To not want to feed DD roast dinner.

[MrsA2015]

Well not just that, but all food!

DD is 3 months and EBF at the moment and I'm fine with it but see no harm in switching to formulate if need be. But I'm sick to death of hearing "oh she's hungry for something else give her a little taste" I've had this stupid damn advice since the day she was born almost!!!!!! Just because she's started chewing her hands it's apparently a sign to shove a lamb chop down her throat. FFS! I'M GOING TO WEAN HER WHEN SHE'S OLD ENOUGH! had it up to here now, she's absolutely fine and putting on weight as she should and is clearly content with BFing . Can't even leave her with anybody inlaws/DHsfriend for a while to shower or have a sleep because I'm likely to hear " oh she loved a taste of cream/butter/jam". Just Arghhh!

And I know in "other countries they are on solids from really early stop bring precious" I couldn't give a hoot! There are guidelines for a reason!

Constantly on edge now if feeding around these people.

I got it all the time too i think it's a common piece of "advice" to try and force rusks,toast etc on a 3 month old. Wait until you and your baby are right you are definitely not BU! I gave in and let her have a little taste of rusk at 4 months, she was not interested in the slightest. Waited till 6 months as NHS says, tried her with porridge and she loved it!! You'll know when they're ready X

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I mean once or twice, not every feed (I hope).

*are ready

Meh, they are guidelines not rules.

Mine were all weaned at 3/4 months as the guidelines advised us and absolutely none of my huge babies, all over 91b born would have waited to 6 months however that was out choice as parents.

It's absolutely your right op to wean your baby when you choose. You can't stop the advice but no one should be feeding your baby unless you say so.

I have to say weaning and feeding are such a tiny part of the parenting journey it's not worth getting so worked up about it.

I fully expect the guidelines to change yet again for your child's generation of parents. Everything does. It's fashions of parenting backed by research of the day that changes.

Wait until you actually start weaning. I'm doing mashed food and finger food. All I keep getting now is 'you should do baby led weaning' - it's doing my head in!

(on a side note I began offering some food at 23 weeks and I was the last of my antenatal group to wean, I then stopped as dd not interested at all despite thinking she was. Restarted at 28 weeks and more she is interested)

I'm happy to wait until 6 months. I'm not sure why people want to do it so they can take baby porridge pictures.

We used teething granules on a spoon yesterday, that made me happy to see his eyes light up

I think it might depend whereabouts you are and whether you hang out with hippies like I do. Most people I know waited until 6 months because the peer pressure not to wean early - and to do exclusively BLW when you finally do wean - was huge.

I actually got grief for weaning DD at 6 months because she couldn't sit up unsupported for a decent period, which is meant to be a sign that she wasn't ready.

I felt the pressure to wean early too. It would get annoying as I wanted to wait until 6 months as recommended.

However in my case my dd was advanced in every aspect - it was like I'd given birth to a 5 month old. She was overdue to the max and came out holding her head off my chest. She learned almost every skill/reached all milestones for her age at lightening speeds. She was definitely ready for weaning at 4 months, so I gave in. It was right for us.

However if I didn't think she were ready I would not have done it. You should stick to your plan and do what's best for you regardless of who says what. You know your baby best! Don't be deterred by others.

I started with safer, more natural foods like puréed fruit/veg. I did those until 6 months before introducing other food groups. My dd didn't have butter or jam until 4 weeks ago when she turned 1 year old. The first year is hard on new mums, we just want them to be perfect/healthy and we are learning on the job using the guidelines, but the older mums have gotten past that so they don't have the same viewpoints (or even anxieties, maybe) as us. I often clash with certain family members over guidelines. They think I'm uptight and overprotective but I only want my dd to thrive as best she can!

Apparently I was a snob for not wanting to give my 6 month old baby a prawn cracker from an old probably dodgy Chinese takeout! Haha!

DS1 was given a taste of apple puree at 18 weeks because I thought he'd love it. He was 'meh' - clearly not keen.

DS2's first taste of food was popcorn at 2 weeks, shoved into his mouth by his loving big brother he was unimpressed!

They'll eat when they are ready. YANBU op.

Only experts trained in that field and who have conducted extensive and intricate research will understand the impact of weaning on a baby's body. And it is the same experts whose knowledge informs the guidelines. Therefore it is sensible to follow their advice because they know far more about it than most of us.

So saying 'parents know best when to wean' is not really helpful. Babies waking in the night, putting everything in their mouth and showing interest in food have other explanations.

(Of course there could be a huge conspiracy that is deliverately misleading parents and getting them to wean their babies at the wrong time. But that seems unlikely.)

I am sorry you are experiencing this pressure. It is soul destroying when other people try to force their views on you because of how it was done in their day. But guidelines have changed because understanding has improved and you have to be confident that you are doing the best for your child. You might need to get firm with these people, though I know that's hard!

With dd1 the guidelines were 4 months-I weaned at 5months.
Dd2 advise was between 4 and 6 months. She refused all solids until about 8/9 months when dd1 fed her a chocolate button. She then had a lick of ice cream a few days later, and then thought solids weren't quite so bad after all.
Ds the advice was not before 6 months and I weaned at about 7.5months.

Ds was the easiest (handed him a piece of toast) and dd2 now (at 12yo) is probably my best eater.

I weaned at 5 months but only because they little fiend grabbed something of the plate and shoved it in his mouth! Handful of curry but Fortunately it was just the sauce. He loved it and sucked his hand clean. He still loves curry now and likes them hot for an 8 yr old! People will never stop giving their opinion. I just put my thick skin on and just ignore.

I weaned at 5 months on the advice of a paediatrician. My DD suffered horrible reflux, and to be fair, when she started solids, her symptoms improved massively.
But even now at 9mo, I'm still fighting with my mother about food issues!! She kept trying to give her thinks like custard and yoghurt when she was tiny, and I put a stop to that. But now she gets all shitty with me when I ask her not to give DD pieces of her chocolate muffin when we go for coffee, or not to buy chocolate buttons for her. I get the usual "oh a little treat won't hurt her"....well no it won't, but I'm her mother and I'm not happy to be pumping her full of sugar when there's no need for her to have it!!

Stick to your guns OP! And if I were you, I wouldn't be leaving my baby alone with the pushy people

I tried to wean at 6 months and DD projectile vomited on the tiniest amount of baby rice (that might put your in-laws off lol).. I had to stop and re-start 2 weeks later, incredibly slowly, when she was ready.

However if I'd let it happen, DM and her husband would have given her ice cream at 4 months ffs and still didn't get it when I explained why that wasn't going to happen (treated me as though I was being precious). My advice, stick to your guns and don't leave baby alone with them, trust your instincts.

This is probably a bit goady of me, but from my experience, I think a lot of people push parents to wean early, and get defensive when they don't, because they see the current guidelines as some kind of attack on the way they did things.

My fil and sister have made nothing but snide comments about weaning, about 6 months being a load of rubbish and it never having done their children any harm.

A lot of erase arch goes into these things and I don't believe the NHS puts out these guidelines for nothing.

There isn't a magic day when babies are ready. The signs are the baby being able to sit well, being able to coordinate enough to put food into their own mouths, and losing the tongue thrust reflex. These signs of readiness make perfect sense if you take away baby jars and blenders. Which you won't need if you wean at the right time.

Having spoken to some parents who've weaned early I have questioned their reasons in my head.

For example, 'he's a big baby', my boys were well over 8 and 9lb at birth and following the 91st centiles, both were fine with their milk.
One mum told me she had to wean as her son was guzzling 7 oz bottles every 3 hours. Personally I wouldn't see that as a problem.
Then there's my parents and in laws, who believe in feeding on 4 hourly schedules yet weaned us at 2 months because we were 'starving' apparently.

Research.

This is probably a bit goady of me, but from my experience, I think a lot of people push parents to wean early, and get defensive when they don't, because they see the current guidelines as some kind of attack on the way they did things.

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You poor thing; there's nothing worse than all that unwanted advice, especially when it conflicts with what you think is right for your baby. And even more especially when it is from relatives who don't appear to have any respect for your judgement/intelligence.

When my children were babies (early 1980s) the advice was solids from 4 months. I did it with my eldest and verry much regretted it as he didn't really want it at all and was the fussiest eater ever for years and years. With my second I decided to wait until she was picking things up and putting them in her mouth. Her first 'solids' was sharing the mince off my plate at about 6/7 months. She ate everything she was given from then on.

If your baby really is hungry (which she probably isn't) a few extra feeds will bump up your milk supply and she'll be fine.

I might also add that solids made no difference at all to my DS's sleep pattern. He didn't sleep through the night until he went to school, age 4.

Just seen this: This is probably a bit goady of me, but from my experience, I think a lot of people push parents to wean early, and get defensive when they don't, because they see the current guidelines as some kind of attack on the way they did things

Well, I certainly don't!

Oh and also, previous generations didn't have mumsnet and the NHS website for support, they did what they were advised at the time. That's fine but advice does change because studies are being done all the time to improve things.

I'd like to think that when I have my own dgc I will respect their parents decisions and not undermine them all the time just because I did it a different way.

Sorry maizie you posted such a lovely post. Actually my own mum doesn't either.

My sister and fil are the worst culprits.

When dc1 (14y) was a baby, the official advice was still that weaning could start at 4 months. When dc2 came along just two years later, the advice had changed, now saying weaning from 6 months. I asked the health visitor why the change. Her answer was that it was from the World Health Organisation, mainly motivated by wanting Third World mothers to persist with breast milk longer, due to hygiene issues with giving solid food earlier.

One thing for sure, I was confused, miserable and thrown off course by all the different advice that I got about breast, formula, solids etc and I wish that I had just followed my instincts, that in fact turned out to have been right.

Just do what you think best.

My baby is 7 months and on milk and purees. I've tried her on finger foods and she can't chew them. Any baby foods with "bits" in she spits out. She can't yet sit up by herself. I waited until 6 month for purees.