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AIBU?

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To pull up my neighbour for noise, even though we had people over last night...

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rockabella · 25/01/2016 17:18

My DP invited some friends around to watch a sports PPV last night that started at 1am. They are a nice bunch, had a few beers between them etc but nobody was overly drunk or particularly rowdy. I was asleep in the bedroom next door so would have woken up if this was the case and they knew I was up early hence another reason for keeping the noise down.

I WAS woken up though by the son of the couple upstairs who must have been jumping up and down on his floor, and hammering at it in a response to what my DP said was them cheering at the TV. The banging continued for the next hour to the point it was shaking the light fittings and has now continued sporadically throughout today.

We are generally quiet people, rarely have people over and are in the process of moving house. We've never had any run ins with the folk upstairs and they've always been pleasant to us. Their son however has never spoke a word to us so I don't know much about him other than he is in his late teens/early 20s.

AIBU to want to pop a note through the door or have a word even though we were the ones who had people over last night and may have woken the son up? I can understand he might be a light sleeper and the one loud cheer might have stirred him, but to continue for another hour, and then today seems ridiculous.

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differentnameforthis · 26/01/2016 23:28

My DP didn't go up and apologise when the banging started because it continued for a while and it didn't seem appropriate to go up in case he was pissed off to the point it could get out of hand. Oh please!! Your dh didn't go up until you had pressure on here to apologise & when the noise got too much for you to listen to!

And you made my point beautifully as to why some of your other neighbours probably didn't complain. They also could be worried that a complaint to you could get out of hand!

You were unreasonable op.
You didn't apologise, you had no intention of doing so.
Your dp didn't apologise sooner, as he was worried the son was pissed off, yet was happy to go up after almost a whole DAY of banging to tell him to shut up!

OK!

and he didn't want to hear an apology anyway. I think he (rightly) assumed that after over 12 hrs of banging, he wasn't going to get an apology, but an earful! Which wouldn't have been misplaced (the earful)! But you are trying to dress up your dh's approach as an apology. And after that long...well, it wasn't really going to be welcomed, was it. You woke someone up in the wee hours, you couldn't be bothered to go up & apologise until almost a day later and you wonder why he wasn't receptive?

The sons parents are home, we bumped into them today and apologised, and they said it was fine So their son's dislike of being woken in the wee hours is written off as stroppy...by people who didn't have to experience the noise! I doubt they would have said anything different, unless they had been up all night too!

GruntledOne · 27/01/2016 01:37

a tad unreasonable however calling them dickheads for enjoying Wrestling isn't exactly fair.

I don't think people are calling them dickheads for enjoying wrestling. They were dickheads for getting together to do so as 12.30 a.m. and continuing to talk, laugh and cheer for the next four hours when they knew it would disturb the neighbours.

kali110 · 27/01/2016 02:31

I think you should just forget it.
Your dp and friends were unreasobable and probably noisier than they thought, even if they didn't mean to be.
I think the neighbour should have been warned before hand or an apology given sooner.
I think the neighbours reaction was a little ott, but he could have been kept awake longer than you thought.
There is nothing wrong with your dp watching wrestling, some people just like to wind up threads.

YouGottaKeepEmSeparated · 27/01/2016 17:33

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RiverTam · 27/01/2016 17:44

So hold on, it's fine for you to potentially disturb your neighbours on a nightly basis, but the OP's DH is an 'unbelievably selfish dickhead' for being inconsiderate once. That has got to be the most spectacular case of pot:black I've seen on MN.

Still, it's given me a good laugh.

YouGottaKeepEmSeparated · 27/01/2016 17:49

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RiverTam · 27/01/2016 18:00

You said 'they put up with me being an insomniac and wandering around till 2am most nights'. If you're not making any noise then they would have nothing to put up with. As you yourself say they do, you are clearly disturbing them. Otherwise why say it?

It's a one-off. What about that can't you understand?

BuggersMuddle · 27/01/2016 18:22

Glad it's sorted, but tbh OP, while the continual banging was PA, if I was woken by a neighbour I might well knock back loudly (I so don't miss flats).

I wouldn't particularly care if in doing so I woke their wife / wean / pet dog tbh, because I would tend to assume - rightly or wrongly - that if a neighbour in a flat is loud enough to keep me awake, they are loud enough to keep their entire flat awake.

YouGottaKeepEmSeparated · 27/01/2016 18:54

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rockabella · 27/01/2016 19:32

It is real, and it's done and dusted now as I have already mentioned.

We are very considerate neighbours and regularly help our elderly ones with their shopping up the stairs, or in the garden. We keep the communal areas tidy on their behalf to save them paying some to come and do it as they aren't fit. We take the bins out for a lady who works nights and would miss the collection other wise. We always give notice when folk are coming around and might disturb someone, but I've already mentioned this was a last minute change of venue to our house instead of one of DPs friends. We have never had any problems with those in our building beforehand, and are very much of the live and let live school of thought. W

We are hardly horrible people and horrible neighbours if this is the only noise complaint we have had in the entire time living here and get on very well with everyone else in the building.

I posted here for some advice and to see other peoples side of things, that was all!

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snowymountaintops · 28/01/2016 10:32

Yougotta why all the insults about the 'fake sport' Hmm.

Why wouldn't the thread still be standing Confused.

ComposHatComesBack · 28/01/2016 10:51

Wrestling isn't my cup of tea, but to describe it as a fake sport is absurd. It takes an amazing degree of strength coordination, athleticism and endurance. Yes the outcomes are pre-determined but imagine someone put you in a boxing ring with Lennox Lewis and said 'it's okay, he's going to take a fall in the seventh round'.

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