To want to make DP eat his sodding alarm clock?

[scarednoob]

He's a snoozer. So the alarm goes off at 6am, then again at 6.02am (not kidding), lather rinse repeat all the way to 6.30am or sometimes 6.45am when he finally gets up. By which time i am wide awake and furious! At the moment I'm on mat leave, and have usually just got the baby back to sleep, so don't want to be awake then. When I am at work, I usually sleep til about 8, as I work til about 9 at night.

I've tried everything from asking nicely to losing my rag; nothing stops his sodding beepbeepbeepbeep, over and over again. I wouldn't mind one snooze, but 15+ is ridiculous, surely?

Should I suck it up, as he's pretty good otherwise? Or staple it to his head?!

OH tells me I give him a swift elbowing in the night if he's noisy or his alarm goes off in the night. I'm asleep so wouldn't know anything about that though. The alarm only goes off twice now though.

*I do not support violence as a solution to problems.

I personally moved my alarm to the other side of the room so that I can't snooze it. Can you have him do the same?

Also, as he's using his phone you should be able to alter the interval of the alarms. He can't possible know that he's snoozing until X time so he's really pushing his luck!

My dh does this, but will happily snooze for 2 hours while I lie awake getting angrier and angrier. We co-sleep with dd so now either he sets the alarm once or stands up on the first alarm and goes to snooze on the couch.

Wow I had no idea so many men do this! I agree, whyyyyyyy? It's bad enough being yanked out of delicious sleep like a rotten tooth (she says grimly, feeding a baby who used to sleep right through and has forgotten how) once, never mind multiple times.

Time for a proper chat about it.

If your awake how is he snoozing, id be taking at him, taking blankets etc until he moves. Surely you set your alarm to get up after all.

*talking at him

My DH used to do this too!
Makes no sense.

I'd rather have 45 minutes extra sleep and get up when alarm goes off.

OP, I fear you are entirely misunderstanding the situation.

The alarm clock rings... for you. When the alarm rings, the dutiful wife will get up, bring her husband tea in bed, and then cook his breakfast while he reads the morning paper.

That is the proper behaviour of a good wife.

Your husband is probably puzzled that, in spite of the alarm ringing over and over in response to the snooze button, you do not perform your morning duties.

I think you should re-read your copy of the 1955 Good Wife's Guide en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Good_Wife%27s_Guide, and amend your behavior accordingly.

Mine is set for 4.30am. I turn it off in about 0.1 of a second from it going off.

I'm not ready to die at the hand of my wife just yet.

P.S where can I buy a copy of that 1955 Good Wife Guide ;-)

I get up first in our house, by 3 or 4 hours. I do have a snooze on my alarm clock, but I am the light sleeper, not DH.

He needs to set the alarm for when he needs to get up, he CAN put it the other side of the room.

He is being selfish.

I put my clothes in the bathroom the night before, if I forget something, I use a tiny torch to get it, to try to avoid disturbing FH.

Beyond selfish - my alarm goes off at 5.30am on work days and 5.45am when I need to get the kids up for school, and I turn it off immediately and get out of bed.

Constantly snoozing the alarm is so selfish and also just makes getting up worse by prolonging the whole thing - if he isn't actually going to get up til 6.30am he should set the sodding alarm for 6.30am!

I had a housemate who did the snooze thing once - in a different room of a shared house but a very loud alarm and thin walls. She also then often finally got up and went to the bathroom having only snoozed it, leaving it to go off and beep more and more frantically while she showered. Perfect way to make people hate you with a deep seated boarderline insane loathing...

YANBU. I used to be like that, but as soon as DH and I started living together, I made myself break the habit because I knew it was unfair to him. Most mornings I can now get up without any snooze at all - otherwise it's one snooze only. He could change this if he really wanted to.

To those who are bemused why anyone would do it in the first place - I did/still do find it very difficult and jarring to be woken up (rather than waking naturally) - hitting snooze repeatedly helped by making it more gradual. That might not make a lot of sense, because it means you get woken up multiple times instead of just once, but it means you don't need to wake up fully - you gradually ease yourself out of sleep. But as I said, you can train yourself out of it if you really want to.

I have 4 alarms, at 6, 6.30, 6.50 and 7am. because I'm a terrible sleeper and if I've had a bad night I'm likely to fall asleep again after the first alarm, and the rest are insurance😴

I have my own room though so my alarms don't bother anyone else

An ex (note description) used to do this. It was, I kid you not, a major factor in our break up. I found it utterly selfish that he was prepared to disturb me multiple times, knowing I hated it, just from laziness.

You need to get the proper rage and issue an ultimatum, OP. Alarm goes off = Get out of bed FFS. NOW.

Out of interest, does he pull his weight with the baby at night?

I have 4 alarms, at 6, 6.30, 6.50 and 7am. because I'm a terrible sleeper and if I've had a bad night I'm likely to fall asleep again after the first alarm, and the rest are insurance

If you can stay in bed til 7, just set one for 7 and get an extra hour's sleep. This is ridiculous behaviour.

Can you reach over him when the alarm goes off and turn off the snooze?

And suggest he gets a vibrating alarm.

OH used to do this when we first moved in together. He does NOT do it now.

DP is one of these unfortunately. Always has been. My alarm goes off for a couple of seconds and that's it.

He, on the other hand , has 2 alarm clocks that alternatively go off. His radio clock starts off at 5 and then a few minutes later his phone starts. Sometimes I can kind of sleep through it but other times I'm lying there raging. I have to kick of shove him eventually.

Both me and my dp do it.....I'm not sure why to be honest but we just roll around cuddling

Sanchar I do this. I usually set 3 though.first 2 30 mins apart then the last one is 15 mins after the second. The number of times I sleep through the first 1 as I finally get to sleep an hour before it goes off. The number of times I've been late somewhere because I've slept through an alarm is ridiculous.

However the snoozing thing.....turn it off when he snoozes first time.

Laughing at canadianjohn - maybe I am just missing many hints...

He would help with the baby at night, and helped a lot when she was tiny and needed holding all the time. But I am yet to get her on a bottle, so there isn't much he can do at night now. Plus even I as a FTM can see she's a pretty easy baby; she was sleeping 10 hours straight until this week, grrr. So it's just the torture of that snooze button.

I am going to get him to read this thread and if these answers don't shame him, I shall have to steal his phone and set the snooze for 20 mins!