To think if you're ill you should be allowed to sleep??

[MrsAttending]

Argh now this is making me pretty angry but I feel my OH is being totally unreasonable in this situation.

In short, GP has signed me off work. I'm on antibiotics which are doing their job and have been getting better each day.

I have still however, been incredibly tired and sleeping quite a lot during the day.

OH thinks I am being lazy and should be doing things around the house.

Trying to explain that I wasn't up to that yet is falling on deaf ears.

And I get comments like:

"You CAN'T be tired. You've slept all morning".

"You do seem to be sleeping a lot for someone who is OFF COLOUR!" yes because the GP routinely signs people off who are off colour

"Well I guess I'll be doing dinner AGAIN" (I've barely been eating anyway so hardly caused an inconvenience).

Apparently it was appalling that I didn't help with the shopping yesterday.

The jobs OH wants me to do are things like going through boxes in the garage (things I would normally do when I am off work for a holiday - not ill!)

I feel so cross about it it's making me cry.

You bloody pick someone to be your partner who is supposed to love you no matter what and support you though things... Not
make you feel like crap! :(

(As a disclaimer, I have NEVER been signed off sick in my whole life so it's not even like OH can say it's happened before as it hasn't).

AIBU?!

No your not. Can you walk out the house and go stay at a friends ?

Tell him to piss off

That's awful. When I had the flu DH did everything without a word of complaint for 2 weeks. I would be really upset if he had acted like your DP has. Hope you feel better soon and when you do give him what for!

No you aren't. DH has pneumonia and I'm not letting him do a thing. I'm knackered running around doing everything but he isn't going to get better otherwise. I've told him to do nothing as he's really weak and the slightest exertion is hurting him. and hope you're feeling better soon.

Just tell him that if you were well enough to do jobs you would be in work. My dh has been similarly dense in the past and it had to be spelled out to him.

He's being very unreasonable. Can you just decamp to the bedroom, headphones in and watch Netflix? Is he generally an arse?
Feel better soon

Im currently signed off sick too. On antibiotics. Due back on wednesday but dont feel remotly well enough yet.

Anyway, ive not had extra sleeping time but i am resting. I slept in until 10.30am today and have pretty much done nothing but lie down and watch tv. apart from today i still had children to look after all day so ive not been able to rest as much as i need to recover. I think if i had been able to sleep and properly rest i would be better already. Anyway, my dh has done everything today and made the evening meals without being asked since ive been off. He is also keeping on top of the cleaning and doing the washing.

Your husband is being an arse.

You know that saying, actions speak louder than words?

Hes treating you really badly.

YANBU.

It was a similar situation thst made me realise i needed to leave Dp...

Yanbu.
Can you go elsewhere - your parents?

You need to tell him in no uncertain terms to get fucked.

Don't get dressed, stay in your PJs.

Yanbu. I had shingles in December and was so ill. Even when the pain and blisters subsided i remained exhausted and unable to do much. DH just got on with cooking, washing and looking After kids. I would have been furious with this. Ignore

Tell him to fuck off and go back to bed.

Imagine if he was the one ill!

I feel for you op. Yanbu at all, he is being really nasty. Wait till he is ill, I bet he will expect you to look after him!

I think lack of sympathy when your partner is ill is such an unpleasant trait. Not sure what to advise you to actually do but definitely do not be pushed into doing more than you can cope with while you feel rough.

You could get in a lot of trouble with your work if you were spotted cleaning out the garage while on sick leave! You're sick, your job is to get better.

It's very hard for the other person to understand though, so Im not sure the other half needs to get such a blasting. I'd get a bit pissed off after a couple of weeks of nursing someone.

When DH was signed off sick and had been recovering for a while I was just so appreciative when I got up to help with the kids or dinner or anything. Yes I found it tough going (3 young dc) but he was ill and slept soooooooooooooooooo much.

The thought of clearing out boxes and stuff - what planet is he on!!!!

Can you go to your Mums?

Do you have DC?

No you're not he's very unsupportive and thinks you are just being lazy by the looks of it. Did he think the gp signed you off for fun?
My Dh works a 12-13 hour day and if I'm ill he will do 100% of everything and will get angry if I don't have a rest. Your oh is just ridiculous thinking you should be rooting around boxes!

YANBU.

The more rest you get, the faster you will recover. He's being an idiot.

Don't even rise to it. Get yourself into a nice cosy bed, preferably with orders for your DH to sleep on the sofa.

'I'd get a bit pissed off after a couple of weeks of nursing someone.'

For your own spouse?! He's not nursing her, she's staying in bed. And we don't know if it's been 'a couple of weeks'. Even if it were, she's ill. You're all heart, rose.

YANBU! Yes a good partner is supposed to have empathy and help out more while you're ill. It's called love! Hope you feel better soon

Quite.
Let's hope your partner never developes a serious illness.

Well what's actually wrong with you op?