To explode at the school

[Holdmeback]

DD complaining for the last few weeks about a boy in her class trying to look at her knickers during PE changing. She's 6.

I did the oh just ignore him ect etc. Still complaining. I told her to tell the teacher.

School have just phoned home. Apparently DD was uncomfortable getting changed today and complained about child x looking at her and waiting for her to take her skirt off.

Could she possibly wear a vest next week as it might make her more comfortable?

I'm sorry, WTF? Why should she cover herself up, why not tell HIM to stop staring?!

or exaggerate.

Fuck this thread went off

I've calmed down now! Went into class and asked what had actually happened and maybe i'd misunderstood. It turns out that last week DD had complained that this boy kept looking at her when she was getting changed and walking around the classroom to get to where she was. TA told her to go behind the bookcase to get changed and boy was still looking and giggling. Boy was told off and told to leave her alone.

Since this happened DD seems convinced that boy is still looking at her. Teacher says he is aware that boy is briefly looking but does stop when told to. He only made the suggestion of a vest as he thought DD might feel more comfortable. Boy has been told to stop looking and to leave her alone.

The poster who said he could have a clumsy crush type thing is on the money and teacher said the same thing. They are friends and he seeks her out at lunch time etc. DD likes him and plays with him regularly.

This isn't a boy bashing thread at all. I have a DS myself and am aware they are often blamed in situations where a girl maybe wouldn't be. I don't think he is a potential pervert at all!

If anything DD is a bit free and easy with her nakedness. She's never been bothered by running around with no clothes on and only recently has this become a thing (didn't want to lift her dress up for the male doctor etc)

One child is doing something which another child finds upsetting, and has asked him to stop and he hasn't

This.

Preschoolers and nursery kids are expected to understand that it's not on to intentionally do something to annoy or upset another child. Quite possibly he just enjoys winding her up because it gets a good reaction.

I agree it's not good to ask the recipient of unwanted behaviour to change rather than address the behaviour. But it sounds like the adults in the situation may not be being assertive enough anyway since the answer to this should have been as simple as "You change over there and you change over here", job done.

cross post OP. I'm glad you've got the full picture and you're reassured

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They are six. Separate areas to change? And separate staff?
Children of this age get changed in the classroom usually with one member of staff the teacher. Unless there is a child with special needs it is unlikely that a TA will be in there. Another place to change - where, most schools are pushed for space?
Only Year 5/6 s have separate changing facilities.
Op
I think it was reasonable to ask for a vest. My children wore vests in the winter to keep warm anyway. My daughter wore them all year around. They probably spoke to the child and are monitoring the situation. You could always pop a pair of shorts under her skirt that day or teacher her to pull her shorts on before removing her skirt. The important thing is that she feels comfortable. He may not have been looking at her just staring into space ( lots of kids do thiswhen getting changed) and she feels uncomfortable now. It could also be that he has just noticed boys and girls are different. Work with the staff don't explode at them.