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That consultant said this word...

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Ozwizard · 16/01/2016 10:57

I went to the hospital to see my results from my consultant. Result of this is that I will have to have surgery that has a six to eight week recovery time. As he was explaining my condition he said that it is very common in " Negroid ladies"!!
The nurse in the room looked at me and shifted uncomfortably in her seat! And I took a second to register if he really did say that. Then I did a nervous laugh and said to him " you must not use that word" he said "what, that is what you are" " what is wrong with Negroid"? I said " stop, use another word". He said " oh I didn't know that Negroid would offend you"
Aibu that he should not have said that word?

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ilovesooty · 16/01/2016 20:27

Thank you Flat

I'm proud to stand up for what I believe in and challenge lack of awareness where I see it. It also happens to be part of my job description so I'd hardly be working in a field where there's a commitment to equality and diversity if I didn't believe in it.
Trust that clarifies too.

YouGottaKeepEmSeparated · 16/01/2016 20:28

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Supermanspants · 16/01/2016 20:28

Yes I told him. A patient to a medical professional who carried on doing it. That was wrong totally wrong

Then why in the name of fuck are you posting this in AIBU??????? Hmm

redbinneo · 16/01/2016 20:30

Doc
It means that she is illiberal in her willingness to understand the medical professional that is helping her.
I don't understand your inability to comprehend a simple sentence.
I'm guessing that you bought your PhD from a mail order university.

YouGottaKeepEmSeparated · 16/01/2016 20:31

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Supermanspants · 16/01/2016 20:31

I'm cross that the world in 2016 is still full of such unbelievably racist, bigoted, smug, stupid, evil, pig-ignorant, sneering, contemptible fuckwits.

That is the world we live in. That is the human condition. Always has been and always will so you will be cross for a very long time.
Nothing but nothing will ever change that.

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Ozwizard · 16/01/2016 20:32

At no point in my op did I say the word racist/racism. Uncomfortable, nervous laugh, taken a back. Of course we should be tolerant of other cultures and maybe the same could be afforded to a patient that has never come across that medical terminology before!

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JaneHair · 16/01/2016 20:36

I've reported you redbin and I hope you get banned.

Thanks for you OP.

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FlatOnTheHill · 16/01/2016 20:39

OP correct ....you never mentioned the words racist/racism
Yet lets be quite clear! Thats what you were implying. Agree?
It was the word negroid that you found to be offensive and have racist connotations. Agree.?

redbinneo · 16/01/2016 20:41

JaneHair:
Thank you, I've just reported you for malicious reporting.

Supermanspants · 16/01/2016 20:41

Britain has become a far less racist society, on the whole, than it was in the mid/late 20th century

Sadly I'm not so sure. I think the focus has simply shifted.

MrsWhirling · 16/01/2016 20:43

What an idiot. Was he from abroad by any chance? I recently went to a hospital appointment with my mum who speaks & understands perfectly English well, but has an accent. The whole time the Dr spoke to her really loudly and in a type of sign language!

babybat · 16/01/2016 20:44

Stratters it stands for black and minority ethnicities, (sometimes just BME rather than BAME). It's more likely to be used in professional/business jargon than in conversation. It's not likely to cause offence, but not everyone will know what it stands for.

FlatOnTheHill · 16/01/2016 20:46

OP All you seem to be focussing yourself on is this doctor.
I thought you had a medical condition that you were worried about. Or has the offending doctor taken precedence Hmm

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MrsWhirling · 16/01/2016 20:47

Anyone on this thread who think's OP's experience was acceptable, or that she shouldn't have been offended, or should have educated this Dr in anyway, needs to go on a course, or get some ethnic friends, ffs.

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ilovesooty · 16/01/2016 20:47

She said that his comments and attitude made her feel uncomfortable about him being responsible for her treatment.

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Ozwizard · 16/01/2016 20:49

Don't try and put words into my mouth. I found it offensive that when asked to not use the word and to stop that he carried on doing it. The word made me uncomfortable as it did the nurse. I'm offended that he chose to carry on saying it!

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fastdaytears · 16/01/2016 20:50

^JaneHair:
Thank you, I've just reported you for malicious reporting^

There was nothing malicious at all in that report. If there was then MNHQ would not have deleted your post would they?

I would have reported you too if the post hadn't gone already. You can report me for nearly reporting you if you like.

ilovesooty · 16/01/2016 20:50

The word uppity implies that the other person is inferior and should know their place. It's really unpleasant.

JaneHair · 16/01/2016 20:50

You are very welcome Redbinneo Grin

Seriously love, you are either a massive racist troll or spectacularly dim. Which is?

fastdaytears · 16/01/2016 20:51

Ridiculously unpleasant.

OP just know your place. You should be pleased that the clever white doctor had time to help you.