To want to make DP eat his sodding alarm clock?

[scarednoob]

He's a snoozer. So the alarm goes off at 6am, then again at 6.02am (not kidding), lather rinse repeat all the way to 6.30am or sometimes 6.45am when he finally gets up. By which time i am wide awake and furious! At the moment I'm on mat leave, and have usually just got the baby back to sleep, so don't want to be awake then. When I am at work, I usually sleep til about 8, as I work til about 9 at night.

I've tried everything from asking nicely to losing my rag; nothing stops his sodding beepbeepbeepbeep, over and over again. I wouldn't mind one snooze, but 15+ is ridiculous, surely?

Should I suck it up, as he's pretty good otherwise? Or staple it to his head?!

[museumum]

The non snoozers don't understand. With only one alarm I am not awake enough to get up. Or even realise it's getting up time. It's not a conscious thinking thing. One alarm only would rest in sleeping through. Unless I put the alarm the other side of the room but then dh needs to deal with the minutes it takes me to come round and stumble across the room to it. Probably more disruptive.
I got a lumie which lights up for 30min before beeping and that solved it for me. But nothing else really helps if you're a deep sleeper.

[Iggi999]

I don't think we're talking about one or two snooze alarms. For a time (before I came on here and got the rage) dh would snooze his alarm evety eight minutes for an hour and a half before he finally got up. This when I was on maternity leave

[Braeburns]

Ha, my DH's friends still take the piss out of the day when he snoozed his alarm every 10 minutes from 8am to after 9pm (when he got up to go to the off licence). He was a student at the time but he does still have the ability to snooze the alarm repeatedly although nowadays the kids are more effective and I have to get up earlier than him so it doesn't bother me so much.

[TattyDevine]

I like to snooze but I have taken to just setting the alarm to 10 minutes before I actually have to get up, then snoozing once and heading straight to the shower. No matter how asleep you feel, once you are in the shower it wakes you up (me anyway, and I'd imagine most other than the deepest of deep sleepers who perhaps sleep badly or have other health issues).

It does kind of feel nice to drift back off but it only prolongs the agony, and you get better quality and more sleep if you aren't constantly turning the alarm off.

I don't disturb anyone with mine though because it's just me by that time of morning.

DH was unpopular at 5:45am though...he's not here, stayed in an hotel last night, but left his alarm clock on so me and the boy who had snuck into my bed (my son, I mean!) were woken rudely at 5:45. He does this occasionally. His "punishment" is that in a blind haze of sleep I just rip the plug out the wall so when he gets home he'll have to plug it back in and reset it!

[Schwabischeweihnachtskanne]

Braeburn he's lucky he still has friends! 13 hours of an alarm clock going off every 10 minutes - if the police did that to a prisoner in the cells it would be classed as torture!

[Cheby]

I have to admit to being a snoozer. It's a crap habit and I need to get out of it (10 mins max though, and not every day, usually just when I've been up with DD in the night and am exhausted). I don't feel bad for DH though, he sleeps through anything.

His alarm usually goes off after mine, thankfully, because he has it around 3x the volume and leaves it blaring for 3+ minutes before waking up enough to turn it off (it's on his mobile too so annoying repetitive sound). If I am due to get up later than him, he basically just waits until I kick him awake and insist he turns it off, by which time I am up and no chance of going back to sleep.'

[42andcounting]

When you get up in the night with the baby, set his alarm to go off in five minutes, then snooze every five minutes. Maybe a few nights of that will make him realise how annoying it is to be woken when you don't need to be....

[littleleftie]

Oh this would drive me potty. If he didn't get up after the first alarm I would be shouting GET UP GET UP GET UP! in his ear until he got out of bed.

I would ask him to set his alarm for ten minutes before he absolutely has to get out of bed, with a ten minute snooze and final alarm. It seems a reasonable compromise to me.

[isthatpoisontoo]

Mine does this, too. I think he honestly doesn't understand that I'll wake up. He used to also clatter about looking for things and turn lights on, I've managed to get him out of that habit. On nights when he's getting up particularly early, I insist on him using his smartwatch, which vibrates on his wrist to wake him. They're not that expensive second hand, totally worth it for the sleep. Now and again I threaten him with one of these, www.robotshop.com/uk/nanda-tocky-robot-alarm-clock-kiwi.html, which jumps off the bedside table and hides.

[helenahandbag]

I'm one of those people who bounces out of bed as soon as the alarm goes off. DP is a snoozer.

He snoozes every ten minutes for up to an hour before he has to get up and it makes me want to kill him, especially when he's working a Saturday and I'm off

He insists that he can't just get up when the alarm first goes off. I wish I had some advice but it takes everything in me not to smother him with a pillow.

[SonjasSister7]

Its the complete failure to takeyou into consideration thats so enraging! He's the one with the problem waking up without disturbing someone, he should be the one on dozernet hunting for the solution!

[SonjasSister7]

Because obviously, anyone else in the room would find it intolerable except in the unlikely event that they needed to wake up in exactly the same way at exactly the same time

[Schwabischeweihnachtskanne]

I don't bounce out of bed, I have to make myself swing my legs out of bed before I'm properly awake, and switch off the alarm. Then I sit for about 30 seconds, then make myself get up and creak across the room - my feet always hurt in the mornings inexplicably (not inexplicably, probably my age...) I wake DD as she has to be up first (she has an alarm which she also is not allowed to snooze, but she has me as back up and I also make her sit up with legs out of bed before I stumble into the shower and wake up there.

I truly don't see how snoozing the alarm is anything but torturing yourself and your partner, and depriving yourself and your partner of extra proper quality sleep you clearly could have had if you actually don't have to get up at the time your set your alarm for, because you are still in bed multiple snoozes later.

It is hard to get up in the morning for many people, but if you actually set your alarm for the time you know you have to be up then surely (health conditions aside as I know nothing about how that might somehow make it easier to get up after listening to annoying beeping every 5 minutes for the last half hour) you just do it.

Surely the key problem is people setting their alarms earlier than they need to and knowing they don't actually have to get up at that time.

If you sleep alone and your alarm isn't loud enough to wake people in the next room then of course you can do whatever you like - but people who are snoozing and disturbing partners' sleep to do so are basically saying "fuck you, my preference for regular annoying alarms for an extended period before I actually intend to get up is more important than your sleep".

[SanityAssassin]

DH did this when I first met him - drove me mad wasting proper sleeping time lying there waiting for the next set of beeps for half an hour. Once I pointed this out he stopped (thankfully!)

[TondelayaDellaVentamiglia]

no snooze alarms here...bloody get up or you are deadmeat!


half the time dh doesn't even hear his alarm, he's been a shift worker for ever so has absolutely no routine, his alarm wakes me and I ALARM him, but it rarely makes it to the third round of noise

and that's another thing... once he did try some god awful noise like war breaking out crossed with a house falling down in a hurricane with a grenade under the bed....it's a discreet but persistent buzz nowadays.

[mintoil]

Hmmm, the only thing that stops me saying YANBU is that I would have thought you were aware of this fucking unacceptable and selfish behaviour before you had a child with him?

If you genuinely hadn't ever spent a night with him before you ended up in a committed situation with YANBU. If this is new behaviour YANBU.

If you knew it and accepted him with all his faults then sorry, YABU.

[Clutterbugsmum]

Get a plant sprayer and every time his snooze alarm goes spray him. Unless you are in a room by yourself it's rude and selfish.

[Sanchar]

I sometimes do that too, hufflebottom.

Slept through first 2 alarms, 3rd woke me up but thought it was the first! When the 4th alarm went off 10 minutes later I thought it was a mistake😲. Had a crap day as a result as I didn't have my usual hour to unstiffen, stretch the pain out or unfog my head!

[scarednoob]

Oh it's always driven me mad! I just didn't join mn before I had DD, so had nowhere to vent... Friends IRL will just say, Ahhhh but he's so lovely

The one thing that worries me is, when I go back to work, he is giving up and will be a SAHD. He'll be great, he's brilliant with the baby. I just worry that, if he can drowse and snooze and sleep through his alarm, he might do the same with her crying.

[Fifi10]

Hang on a minute- your DP sounds exactly like my DP! His alarm also goes off intermittently between 6 and 7am before he hauls his butt out of bed as a result of me also kicking him intermittently during this time. If I moan loudly enough at him I get breakfast in bed, so not all bad I guess.

You have my sympathy

[whaleshark]

YANBU, and I say that as someone who does like to use the snooze button. Mine will go off twice, three times maximum, and then I switch it off, and DH complains about that! I don't blame you finding it irritating if he does it for up to 45 minutes!

[WhatALoadOfOldBollocks]

I've just ordered myself one of those Lumie clocks that wakes you gradually. I'm hoping that breaks my two-snooze habit.

I have one of those, Euphemia and it's wonderful. I'm always awake about a minute or two before the alarm, (something that never happened when I just had a normal clock and would snooze it a couple of times) and even then my alarm is non-jarring birdsong. Because I'm awake I can get up straight away. I definitely recommend them.

[vvviola]

OP - my DH is deaf in one ear and when the DC were small he would sleep through any amount of crying (oddly, over the past year or so he's more aware). However if I was out or away, he never so much as missed a sniffle. It's like a switch flipped in his head that said "Vi isn't around, I need to be more aware of noises". I really wouldn't worry about your OH if he's a SAHD from that point of view.

[Gliblet]

I just worry that, if he can drowse and snooze and sleep through his alarm, he might do the same with her crying.

I had similar worries before 'swapping' with DH - he's always been able to sleep for Britain, loves his lie-ins etc. He's never held me up in the morning, never missed a nursery drop off, appointment or play session with DS, is out of bed the second DS needs him at night... The only times he sleeps in now are weekends when I specifically offer to get up with DS so DH can have an extra couple of hours in bed. HTH.

As for the snoozing, you're clearly some kind of angel. I'd have been tipping him out of the bed on the second beep long before now

[KatharinaRosalie]

DH tried it. After I had been up every hour with a baby. I said I will actually kill him if he does it again. I think he believed me.

No really, if you need to get up at 7 then put the alarm for 7. And get up. If you can press snooze then you didn't need to get up at that time, did you?

And the Lumie clock is indeed nice for deep sleepers.