to ask someone to move their child out of my plane seat

[kipperssippers]

more of a WWYD then AIBU but...
i booked the seat by the window as i always do and when i got to my seat a child around 8 was in my seat with her mum beside her.
When i got there i told the mother that the window seat is my seat and she said her child wanted the window seat to look out, i then replied then you should of booked one.
I didnt want to cause a scene but the women made out i'm an arsehole for asking her kid to move as she had never been on a flight and wanted to look outside.
I did give in and stayed pissed off for 7 hours in my non window seat.

what would you of done in this situation?

Cats I don't know what to say to you without being rude. You are possibly one of the most self important people that I've ever come across.

If the child wanted to look out the window, I would suggest that they had window seat for takeoff, but I'd like it back for rest of the flight. I hate being bumped into the the aisle seat.
If possible, I'd let her have window seat for final descent (unless we're crossing alps in daylight then all bets are off!)

Seems a reasonable compromise

'I hadn't booked premier seats with no-one on front of me for no reason! It turned out the mother and other child were sat across the aisle and they couldn't get seats together as they'd booked late. He wasn't happy at having to move though.'

It happens. I booked a long-haul flight in April that didn't leave till 1 July and could not get three seats together at all. As it was, we got two seats together and one in the aisle behind, all in the middle of a 747. Again, my son has ASD and prefers the window, but he has to learn that in life, you don't always get what you want. I sat with him in the two seats together and 9-year-old DD behind us. Would not have expected others to swap their seats.

As it was, it was a 10-hour flight and we were sat around a group of Christian missionaries who distracted DS and helped DD open her food trays.

Personally I hate window seats if there are strangers next to me, I like to be free to get up when I need/want. I would have let an 8 year old have a window seat even if I'd booked it. It's only a seat after all, but if I had some medical or specific reason for needing the window seat I would have mentioned it and got a flight attendant to help out if needed.

Did you pay to book?

I don't consider my 'childs joy' to be the responsibility of anyone other than me, therefore I'd have also ejected child from my seat.

You wants it you pays for it.

I think I'd have swapped for take off then as soon as the 'unfasten belts' went on gone back to the window seat.
TBH there's not much to see on a 7 hour flight normally.

A day in which I crush a child's joy under my stiletto heel is a day well spent.

(This is not actually true, before people go apeshit at me. I wear DMs.)

As a mum, I wouldn't even consider asking a stranger to swap seats with my child, let alone put my child in their seat before the other passenger got on the plane.

That would be incredibly rude, selfish and inconsiderate, and a poor example to set a child.

expat. We booked the seats as soon as the seat plan was online (we booked 11 seats in total so our party could sit together for our Ds's wedding). I was more annoyed at the fathers presumption we would move. How rude.

I would not have given up my booked seat - no way no how, not for anyone.

I always pay extra to book an aisle seat if Needs be because I hate being hemmed in no matter how short the flight, it makes me feel panicked.

On the last flight I did, someone was sitting in the seat I booked and asked if he could "tempt me with his window seat as he wanted to chat to his wife who was sitting across the aisle".. You could argue that I could have done that and been nice, but I paid for and chose the aisle seat for a reason and no amount of money / paying back my pre-booking fee would have convinced me to have a window seat.

I'd have done the same whether it was an adult or a child - if you want to sit together then sort it out when you book the seats and pay for it.

My post should have read HAD booked premier seats.

The big question for me is: which seat did you end up in? If you got the aisle seat then all is fine. Otherwise not fine.

I am an aisle seat gal myself.

it was virgin airlines and i did pay for the seat

Well i should actually say my work paid for the seat not me but it still incurred a fee. I had an aisle seat in the end, they also got up like 10 times to go to the toilet which was super annoying on top of everything else

I'm genuinely gobsmacked that people have encountered situations where others have sat in their paid for premier seat.

You pay for a seat, you sit in it, end of!

The entitled fuckers that think their sob story will get them a free seat annoys the fuck out of me.

If I'd bleed in' well payed a booking fee for a particular seat I'd certainly insist on it!

I'd have got one of the cabin crew and spoken loudly about paying extra for nothing.

Do you pop up on many transport threads TheCatsMeow?

Do you have any good P&C parking tales?

Go on, I bet you do...

If it's on your boarding pass, it's your seat. If the mother wanted it for her child so badly she would have made a specific effort to get it - paying extra if needed. Fuck off with the guilt trip.

The fact the kid was already in my seat would have pissed me off. I like the window seat. I'm travel sick and it helps. Plus kids frequently get up to go to the bog as they get bored.

I would have offered to let her sit in it for a bit after take-off, but wouldn't have given it up.

paid not payed.

What a nerve.

The only thing YABU about was the fact that you let that rude entitled mother get away with such appalling behaviour.