to ask someone to move their child out of my plane seat

[kipperssippers]

more of a WWYD then AIBU but...
i booked the seat by the window as i always do and when i got to my seat a child around 8 was in my seat with her mum beside her.
When i got there i told the mother that the window seat is my seat and she said her child wanted the window seat to look out, i then replied then you should of booked one.
I didnt want to cause a scene but the women made out i'm an arsehole for asking her kid to move as she had never been on a flight and wanted to look outside.
I did give in and stayed pissed off for 7 hours in my non window seat.

what would you of done in this situation?

[kipperssippers]

Thecatsmeow, why do you believe strangers owe you something? I think you should "grow up"

[venusinscorpio]

I hate the aisle seat. How entitled and rude this woman was! If you want a window seat you book one. No ifs, no buts. I'd have no compunction throwing them out of my seat.

[ExitPursuedByABear]

When they went to the loo I would have moved to my seat.

[Roussette]

I don't understand why Cats is making out we are all mean for not giving up our seat to an 8 year old? Answer me ... why didn't the mother book that seat if she wanted it for her DC?

Ridiculous. No I wouldn't give it up for a 7 hour flight. You can sleep better leaning against a window and if I booked it, it's mine. If the 8 year old wanted to be in the middle and lean over me to look out the window at take off and landing, that's fine. But no way would I give it up.

How on earth are these entitled and spoilt kids going to cope when they grow up and things dont fall into place and they have to get used to rejection from jobs, irritating work colleagues or those who steal your thunder, people who don't roll over and give in to you. I am imagining a world of grown ups stamping their feet and having screaming tantrums!

[SuperFlyHigh]

Oh great now on flights I have to look forward to TheCatsMeow and her PFB sitting in my window seat (which I may have also paid extra to have booked) and being arsey about moving.

I totally agree with whoever said fuck off I'm not moving. A child's joy as well to wheel out and ram down our throats....

Haven't you peeked in NM yet TheCatsMeow? I really think you should at least try your Parenting opinions on them. they may tell you to fuck off too

[ADishBestEatenCold]

"On the last flight I did, someone was sitting in the seat I booked and asked if he could "tempt me with his window seat as he wanted to chat to his wife who was sitting across the aisle".. "

Could you not have simply swapped seats with his wife, Iliketeaagain ... you would have been on her aisle seat (instead of your own aisle seat) and the husband and wife could have sat together?

[SuperFlyHigh]

Rousette I can just tell though TheCatsMeow is entitlement and PFB taken to a new height.

Luckily most parents aren't like her (especially embellishing her bloody story about the train so we'd assumed it was shopping bags but no just parent and child paraphenalia).

But I see more of a trend whereas these type of parents become more common. UGH

[middlings]

'Child's joy'??

Doubt the child was looking out the window for seven hours. It was probably enjoying the inflight entertainment.

Would not have given up my seat.

Oh and my 2 year old has already learned to deal with disappointment. It's a life skill for fuck's sake.

[SuperFlyHigh]

Also for everyone who forgot from train thread ThecatsMeow doesn't do planning (like selfish mother on flight)...

I shudder to think what impression this gives to the child.... Yeah it's ok not to plan, but then also to sulk to a reasonable person until they give in, so you get your own way...

[TheCatsMeow]

I'm not PFB at all lol quite the opposite. I'm kind to anyone's child, I don't think mine deserves special treatment.

[Pangurban1]

If you have to pay extra seat, even the woman wasn't thinking of her child's joy when she made the bookings if it was extra for the window seat! She was thinking of her pocket.

Interesting way of getting the seat you want and expecting others to pay for it!

[MumOnTheRunCatchingUp]

Oh catsmeow you really need to drag yourself into the real world.

[BarbarianMum]

I swapped seats with ds2 to give him the window seat once. Little bugger looked out for all of 10 minutes then fell asleep. Then my seatback entertainment screen failed. Never again.

[greatbigwho]

I pay for a window seat because I want it. I like looking out the window, I like being undisturbed and I like not having people either side of me. So I wouldn't move for your child, and I wouldn't feel guilty for it either.

[SuperFlyHigh]

middlings 'it isn't like OP stomped on a child's sandcastle on purpose now is it?!

Child joy indeed...

[Roussette]

It's painful Super. Trouble is it makes me want to be horrible. I'm not horrible. Poor kids, not their fault either, they don't know any different.

Train story was beyond ridiculous, I can't believe ppl think like this!

[OhforGodsake]

catsmeow why do you persist in demanding that anyone else who uses public transport, in whatever form, is of a lesser consequence than someone travelling with children? We've all (well nearly all) used public transport when we've had our children with us, but I can't ever recall making demands on fellow travellers to give up seats/space or assistance from anyone. If it's offered, that's great, many thanks, but it isn't a right to be demanded and if you go out with that attitude, I suspect you'll actually get less help being offered from people. And some people like me would just dig my heels in and give you nowt.

[ilovesooty]

Obviously you don't need to plan. Other people should just give up seats they've prebooked so that a child's joy isn't compromised.

[bigbluebus]

I would definitely have reclaimed my window seat by the time they had asked to get out to go to the toilet for the 2nd time

I worry about the future of this country with so many people bringing their children up thinking they can have whatever their hearts desire. My DS has ASD and no way would he have got someone else's seat - he would have been told quite firmly that it was not his seat and he had to sit where his boarding pass tells him.

[Pangurban1]

extra for the seat, doubled?

[venusinscorpio]

But if I was travelling alone, I would certainly have swapped, as I don't really care whether aisle or window

Good for you. But as the OP says she always makes a point of booking a window seat which would imply that she does care, your view is pretty irrelevant to her situation.

[SuperFlyHigh]

TheCatsMeow but sticking your buggy in an entrance and exit door of a train is in a way PFB isn't it?? Well, on behalf of your child.

[Roussette]

catsmeow would you do what the woman on the plane did then? Pinch someone's seat and when they tried to claim it, make a fuss because your DC wanted to sit there?

Sounds like it.

[ImperialBlether]

The thing is that once the mother asking makes the request, everything goes tits up. If you say yes, you're resentful and if you say no, she thinks you're an arse.

There's actually no reason why she should have had your window seat rather than any other window seat on the plane, yet she wouldn't go around asking anyone else, would she?

Refer to the air stewardess, that's all you can do if you want to keep that seat.

[lorelei9]

OP no need to give up your seat especially if you booked it for easier sleeping which I think some do when it is the window seat

catsmeow, I was scared enough of bumping into you on a train after yesterday. Or should I say, falling over your buggy after mysteriously getting lost in nonLondon.