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AIBU?

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To pull up my neighbour for noise, even though we had people over last night...

137 replies

rockabella · 25/01/2016 17:18

My DP invited some friends around to watch a sports PPV last night that started at 1am. They are a nice bunch, had a few beers between them etc but nobody was overly drunk or particularly rowdy. I was asleep in the bedroom next door so would have woken up if this was the case and they knew I was up early hence another reason for keeping the noise down.

I WAS woken up though by the son of the couple upstairs who must have been jumping up and down on his floor, and hammering at it in a response to what my DP said was them cheering at the TV. The banging continued for the next hour to the point it was shaking the light fittings and has now continued sporadically throughout today.

We are generally quiet people, rarely have people over and are in the process of moving house. We've never had any run ins with the folk upstairs and they've always been pleasant to us. Their son however has never spoke a word to us so I don't know much about him other than he is in his late teens/early 20s.

AIBU to want to pop a note through the door or have a word even though we were the ones who had people over last night and may have woken the son up? I can understand he might be a light sleeper and the one loud cheer might have stirred him, but to continue for another hour, and then today seems ridiculous.

OP posts:
Hamiltoes · 25/01/2016 17:56

I had neighbours who would wake me up during the night with loud music, doors slamming, dog barking, shouting, bottles smashing in the garden etc. The important thing is it was unnecessary inconsiderate noise.

She would also consistently complain to me that my childrens footsteps annoyed her and our walking was too noisy, our washing machine etc.

There are no words to describe how much I despised those neighbours. Your noise was unnecessary and inconsiderate. Their noise was a reaction to being maddeningly woken up on a Monday morning. See the difference? I've felt their rage many times. Please think about this and if you're going to engage in discussion then the only thing you should be saying is sorry!

ArmchairTraveller · 25/01/2016 17:57

I agree, your DP caused the problem, he should be the one approaching the neighbours. Unless he just wants to let things alone.

Pipbin · 25/01/2016 17:57

None of the drinkers were driving so no worries on that front

Driving wasn't my point. I was saying that after having two beers you can't claim to be sober.

GabiSolis · 25/01/2016 18:00

Get your DP to go round and apologise. That's the only reasonable thing to do here..

MissingPanda · 25/01/2016 18:07

My living room is downstairs at the back of the house, my son's bedroom upstairs at the front and on a diagonal to the living room yet I just heard him laughing at something. Sound travels especially at night when it's usually quieter. I think your DP should go up and apologise for waking him up.

GruntledOne · 25/01/2016 18:19

If your husband had put an apologetic note through the door first thing this morning, I suspect that it might have averted all the problems you have had today Why didn't he?

Gildo · 25/01/2016 19:54

Pipbin I think you'll find 2 beers would not get most grown men drunk. It certainly wouldnt get me even tipsy

ArmchairTraveller · 25/01/2016 20:25

Not drunk, relaxed and in the company of friends, watching sports.
Not surprised the volume control wasn't great.

fabrica · 25/01/2016 20:28

Who the hell pays money to whoop and cheer at ridiculous sports in the middle of the night when people are asleep? How childish - don't you have a life? Sounds like you should be the ones apologising to your neighbours.

ElsaAintAsColdAsMe · 25/01/2016 20:34

Who the hell pays money to whoop and cheer at ridiculous sports in the middle of the night when people are asleep? How childish - don't you have a life?

I do, and jolly good it was too Grin (and yes, I do have a life)

fabrica · 25/01/2016 20:41

At 1 in the morning, when people are sleeping? Inconsiderate and childish to boot. Presumably her partner is a grown man, he should have grown out of that years ago.

Vaginaaa · 25/01/2016 20:42

Nowt wrong with enjoying sports shown at late/early times!

Who the hell mocks people for enjoying things that they don't enjoy themselves? How childish - don't you have a life?

PaulAnkaTheDog · 25/01/2016 20:43

Aren't you delightful fabrica. People can have different interests you realise? Are you going to call everyone who stays awake to watch the super bowl childish?

PaulAnkaTheDog · 25/01/2016 20:44

Oh fabrica get a grip. Seriously. You sound daft.

ElsaAintAsColdAsMe · 25/01/2016 20:47

The ops husband was being inconsiderate by being noisy.

The rest of your post is nonsense fabrica I'm a 36 year old woman and regularly sit up and watch sports on TV at all hours of the night.

ComposHatComesBack · 25/01/2016 20:53

Fabrica they could have been watching a Beckett play or re-runs of Teletubbies on TV, the problem was that they were being making enough noise to wake folks next door.

fabrica · 25/01/2016 20:57

Yeah, of course. Grown men pay money to whoop and cheer at the TV, drunk, disturbing everyone else in the process, but I'm the daft one. How silly and immature they are. I can't bear people like that.

RiverTam · 25/01/2016 21:05

The original fault was your DH's and his pals but I do think it was very over-the-top for the son to bang so hard the light fittings were shaking for an hour afterwards. He lost the moral high ground, and my sympathy, there.

Just leave it, OP.

ComposHatComesBack · 25/01/2016 21:10

Yeah, of course. Grown men pay money to whoop and cheer at the TV, drunk, disturbing everyone else in the process

Firstly, pretty much everyone has said they were being inconsiderate and should apologise to the neighbour.

No one is saying that's on. What people are taken umbridge with is the sneery attitude you have to watching sport on TV. What they were watching is irrelevant . if they had been watching a comedy and were laughing uproariously it would have been equally problematic.

but I'm the daft one

If you are incapable of comprehending the replies you had or (as I suspect) you are deliberately misinterpreting and misrepresenting them, well yes you are the daft one.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 25/01/2016 21:11

fabrica I'd bet the feelings mutual. You sound like a right barrel of laughs!

YouGottaKeepEmSeparated · 25/01/2016 21:17

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Monty27 · 25/01/2016 21:22

Clearly you have upset the ds upstairs. Yabu. And yes, send you dh/oh or both of you go even.

ZiggyFartdust · 25/01/2016 21:23

These reponses are weird. Even if they did cheer a bit, nobody thinks that banging through the floor for hours after they noise had stopped, shaking the light fittings, is completely fucking weird behaviour?

RiverTam · 25/01/2016 21:25

Looks like that's just you and me, Ziggy. One cheer results in an hour's banging and that's fair enough? Okaaay.

ZiggyFartdust · 25/01/2016 21:32

In crazy town, maybe!