sisters relationship

[Murphyslaw21]

Me and sister have different lifestyles she is very wealthy married high powered solicitor live big detached house. Three holidays a year at least £7k per holiday (she always tell me). My hubby is builder, small house. Camping holidays. Money is tight. She has a weekly £400 food budget only food. I have £80. She has done well. But she thinks she is superior to me and we have now come to blows.

She don't get on with my hubby they tolerate each other. She charges us for Christmas dinner £25pp. She won't charge neighbours or friends. This year I decided not to go as new baby wanted first Christmas in our house. We popped over there in the afternoon to see children open presents. She has told me that because I did not go for whole day I have ruined Christmas and it can never be taken back. She has not spoken to me since.

When mum died me and hubby bought a house in the same area as her as I felt it would be good for us to be closer. Huge mistake she gets me to go out places like shopping I hate it as I don't have the spare cash. And I don't need to see her spend £100's on clothes and then lunch. I don't have money for that. But she makes me feel obliged.

We have had so many arguments that I really can't list. When I ever reply or answer back she is so insulting to me. I can honestly say I don't like her. She is a snob and very controlling I think I have had enough. Now hubby has opertunity for new job but it's going to be a relocation and i think it would be a good idea.

My friends are horrified over the way she is with me, and say I should walk away. The thing is my mum and dad are both gone. There is no aunts etc. Just us. If I walk away I'm leaving the only family I have left. I know I have hubby and baby.

Since Christmas I have added things to Facebook to try and get dialogue going. E.g posting pictures of baby. But nothing. I know she won't contact me I have to make first contact. She sent me a text Christmas evening after an awful insulting call telling me I ruined Christmas, I'm selfish and that I need to leave her alone.

I feel so alone. I moved to an area, left my friends and hubby family. I have no one here. She knows this. She has not helped me with baby. Mum helped her all the time. Things like having baby for an hour.

I'm writing this and actually thinking to myself I am such a mug. I should relocate and if she wants to visit she can.

I'm also wondering if she is on here and if so the war that will proceed.

[Murphyslaw21]

I'd be stooping her her level.

[Anaffaquine123]

My parents are dead and my side of the family consists of my Dsis and I. I feel so sad for you that you are treated this way. I will always look out for my little sister and I know she would do the same for me.
Obviously we have squabbles but nothing ever serious.
I can't believe she charges you for Christmas dinner.
If relocating is better for your family unit, do it. I wouldn't cut all ties but I wouldn't worry about what she thinks either. She doesn't seem to care about you much.

[hollyisalovelyname]

I can not believe she did not drop everything to rush to your side when you were ill, in hospital, with a wee baby to mind. Your sil came from much further afield to help out.
Blood is thicker than water but love is thicker than blood.
She does not love you.
Forget her.
Your dh sounds lovely.
Move away with your lovely little family unit and enjoy your life.
This isn't a rehearsal- you only get one shot at life.