To want to make DP eat his sodding alarm clock?

[scarednoob]

He's a snoozer. So the alarm goes off at 6am, then again at 6.02am (not kidding), lather rinse repeat all the way to 6.30am or sometimes 6.45am when he finally gets up. By which time i am wide awake and furious! At the moment I'm on mat leave, and have usually just got the baby back to sleep, so don't want to be awake then. When I am at work, I usually sleep til about 8, as I work til about 9 at night.

I've tried everything from asking nicely to losing my rag; nothing stops his sodding beepbeepbeepbeep, over and over again. I wouldn't mind one snooze, but 15+ is ridiculous, surely?

Should I suck it up, as he's pretty good otherwise? Or staple it to his head?!

[CanadianJohn]

Just kidding about the Good Wife guide; I hate morning tea in bed.

I have one of those alarms that starts beeping very quietly, and then gets louder and louder. I keep the clock across the room, so I have to get out of bed to hit snooze or turn off the alarm.

And once I'm out of bed... well, so much for sleeping in.

[chrome100]

That would do my head in. Very inconsiderate.

[Excited101]

I do this... I also live alone... This might not be a coincidence...

[MuddlingMackem]

Sorry, haven't read all of the thread. Just thought I'd post and say if he's the type who can't get up as soon as his alarm goes off, like me, then just setting it once won't work. What I have to do is have two alarms. The first wakes me up and it gives me enough time to come round sufficiently to be able to get up when the second one goes off. He should be able to work out how much time he needs between the two.

When I was younger ten minutes between the two was enough for me, then it went to fifteen. These days I need twenty.

[Gwenhwyfar]

"I find waking up so painful I have absolutely no idea why anyone would choose to do it 15 times every morning."

It's like having a mini lie-in every morning. I do it for hours every day - live alone though.
If I got up straight with the alarm I'd probably be half asleep, walking into doors etc.

[unlucky83]

I sleep with the light on ...always have ...I fall asleep reading
so I don't think a Lumie clock would work for me.
And I am an incredibly deep sleeper and a repeat snoozer...
I snooze for an hour ...and it is really loud (it has a quiet setting and I sleep through it). If I don't snooze I'm still so asleep that I would just turn it off and not wake up.
Years ago I ended up sharing a room with a friend for a while and it would drive her insane (when she was working lates and I was on earlies) but I really can't help it. Was one of the main reasons the room sharing arrangement didn't work...
Pre DC I also used to have an emergency alarm clock on the other side of the room. But without the pre- snoozing I have slept through that...stopped because the battery went flat. (now I have an alarm on my phone -but it is next to me)
DP is up and out a couple of hours before me (he is a light sleeper - his alarm goes off and it doesn't disturb me at all) unless he is on his day off - then he keeps prodding me after the 2nd snooze.
Sadly DD1 is just the same - she snoozes her alarm for ages too - in the morning mine goes off - snooze -then hers goes off -snooze -then mine then hers...until finally one of us wakes up enough to get up and then we hassle the other...
And for all those worried about not hearing crying DCs - I was really worried about that, really thought I would not wake up but amazingly I did. (Now I think maybe I should have recorded it and so I could use it as an effective alarm now...)
And I also have super loud smoke alarms and one in our bedroom as well as on the landing etc - really hope that would wake me up -but it would wake DP and probably DD2 ....

[notquitehuman]

Get him a fitbit. It has a silent alarm that you wear around your wrist and it vibrates you awake. It's great because it doesn't wake up anyone else.

[karalime]

I was just about to suggest the Fitbit as well! Mine was £45 off amazon.

[Andylion]

Maybe one of these would help.
www.thisiswhyimbroke.com/alarm-clock-carpet

[Andylion]

This one looks nicer.
www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/rug-alarm-clock-ruggie_us_568eb336e4b0a2b6fb6f218e

[NeverNic]

I admit I'm an alarm snoozer, though why anyone needs to snooze for an hour is beyond me! Like a pp I'm a bad sleeper. When I have periods of insomnia I feel exhausted when I wake and have been known to turn an alarm off without realising. I'm a very light sleeper so react before I'm truly awake. I snooze for 5-10 mins and I normally (when not in a rough patch) wake up and prepare my day - run through to do list, pick outfit, check weather and Twitter for anything in the media that might make work tough, from my bed and then get up at the snoozed alarm. During a rough patch I doze. Both ways ease me into the day. I also have an emergency alarm. It's a separate alarm time set for the last possible moment I can get up and still make the train, just in case i f up. I do take the phone with me though so not to wake anyone.

Bizarrely though as part of my sleep issues I tend to wake a minute or two before the alarm goes off, especially when I really need to get up in order to make a flight or an early train because of something important. Sleeping in prays on my mind and my dreams. I probably don't need to snooze.

My husband however would sleep through next door being bulldozed. He doesn't hear the children cry so when I do stay away for a night for some reason I put the baby monitor on high and put it on his bedside table. He expects me to physically wake him up when the alarm goes off for work

[scandichick]

In addition to a serious chat about how inconsiderate he is, you should inform him that you'll be doing the exact same thing once you've gone back to work. And follow through only once, because you're a nice person

[Violetbeau]

Oh yes, my dp used to do this, but I have instituted a strict one snooze only rule! I think no snoozes is a little harsh, personally I like to press it once myself - it's like a warning that you have to get out of bed soon!

But if I hear his go off any more than twice I get the rage. He also used to do this annoying thing where he'd get up but just sit on the edge of the bed while he woke up properly - it used to stress me out so much because I could feel his presence there and knew he was about to get up and move around making noise

I also make him pick out his clothes the night before and put them in another room if he has to get up before me so he's not banging and crashing around with the drawers

[Hoolit]

My dh was a repeated snoozer, I have awful trouble sleeping so it was infuriating and we had numerous rows.
I get up one and a half hours before him through the week so put his alarm on the landing, and threatened to keep doing it. Work a treat, harmony has resumed 😃
Although he did used to wake me coming to bed too flapping the bloody covers, who does that! Luckily that's sorted too, he's now trained to be a stealth ninja getting into bed.

[Kpo58]

I would physically push my DH out of bed if he put the snooze on like in the original post... ...and then do it every day until he learnt...

[TooOldForGlitter]

Is he resentful that you are on maternity leave and he has to 'go out' to work? I can't think of a single reason why an otherwise decent person would subject their partner to this unless they are an arsehole.

[PegsPigs]

I think the truth of it is that different people wake up in different ways. I set my alarm every morning but I can't remember the last time I was woken up by the alarm. Without fail I wake before my alarm and then wait for it to go off before I get up. So there's no 'jolting me awake'.

It sounds as though for others they wake but don't really wake up properly and hence auto snooze and need multiple alarms. I shared a flat with a girl like that who had old fashioned ringing ones going off off off. Once I'm awake I'm awake so it drove me mad as she started her lectures hours before me.

If DH did this I wouldn't have married him never mind had a non sleeping baby with him!! I hate it so much! YANBU. But you do need to find a way to stay married to him without killing him. The vibrating Fitbit sounds like it could be a good investment for your marriage!

[MockTheWeek]

My DP does this and it's infuriating. What's worse is he keeps his phone under his pillow so I feel the vibrations as well as hearing the horrid noise. He's got better and only seems to snooze once or twice before getting up but then leaves his phone upstairs (our bathroom is downstairs) so I have to find it and turn it off when it goes off again

[CauliflowerBalti]

Infuriating. Snooze is bloody awful. As someone says, waking up once is bad enough. Who wants to wake up 15 times? My partner is a snooze fan. I hate it. He has to get up 45 minutes before me but I may as well get up too as he does the 3 alarm thing then puts the big light on then turns it off then has a shower then comes back and puts the light on again and rattles around getting dressed.

Because he gets up so very much earlier than me in the week (ggggrrrr) he likes to lie in at the weekend. I get up in the dark, take my clothes out of the room and leave him to it. Because I am considerate and nice.

OP, kill him

[MrsMook]

Another repeat snoozer in my room too. Fecking annoying!

I set my alarm so I have 10 minutes to wake before getting up. I'm not wasting any precious sleep on setting it any earlier than that!

DH's goes on and on and on. He's frequently been nudged out of bed with a foot because he repeats too much to keep track of time.

Lumie clocks are great. I'm usually up before DH, and unfortunately he moans about it waking him. Hypocrite. Sadly mine's now in with DS as he's hopeless at waking up in the morning too. It's much more effective on him than any sound based alarms.

[musicposy]

Mine is set for 4.30am. I turn it off in about 0.1 of a second from it going off.

I'm not ready to die at the hand of my wife just yet.

helpfulChap my DH also has to get up at ridiculous o'clock. He has one alarm by the bed which goes off immediately, and a loud one on the stairs set 10 minutes later by way of insurance. If the stairs one goes off, I'm allowed to kill him. He accepts the total reasonableness of this deal.

It's only gone off once. He is still alive, but it was a close run thing.

[kmc1111]

I set the alarm on my phone to go off at 15 minute intervals over an hour, and I have a back-up alarm too.

I regularly manage to turn each phone alarm off whilst asleep (in these cases I never remember hearing it or turning it off). Most of the time I'll immediately fall back asleep after turning the first 2-3 off, but by the last one I'm not sleeping as deeply anymore and when it goes off I'm finally awake enough to notice the time and keep myself awake. I then need 20-30 minutes before getting out of bed, as I'm still half asleep and can't function (thus the back-up alarm, in case I fall asleep again). If I just had one alarm, I'd fall right back asleep every time and could easily sleep an extra 2-3 hours.

I really can't get straight up after being woken. The only times I've been halfway functional when that's been necessary is when something bad/scary has happened and I've gotten a big surge of adrenaline. Otherwise I'm wandering around like a zombie, falling down stairs because I have little awareness of the fact I'm moving, pouring boiling water on the bench because some part of my brain knows to make coffee, but hasn't thought to get a cup. It's not quite sleepwalking, but it's very close.

The only thing that helps is consistently getting 10hrs a night. I've tried every type of alarm, changing my diet, changing the time I go to bed and wake up, I even saw a sleep specialist (who's only advice was to get that 10hrs sleep, which is impossible). My hearing is fine, no health problems, and technically I get enough sleep.

I've always been like this. My mother tried all sorts of things to get me up when I was a kid. By my teens she's was bringing the hose into the house and spraying me with it, dragging me out of bed and into a cold shower, dragging me outside...the hose thing rarely even made me stir, and I would just fall asleep on the floor of the shower or on the ground outside.

[scarednoob]

He's just done it again this morning, although not as badly - 3 times in 10 mins. And thinks it's a coincidence that the baby is now awake too (although if she would do 9-7 straight through every night, I'd take that and run!).

His explanation was that he likes to be a bit awake and not have to get up; I'm awake and not getting up etc. Yes, because of your alarm clock!!

He's not normally selfish at all, so I think it must be a deep sleep thing. I've always been a light sleeper who doesn't need much sleep (pre baby ) and wakes up alert, so interesting to read stuff from other heavy sleepers.

Hugely relieved that the general consensus is new alarm clock or kill him. I shall look into both.

[IloveJudgeJudy]

I was a bit like your DH, but I now have a different job, with shifts, and I have to get up at various times - 1.30/2.30/3 am. I have had to change my sleeping/getting up habits. I now force myself to get out of bed at the first alarm. I do have 2 back up alarms, on different things, not just my phone. I just turn the others off so they don't disturb anyone.

Your DH will be able to change; I believe anyone can.