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PIL won't give us their house...

139 replies

JapanNextYear · 23/01/2016 13:17

www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2016/jan/22/my-parents-in-law-have-gone-back-on-a-promise-to-give-us-their-house

TLDR

pIL offered to move out of their lovely house with garden to let family living in pokey flat in London move back to Midlands. How would this have gone on AIBU?

OP posts:
Devilishpyjamas · 23/01/2016 17:27

Good grief Shock

Hygge · 23/01/2016 17:32

Actually if my son tattoos his eyeballs I might just write a letter like that myself because, fucking hell, eyeballs!

Just looking at that picture makes my eyeballs hurt.

flipflapsflop · 23/01/2016 17:40

This a beauty from the guardian's A Letter to....from last year.

www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2015/nov/21/a-letter-to-my-godson-with-whom-ive-decided-to-sever-ties

It's incredible what people reveal about how themselves in their indignation.

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 23/01/2016 17:43

Hygge another one, just for you Wink

MadamCroquette · 23/01/2016 17:44

You can just hear the 17yo in that last example thinking "Oh FFS get off my back you tiresome old fart!"

"My door is always open.... except when you don't respond immediately and suck up to me, and now it's not open."

StitchesInTime · 23/01/2016 17:47

Even the mere thought of someone tattooing their eyeballs makes me shudder.

Italiangreyhound · 23/01/2016 17:48

kitsnicket I think the mum in the tattoo story is emotional abusive to her son. It is cruel and unnecessary. To suggest one would deal better with the loss of a son's arm than a tattoo shows she has no real concern for her son, just for her role as mum. I am glad he did not apologise, and I really do not like tattoos, but I dislike like controlling people far more!

MadamCroquette · 23/01/2016 17:50

I was reading about eyeball tattooing recently, apparently it's not only non-reversible, but can go horribly wrong especially when people try to do it themselves... yikes!

hefzi · 23/01/2016 17:52

Well the complainant is a guardian reader, what did you expect?

^^ This - madBengalmum has it spot on: this has to be a spoof, surely?

Hygge · 23/01/2016 17:52

Zing ouch!

I don't mind tattoos. I have a couple. But I can't cope with contact lenses, never mind eyeball tattoos.

I still don't think I'd prefer DS to lose an arm (or an eyeball) than tattoo something though.

Italiangreyhound · 23/01/2016 17:52

Weird... A letter to … My godson, with whom I’ve decided to sever ties but she is his aunt! Why does it not say ... A letter to … My nephew, with whom I’ve decided to sever ties!

Italiangreyhound · 23/01/2016 18:03

This is interesting at 2:20 onwards...

People can do what they like with their bodies but this is very dangerous and if the recipient of this procedure did go blind who would be looking after them! This might be the one situation relating to tattoos where I turned into the tattoo mum of the story above!!!!

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 23/01/2016 18:30

Madam

I watched it on a tv programme once. I would've stopped if it wasn't for morbid fascination.

Hygge
I really do not like tattoos, and would prefer my children never having any, but if they decided to have some would I sulk and not speak to them? Would I wish they'd have lost an arm instead?! Would I fuck!
Tattoo Mum has got her priorities mixed up. Let me see if I can find this amazing tattoo that would put things in prospective for her

LassWiTheDelicateAir · 23/01/2016 18:33

Oh I remember reading the letter to a god son. It was a cracker. You could really feel her pain.

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 23/01/2016 18:35

Found it! Thank you Pinterest!

This guy lost his arm, shark ate it I think. He is cool as fuck. I bet his mum is not sulking

PIL won't give us their house...
Andrewofgg · 23/01/2016 18:44

I wonder if the husband of the Guardianista has siblings and if so how they feel about this?

Manopaws · 23/01/2016 18:56

The PIL must have spotted that DIL is a gold digger and are worried that she'll try and take their son for half of their house.

BalloonSlayer · 23/01/2016 18:58

O that tattoo one! I detest tattoos but am roaring at this magnificent metaphor: As if my son had deliberately turned his back on a light Victoria sponge and stuffed his face with cheap doughnuts.

hahahahhahhahahhaaaaaa Grin

Note to tattoo Mum - He's a student, love. How many light Victoria sponges do you think he encounters, and how many doughnuts?

BalloonSlayer · 23/01/2016 19:01

Oh God the Godson one! Interesting that people think it's a woman writing when it's clearly a man though Hmm

Cutting someone off because they take a day to respond to a text? Even though they apologise? Surprised I've got any friends left . . .

BoneyBackJefferson · 23/01/2016 19:08

Hygge

I get the feeling that its not "they" but that 'she' wants all this.

I also get the impression that neither she or her mother are ever at fault.

PerspicaciaTick · 23/01/2016 19:25

If my spouse published a greed and hate-filled rant about my parents on a national website, I don't think the relationship would survive. Which would probably be a blessing in this case.

GruntledOne · 23/01/2016 19:32

This was another bit of tattoo mum's rant that had my open-mouthed:

I meet a colleague for lunch. "He knew how much it would hurt me," I say, tears running down my face. "For years I've said, don't do it. It's there for ever, even after you've changed your mind about who you are and what you want to look like. You're branded, like meat. It can damage your work prospects. It can turn people against you before you've even opened your mouth."

She's admitting she couldn't see the bloody tattoo so it's presumably covered by his clothes. How often does she think people are made to strip during job interviews?

If I'd been the colleague I would have briskly told her to stop being so bloody stupid and made a mental note to distance myself from her immediately. I might even have had words with our mutual boss about whether she is really capable of doing whatever job it is if she is so massively lacking in judgment and common sense.

Hygge · 23/01/2016 19:37

Boney I think I have the exact same feeling.

I hope their son isn't feeling the same way about turfing his parents out as his wife is.

I wonder if that's why he didn't go and stay when she did, or why she felt she couldn't argue without him there. Because she knows it wasn't the PILs idea or one her DH felt comfortable with either.

StitchesInTime · 23/01/2016 19:38

I was reading about eyeball tattooing recently, apparently it's not only non-reversible, but can go horribly wrong especially when people try to do it themselves... yikes!

I can't begin to imagine why anyone would actually try to tattoo their own eyeball themselves. That sounds terribly dangerous.

I freely admit that I would be horrified if one of my DC tattooed their eyeballs. But this would be coming from a "But you could have blinded yourself!" POV rather than hysteria about how I don't like tattoos and how dare my precious children do this after everything I've done for them...

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 23/01/2016 20:11

Hygge & Boney

It'd be great to hear the PIL's side!
I guess they don't write letters because swimming in space is an exhausting hobby! [grin ]