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To want to make DP eat his sodding alarm clock?

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scarednoob · 21/01/2016 22:27

He's a snoozer. So the alarm goes off at 6am, then again at 6.02am (not kidding), lather rinse repeat all the way to 6.30am or sometimes 6.45am when he finally gets up. By which time i am wide awake and furious! At the moment I'm on mat leave, and have usually just got the baby back to sleep, so don't want to be awake then. When I am at work, I usually sleep til about 8, as I work til about 9 at night.

I've tried everything from asking nicely to losing my rag; nothing stops his sodding beepbeepbeepbeep, over and over again. I wouldn't mind one snooze, but 15+ is ridiculous, surely?

Should I suck it up, as he's pretty good otherwise? Or staple it to his head?!

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HermioneJeanGranger · 23/01/2016 08:26

Why does he think it's okay to disturb your sleep because he can't be arsed to get out of bed? That's awful.

I get up at 5am for work. DP gets up at six. My alarm goes off, I silence it, grab my stuff and get up. My clothes etc. are all in the front room so I can get changed without disturbing him. I have a day off mid-week, and if he didn't reciprocate by doing the same, I would be waking him at 5am for the rest of the week to show him how selfish it is.

Luckily, he's sensible and just gets up and out like a proper adult.

teawamutu · 23/01/2016 08:55

Those of you creeping around in the dark on your early days only to be woken by selfish twats snoozing for hours and then crashing about - WHY?

WAKE THEM THE FUCK UP UNTIL THEY STOP BEING TWATS.

Boomingmarvellous · 23/01/2016 09:40

DH does this.

I could kill him will one day

Iggi999 · 23/01/2016 09:50

For poster saying she wouldn't have married a snoozer offender - I had no idea mine was one until ML, when working full time I always had to get up first anyway and the weekends were alarm free zones - so, I got sleepless nights and alarm-clock mornings simultaneously!

expatinscotland · 23/01/2016 10:38

I used to dump snoozers if they didn't cut it out.

I have dreadful insomnia and PTSD. Snoozing is terrible for your body.

Now DD2 gets herself up, I got her an alarm with no snooze. Not going to let her get into that habit at all. Never a problem with DS as he has ASD and is an early riser.

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 23/01/2016 11:28

Every 2 minutes? That's insanely annoying Confused.

DH & I each do one snooze - DH's alarm goes off at 6, and then he gets up after one 15 minute "snooze" at 6.15. Mine goes off at 6.45, and then I have one 9 minute "snooze" and get up at 6.54 Grin.

I couldn't be doing with every 2 sodding minutes!

Schwabischeweihnachtskanne · 23/01/2016 16:15

A few people on here seem to have proper medical grade sleep issues, but most repeated snoozers are being inconsiderate self centred arses if doing it in a shared room/ shared house in situations where it disturbs others repeatedly.

How do people who are not awake enough to get up at first alarm parent? Do they need to listen to their babies scream for a while before they get up to them? Listen to their toddler vomit or shout for them after a nightmare for half an hour before they go to them?

Most people (with exceptions where the sleep issue is caused by medication/ a symptom of a fairly serious medical problem/ in all honesty a medical problem in itself) actually can perfectly well get up when their alarm goes off, and if they share a room or thin walled house rather than living alone are being spectacularly selfish to set it hours before they actually have any intention of getting up and then not caring at all about disturbing the sleep of their partner/ family members in adjoining rooms or house mates repeatedly over the course of an hour or more.

Topseyt · 23/01/2016 16:52

DH used to occasionally be like this in the early days of our relationship.

The cure for it was my foot making a connection with his arse.

CottonSock · 23/01/2016 16:55

I'd chuck it out the window. I once did that to my ex partners watch that kept beeping. I don't sleep well and anyone who affects it feels the wrath.

DickDewy · 23/01/2016 16:57

He would be so dead if he were mine!

You're obviously far too nice - my dh simply would not dare do this.

foragogo · 23/01/2016 16:58

Do what I did. Turn it off in the middle of the night so they are late for work. Tell them why.

Ain626 · 23/01/2016 17:22

In our house I'm the one who snoozes, and DH gets annoyed with me... However... He has to leave for work before I have to get up so for the most part my snoozing doesn't affect him. Neither of us set alarms at the weekend.

I am not a good person first thing in the morning. Though something that I've recently learnt helps me is my first 'alarm' now is actually a light that comes on gradually, and it appears to wake me up almost without me noticing. Then when the alarm on my phone goes off I'm already nicely awake and not needing to snooze. Though this might not be an option in your case as it may also keep you awake?

AmyLouKin · 23/01/2016 17:46

Oh my god, I thought it was just me that had to put up with a man like this! I don't mind so much on days off but when I had to get up an hour later it really pissed me off, as that hour of sleep was then ruined for me! I'm a light sleeper, noise and light wake me up and I usually end up with my head under the pillow most of the night. My very lovely man suffers from restless leg and heavy breathes/snores, which I know he can't help but an alarm going off 4 times, he can! It was twice this morning, that I can cope with ( although I still don't entirely understand why people don't just set the alarm later and get some, proper, extra sleep)!

CeeceeBloomingdale · 23/01/2016 18:42

My DH used to do this and blame insomnia although he seems to sleep for Britain. I'm normally awake before my alarm so just don't get it. Funnily enough only I can hear the DC at night etc. He's 'solved' the issue by not using an alarm and relying on me to wake him then nag him repeatedly to get up. I mix things up on occasion by 'sleeping in' and making him late.

IrenetheQuaint · 23/01/2016 18:51

Remove the duvet from him and drag it all over to your side. If he complains, say you are just helping him wake up.

RaspberryOverload · 23/01/2016 18:53

DP has an alarm that goes off ten minutes before he gets up. It's a crescendo type, so gets louder and LOUDER (and I'm partly deaf, but it still wakes me up).

A few years ago, he forgot to switch it off before we left to go on holiday......

On our return the neighbours came round to politely tell him switch it off next time Blush It had gone off at 7am every morning we were away, and was so loud, it had woken them up next door. It went off for about an hour before stopping for the day......

I now remind DP (several times) to check his clock before we go away anywhere.

supersop60 · 23/01/2016 18:54

We have a Lumi alarm 'clock'. It's a light that turns on and gradually gets lighter over about 30 mins, simulating sunrise. It can get quite bright, but never uncomfortable. It's a much gentler and yet effective wake-up.

Iggi999 · 24/01/2016 01:35

It is perhaps karma that I've just had to wake dh up as I forgot my keys after a night out Blush
I will try to remember that he has woken me way more often when he starts complaining about this in the morning.

teawamutu · 24/01/2016 09:39

My ex used to change it up at weekends by deciding it was time to get up (half seven when we were early twenties, no dc), refusing to get up alone and lying there whinging and fidgeting till I gave in and got up. Once I physically heaved him out of bed.

Used to think it was just insanely annoying, have since realised how controlling it was.

NinjaLeprechaun · 24/01/2016 10:35

"I have one of those alarms that starts beeping very quietly, and then gets louder and louder. I keep the clock across the room, so I have to get out of bed to hit snooze or turn off the alarm."
My sister used to do this. Every morning, without fail, she would walk across the room, hit snooze, go back to bed... and have absolutely no recollection of doing it.

My daughter is also a very heavy sleeper. To the point that you can literally bounce on her bed chanting "wake up", and she won't. She has to be out of the house by 6 and it takes her 15 minutes to get ready - her first alarm goes off at 5, then 5:15, then 5:25, then 5:30. Then she sits on the sofa for 15 minutes before she starts getting ready.
If she has to wake up more quickly than that, assuming she actually did wake up, she'll be a grumpy cow irritable for the rest of the day.

On the other hand, it turns out that alarms only wake me up if they're meant for me. Her alarms don't wake me up no matter how loud they are, and I used to sleep through my ex's alarm and two snoozes every single morning.
I never could sleep through a crying baby though. He could. Willfully. The bastard.

WhetherOrNot · 24/01/2016 11:35

The alarm is on his mobile sadly, so i can't chuck it out of the window.

Why?

AdoraBell · 24/01/2016 11:46

My DH had a "problem" with his phone which couldn't be cured at all and most definitely wasn't his fault.

There was no way to stop the alarm going off at random hours throughout the night and eventually it scared me so much one night that, rather like Waitingforme I involuntarily kicked him rather hard as I jumped out of my skin.

Miraculously, the very next day, he found a solution to the problem his phone was having.

TheCraicDealer · 24/01/2016 11:48

I was a snoozer but got a Lumie clock. It was the cheapest model so unfortunately doesn't have the birdsong option, but I'm not hitting snooze like i used to- used to be my first alarm would go off at 07:10 but I wouldn't get up until 07:45 (and yes, on those days I was late). Now I have one ten min snooze after the Lumie goes off and I'm up.

It's good as well because the light is so strong by the time the alarm sounds you don't need to turn the big light on to do stuff and feel that sensation where it's like your eyes are going to explode.

DP was sceptical but even he agrees it makes it easier getting up in the morning.

AdoraBell · 24/01/2016 12:03

Where do you buy these lights that have been mentioned? I have a nocturnal teenager who needs to be awake in time for school and that sounds like the perfect solution for me her.

TheCraicDealer · 24/01/2016 12:35

You can get them in John Lewis, Tesco, Amazon and I think Boots. I got mine off Amazon.