to ask someone to move their child out of my plane seat

[kipperssippers]

more of a WWYD then AIBU but...
i booked the seat by the window as i always do and when i got to my seat a child around 8 was in my seat with her mum beside her.
When i got there i told the mother that the window seat is my seat and she said her child wanted the window seat to look out, i then replied then you should of booked one.
I didnt want to cause a scene but the women made out i'm an arsehole for asking her kid to move as she had never been on a flight and wanted to look outside.
I did give in and stayed pissed off for 7 hours in my non window seat.

what would you of done in this situation?

[Roussette]

So if we actually want to sit in a seat we've paid extra for, we are spiteful? That's a good one! Remember that when you take your little one somewhere for the first time and someone's sat in your seat and won't move!

This is all hilarious and has given me bountiful joy today

[VeryBitchyRestingFace]

If OP needed the window seat because she's disabled she could have said.

Said to whom? The child? It's mother? Or the whole of AIBU?

Why should someone have to have their medical condition with a strange child and it's rude, brass necked, entitled mother??

Otherwise it's just to spite the other person

That's some leap. Is your name actually Jessica Ennis?

[BiddyPop]

It's kinda funny, now that I've calmed down, watching this bunfight continue.

I have to ask though, if you gave a strange child (as in, one you don't know - not strange), a piece of your, say, carrot cake with walnuts, and they then suffered an anaphalatic shock due to nut allergies - is that giving the child "joy"?

And the argument about teaching children that their wants override the needs and wants of everyone else around them is also one that I don't agree with. Teaching tolerance of others, and the ability to deal with disappointment, and the need to be organized and think ahead, are all important life lessons for children.

If I was the OP, I would have said NO, and on refusal, gone to cabin crew to ensure I got what I was supposed to.

[expatinscotland]

'Luckily, I am utterly dead to tuts, sighs, pointed remarks or glares.'

Same here. And these Bose headphones I got for Christmas a couple of years ago are worth their weight in gold.

[Badlittlesis]

Oh and I'm from one of the countries mentioned as being more child friendly. . . .

And none of my very large family would have given up their paid for seat for a non related child.

The phrase Fuck off, would I let them away with that may have been used

[goodnightdarthvader1]

I have to ask though, if you gave a strange child (as in, one you don't know - not strange), a piece of your, say, carrot cake with walnuts, and they then suffered an anaphalatic shock due to nut allergies - is that giving the child "joy"?

Obviously that wouldn't happen as a nut allergy counts as a disability and SOMEONE SHOULD HAVE SAID, apparently, be it the mother or the child themselves, as ALL disabilities must be disclosed to everyone at all times. Cat would be blameless and still very very kind.

[Hihohoho1]

Oh catsI will miss this thread.

Thank you thank you for a child's joy

Now as previously stated am off to stem my dds joy and the lazy cow can tidy her room if she wants tea.

[Roussette]

How very dare you treat your D like that hiho you are hard faced doncha know?!

[cleaty]

I really want to get t shirts made up now with the slogan "A Child's Joy". Most would think it twee, but those of us in the know would be laughing at it.

[Bettercallsaul1]

Just seen that this thread is still here - trundling its way inevitably to 1000 posts. Cats/OP (for they are one snd the same) will be very happy!

Does anyone else see the resemblance between this poster and the one, some time ago, on the terrapin thread and the sheep-chasing thread, where she defended children's rights ad absurdem? I reckon she's back! MN beware!

[VeryBitchyRestingFace]

A poster who racks up two 1k threads in as many days.

Is this some kind of AIBU/MN record?

If so, this could be MN kodak moment for all of us who played our own small part in both threads.

[LoisWilkersonsLastNerve]

Dear cats

It would bring me joy if you could just admit you are a troll wrong and plane woman was rude.

Love
Lois aged 36and 3/4

[lilypadhopper]

This booked window seat thing...exact same thing happened to me the last time I did a long haul, looking at a 9hr flight ahead (8yr old sitting in my booked window seat?)

I spoke to her mum and her, and agreed that she could stay there during the 'exciting' time,ie taxiing and takeoff, so that she could take photos, but once we were airborne, up in the clouds, and drinks/food were coming round, I'd reclaim my seat, so that I could get tanked up on freebee wine and food and then zzzz. And then she could have the window seat again when we started our descent.

Everyone happy

[venusinscorpio]

Whereabouts is the train thread? I want to read it but can't find it!

[Bettercallsaul1]

All you need to read is the first two pages, Venus - after that it's deja vu.

[SuperFlyHigh]

cleaty I had the same idea a few pages back perhaps we could wear the tshirts with leopard print scarves?

[Katedotness1963]

Fascinating, absolutely fascinating!

I would not have given up my seat I'd I had specifically booked it. I usually check in as early as possible and have been asked where I would like to sit. I like a window seat because I don't get up and down on a flight. I read or sleep, out of the way by the wall.

I have given up my seat when I went and checked in early and got a bulkhead seat (the roomy ones?). A couple of hours later at flight time I was asked to move as a very tall man would appreciate the seat. As I'm 4'11" it was no difference to me so I said yes, of course.

Someone's comfort on a 7 hour flight is important. A child wanting what they want is not.

[Hihohoho1]

rousette

I know what a dreadful parent I am.

I should validate her choices to get makeup all over her bastard carpet and get her a take away instead.

That way she will learn respect and sense.

[BolshierAryaStark]

I give up the window seat for my own DC, someone else's? Fuck that! I too am imune to sighs & pointed looks..

[expatinscotland]

I'm still waiting, Cats! Will no one think of my children's joy here?

[VeryBitchyRestingFace]

As I'm 4'11" it was no difference to me so I said yes, of course.

I'm only three inches taller but if I'd been lucky enough to score a bulkhead seat I wouldn't be giving it up for NOBODY.

I'm short and slimmish but I manage to take up a lot of surface area.

[FatherReboolaConundrum]

Seems "young people and elderly people" pass the helpfulness test, though ... but hang on a minute, what if that young or elderly person happens to be middle class as well??

And what if they're from London Puzzled? Is a commuting middle class London liberal more or less of a twat than a non-commuting NonLondon cats bum-faced young person? I think a Venn diagram might be helpful.

By the way, no pressure Cats but if there isn't an automobiles thread tomorrow I will actually have to do some work, which is a bit of a worry.

[Roussette]

hiho that's the way to go, just make sure you have to drive 10 miles to pick up the particular takeaway she wants cos it's only fair. And respectful.

I'm banking on cinema seats (which I know Cats doesn't like) or more giving up cake and seats in cafes. That's just my cuppa.

[Moln]

Do you ever get the vauge sense that some posters are impertinent and obstinate?

[Puzzledandpissedoff]

And what if they're from London Puzzled? Is a commuting middle class London liberal more or less of a twat than a non-commuting NonLondon cats bum-faced young person? I think a Venn diagram might be helpful

I think you might be missing the crucial point - surely none of that can be decided unless they also have a child with them, joyful or otherwise??