10 -11 months) and had terrible difficulty in getting her to take solids. I'm sure I read at the time that there was a 'window' for introducing solids'.

Confused that people are now talking about weaning on this thread. Introducing solids and weaning are completely different things.

Also feeling very at all these reported DMs & MILs who can't mind their own business over what & when the baby eats. I would never dream of 'advising' my DD, nor would I feed anything to my DGS (20mnths) that she didn't approve of.

AppleSetsSail · 27/01/2016 19:25

Ugh. Nothing raises my judginess up like early weaning. Stick to your guns.

StrawberryDelight · 27/01/2016 19:27

So of course don't give a roast dinner to an under one yr old

Why on earth not? By 10 months mine were eating not only roast dinners but things like liver and mash for dinner.

bibbitybobbityyhat · 27/01/2016 19:39

Apart from pyjamas on the school run eh Apples?

bibbitybobbityyhat · 27/01/2016 19:41

Well its a salt thing isn't it really? I very rarely gave my dc the exact same foods as we were eating because I am way too selfish to give up my seasoning.

Chottie · 27/01/2016 19:55

I had my DCs in the 70s and 80s and the advice I was given was to give milk only until they were 6 months old and then start weaning.

But, one of their first weaning food was a soft boiled egg mashed up in potato which I understand is now a no-no food for young babies.....

getyourselfchecked · 27/01/2016 20:07

The guidelines stating weaning should be around 6 months are based on research showing stressing an immature gut can alter gut permeability.

So, if you want to wean at 3 months because you feel indignant about people telling you how to parent, knock yourself out. That'll show 'em.

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